A Place to Share our Fears, Dreams, Worries....

[LiLmIsSy]

Hey everyone...

I just thought this might be a great place to just vent our fears, dreams, worries etc with our pregnancies... a kind of comfort thread maybe?? ((ifywim?))

[LiLmIsSy]

I'll go first....

I'm really scared... lol. This is will be my 1st bub... but second pregnancy... ((I m/c late last yr @ 5 weeks)) So i'm scared... scared that it's going to happen again, scared that i'm not going to know what to do when bubs is born, scared about being a mum, scared about how our families are going to react.. i guess you say i'm just scared... lol.

After our m/c we decided that we weren't going to do anything to prevent falling pregnant but weren't going to full on try iykwim... But hell I wanted this pregnancy so much it scares me at times.. I just want to it be perfect. But my god i'm excited... I can't wait to hold our lil bub in my arms..

Ok now i know that most of that prob didn't make sense but I guess I just needed somewhere to vent it I guess...

[Cin]

I guess by the looks of it i will go second...

I think that all is pointing to the PG but am to scared to test. I know that if i am i will be due around the 16 Feb 08 (huge at Xmas, its my luck).

I am excited but at the same time scared of losing it and what it will be like, but i have always loved my friend babys and toddlers, but always knew i could give them back.

Cant wait to test, will do so at the end of the week.

Wishing everyone else the best of luck for for a sticky pg.

:smiliedance:

[briannasmum05]

This is bubby number 2 but i think im more scared this time for some reason.. with everything from pregnancy to birth - very strange.

Also scared about it being twins right now LOL

[elissas]

Also scared about it being twins right now LOL

This is something that I thought of yesterday and my heart skipped a beat!

Don't know whether I'm scared of that, but nervous. And if it was twins then worried because I'd become a higher risk pg according to the hospys (might have trouble getting into the birth centre for my water birth, though I'd be keen to do it!)

We have a strong history of twins in the family on both sides, and I told Mum when I was 11 that I was going to have twins. So it's a little background freak-out for me.

[sonlou73]

lilmissy - i kinda know where your coming from . i mc in november last year and even though i've had 2 healthy boys and great pg's, this time i feel like its the first time ~ scared. my fear is to mc again, the toilet - expecting to see something...IYKWIM.

your other fear about being a mum - believe me it will coming naturally. i didn't have any friends with bubs when i had DS#1, or any relatives with children - i wasn't loaded with knowledge, except for what i read in the mags, books and told by older relos, i wasn't even a bubhubber. you know what - i look back now and think wow i really did a good job (still are!). from the first time you see your child the love you feel is undescribable, not much else matters.

go with the flow, don't put pressure on yourself, you'll be ok.

[greenie]

I don't think you get over preg fears no matter how many children you have. I'm onto no.3, well and truely planned, but I had a huge panic attack when I got my BFP. Starting thinking I didn't really know if I wanted to be pregnant and scared ****less about how I am going to manage a newborn and a toddler at the same time.

But the scary thoughts come and go and I know I'll love my little chubba and it will eventually seem just how things were meant to be.

[Luella]

I'm a strange mix between petrified and excited. I have no idea what is happening - it's my first and I'm scared that every pain or cramp is a bad sign. I hope that after a couple of weeks, I'll calm down and settle into the whole thing.

I can't wait, but don't want to screw it up :o

[mahna mahna]

Luella, I'm feeling just the same. First baby & frightened of all the little twinges etc. I'm sure it's very normal to feel this way. Let's just try & keep our sanity until at least the 12 week mark hun!

[JaidevsMum]

Hi...this is my second and I'm still just as freaked out by all the different twinges and cramps, I'm also worried about how I'll cope with a toddler and newborn - especially since my DS is still not a great sleeper, and I feel badly for DS that he'll have to share me, we are such a little team, him and me - which is why I really wouldnt want twins cause I cant see how I could manage them and still give him anywhere near the attention he deserves.
Mel

[Bump]

This is my first and I am so scared of losing it. This is SO nerve racking. I am just hanging out for my six week scan (in one week and one days time!!!) so that I know that it is really there. Or they. We put back two embies through IVF, so possibility of twins! That does't scare me though. Two would be great, even with the risks!

[*~alegna~*]

Ok so I'll stick htis here I guess as I don't really know where else It lives.

I am 6/40 pg with #2 & I'm just not feeling confident. whether or not that is the right word or not I don't know, it feels like one big contradiction really.

On one hand...I am very big for 6/40 so am "showing" & I have had pangs of nausea & tiredness so far, there is obviously the BFT (x4) that I've got & the fact the AF has stayed away.

BUT on the hand, my BB's aren't sore, No realy M/S like DS & i generally feel very uneasy about the whole thing at the mo'

I'm booked in for a scan on Friday to rule out multiples & check dates so maybe that will settle my mind.

Anyhoo, feel better now. Thanks for listening to me dribble :o

[paulapoobum]

hi i am due in feb 08 about 26 i think i know what you going through i am about 4to 6 weeks have docs app on fri to goover everything but i dont even feel pregnant no symtems except weeing lots i acutully forgot the other day because i was so busy i think i have started to show to do i justthought i was getting fat because i get lazy when i am pregnant this is my second

[mahna mahna]

alegna, sorry you're feeling so unsure hun.
TBH, I could have written your post myself only a week ago, but then ms & tiredness hit all at once. One minute I didn't feel pregnant at all, the next minute, it's like I can't avoid it even if I wanted to!
Good luck for the scan on Friday - I'm sure everything will be ok & hopefully ease your mind.

[Shhh]

Wow! It is so comforting to read everyone elses worries! I mean, I am sorry that you are all feeling this way, but it is great to know that I am not the only one!

I am 9 weeks pregnant with my second baby, third pregnancy. I had a miscarriage 6 years ago at 12 weeks. My huge worry is that this pregnancy is so much like my first one & so different to my last. The first one resulted in a miscarriage... kwim?
When I found out I was preg with DD, I had no problem telling people straight away because I just felt so confident that I was going to have a baby. This time, I keep thinking that I am going to miscarry. When I went for my dating scan, I couldn't relax & really prepared myself to see no heartbeat on the screen. My mum & DH keep telling me that I am being silly, but I can't help feeling this way.
My OB has been fantastic & is allowing me to have another scan next week so I can see a heartbeat again instead of having to wait until 12 weeks. I think once I see the heartbeat at the next scan, I will allow myself to relax & enjoy being pregnant. And announce it to the world!!!!

Thanks for letting me get that out & I hope you all start to feel better soon so you can enjoy a happy & healthy pregnancy!

[strawberry lovemuffin]

It's comforting to hear everyone else gets attacks of the terrors about being a mum, even despite the excitement.

I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my first child and it was unplanned, but I'm happily married and after getting over the shock (on DH's behalf more than mine) we've embraced the idea our little family will start a bit earlier than expected!

We are worried mainly about practical things right now. We were planning to buy a house before I fell pregnant, now we're not sure whether to go ahead with that or if it's a foolish thing to do given we'll be down one income for quite a while. And my income is the higher one. I am trying to convince DH it's probably best to continue renting for another year, until I can get back to work and we can both support the mortgage.

But he is still very keen on having our 'own' home when the baby comes... I feel while this would be nice, it's not very practical. New baby + new house = financial nightmare in my opinion.

We don't have any savings whatsoever either, having just financed our entire wedding ourselves, and it's just a bit frightening. But people tell us it all works out, somehow in the end.

[melannh]

The fear I had throughout my whole pregnancy was that the baby was ok and developing fine - and also, how will i know what to do. Most of the time I didn't really know - and at times, I am still a little confused - but we've managed to date and it seems to be going fine.... I think, as a mother (and father) it is natural to always wonder if we're doing the right thing, and generally speaking - we do.... Although some (which is terrible) don't care (not saying on bubhub) but in general, all parents are trying to do their very best. Be confident that all is well. I would always go to the toilet - hoping and praying there wouldn't be a sign of anything. I was lucky - there never was. We tried for 2.5 years to have a baby - and to be pregnant was a shock mixed in with complete excitment.
I hope the experience is as wonderful for you as it is for me (although it can be frustrating at times.. ha ha).... Take care and wishing you the best...... :)

[*~alegna~*]

It is comforting to know that we are all feeling the same things definately! :yes:

Well I have my scan tomorrow moring & even though I'm as nervous as hell that there won't be anything there & it's all in my head I'm trying to be a positive as possible.

1 or 2 I'm happy just as long as I see that little heartbeat I'm ok:fingerscrossed:

[*~alegna~*]

Had Scan today & is just 1 emby in there. With a nice little heartbeat to go with it:smiliedance:

Feel much better about the whole thing now & the fact that I'm showing so much well..meh who cares huh?! I'll jsut be a chubba mumma! hehehe

[Bump]

Congratulations alegna! That is wonderful news. Best of luck for the rest of your journey.