View Full Version : Why You Should Be Proud Of Being A Young Mummy
SweetSerenity
13-01-2006, 16:56
I just wanted to start a thread where we can all just state positive things about being a young mum :)
I think theres so much criticism about being a young mummy that we need to remind ourselves aswell as others who feel down about it why its great to be a young mummy !! We need to stay positive and live happily!
I'll start off:
I love being a young mummy because:
I have loads of energy to run around after Petey, do all the housework, get up all through night and still love doing it all over again...
I will be 40 when peter is 21
When my little baby leaves the nest i will be at an age where i can enjoy EVERY aspect of life to keep my mind off him leaving us:( hehe
I love that even though i act older than i am, i am still able to wear all the clothes i used to without being accused of trying to be young lol...well i am ;)
I love knowing that because i'll be closer in age with him i will still be able to relate to "his" generation!
Please add whatever you girls want...We need some positive comments!
Love and Light, Nat xxx
oh nat u are such a great role modle for young mums i cant think of anything to put at the moment but ill think or something soon
it's great because if my boy leave home say when he is 20 i still have time i have another one ! lol
cobysmummy
14-01-2006, 11:08
i love being a young mum regaredless of the negativity we get from older generations...
* i can relate to his generation better (which has also been said)
* i came straight outta school and had Coby so i didnt have to put jobs and career on hold to have my family as such....
* when coby is 18 i will be almost 35 and can enjoy my free life then
* my friends will only be starting to have children when Coby is about 10 :eek:
* Coby's friends will think i am c:cool: :cool: l!! haha i hope :p
being a young mum is great!
I love being a young mum because:
I get to grow up with Jacob
When he is 20 I will only be 38 whooo hooo! :eek:
I'll be a young and fit nan (hopefully)
and again HOPEFULLY i'll be cool and my kids won't be embrassed of me lol
Love Mel xx :o
kate1971
14-01-2006, 18:04
I just wanted to stop by and say how nice it is that you started this thread.
I am not a young mum but I still think it's great.
SweetSerenity
17-01-2006, 08:08
I just thought of another one....I'll be around to see my grandchildren and hopefully great grandchildren :D
shinebrite
17-01-2006, 12:47
hey what an AWESOME idea!!!!
well the one i always think is
*I can be fit with my bubbies like taking them snowboarding and teaching them how to do it!
* when they leave the nest Ill be able to party like Im 18 again!!! xept with HEAPS more $$$$ Ill be able to travel the world!!!!! as if any 18 yr old has $$$ to do those things cause i CERTAINLY didnt
* We can wear the same clothes I might even be able to fit into their teenage shoes and clothes when they are finished with them....he he he
Ill be 42 when my first bubba is 20 and the bond will be great as i know I was 20 when my mum was 40 and were best friends!!!!!
mmmmm Im only 11 weeks but as I was writting all that I so could FEEL my bubba like it was real..... it is but u know what I mean..... THANKS
SweetSerenity
17-01-2006, 17:21
* when they leave the nest Ill be able to party like Im 18 again!!! xept with HEAPS more $$$$ Ill be able to travel the world!!!!! as if any 18 yr old has $$$ to do those things cause i CERTAINLY didnt
Thats so true!
I might suggest that to hubby....hehe...especially the trip around the world...you're giving me so many ideas Shine lol:D
Nat xx
SweetSerenity
18-01-2006, 10:56
Thats fantastic Mandy! You must be really excited about that...and your family :D
I also agree with you girls who have stated the whole "cool mum" status!
I know all my friends parents who had them young, we thought they were heaps cool and my friend have always thought my mum is so cool and great :) So we have that happening for us to lol hehe
fruitjuice
18-01-2006, 14:18
I'll be able to show my granny her great great grandchild.
We can tell who are our real friends (those who stick by us)
We can have everything in life - family, love, travel, career, and life after children.
Birth defects are halved before 25.
We'll bounce back from pregnancy better.
We can be 'yummy mummys' - lol, not that I'd say that it's a great thing to get unwanted male attention, but can help us feel a bit better about ourselves.
We can remember how to do the sort of maths kids do nowadays (to help with homework).
I remember how cool it was that my mum played cool music in the car (she was a young mum) when other, older, mums didn't. (that's not to say older mums can't be cool)
We can do just as good a job as those older people who look down on us for being so young!!!!
Sorry for butting in here - this thread being for all you young'uns - but so far I haven't seen anything that you can do that I can't do as well. At 37. Well maybe the birth defect thing, but that's the luck of the draw really isn't it? And I'll be knocking on 60's door at my daughter's 21st, but so what? What's the point of this post really?
Come on young mums - put your thinking caps on and give us something tangible to really think about!! ;)
LilShenanigans
18-01-2006, 21:31
Haven't read if anyone has posted it, but gotta write it before I forget! lol
I love being a young mum because I haven't forgotten what long nights are like, and my body is still used to them!
Hurrah! :p
LilShenanigans
18-01-2006, 21:33
And I'll be knocking on 60's door at my daughter's 21st
Well the way my family works, if I was 60 at my daughters 21st, then I would have had 2 hip replacements! :p
Any good? hehe
Remembering long nights? Yeah, cause I've heard that as soon as you turn into an older mum you stay home at night and never ever go out. And mysteriously your memory fails too.
My mum is 70 this year and has only had a knee replacement, two years ago. DP's mum is 60 and she's in perfect health. DPs grandmother is still alive and kicking at 80-something, just a touch of parkinsons.
Next?
LilShenanigans
18-01-2006, 21:42
oh bugger it then, took me long enough to think of my first reply! lol
Besides, you've got lucky genes. My grandmother has had 2 hips replaced by 70, knee replacement at 75. Great grandmother had ALL sorts of ailments - scary woman lol Great aunts all have hip probs/bone probs, males have heart problems...
Suprisingly though, my dads side seem to be quite the healthy bunch :rolleyes:
I'll think of something later and get back to ya :p
LOL!
My point being that mums are great at any age. Yes, young ones do cop a lot of critisism, but so do the oldies. ;)
LilShenanigans
18-01-2006, 21:51
hahaha I thought of one, but it's kind of mean... lol
Young mums aren't asked if it's nice being a grandmother!
lmao Oh, I'm so running from that one :p
Remembering long nights? Yeah, cause I've heard that as soon as you turn into an older mum you stay home at night and never ever go out. And mysteriously your memory fails too.
My mum is 70 this year and has only had a knee replacement, two years ago. DP's mum is 60 and she's in perfect health. DPs grandmother is still alive and kicking at 80-something, just a touch of parkinsons.
Next?
my mum is 52, works full time and about to begin study for her doctors/surgical degree :) she didnt start having us particulary young, she was 30 when she had her youngest, but none of us kids are at home now, her and dad travel, dine out, and have lots of time together, before and after we were grown. :)
my grandma is 79 and travels, dines out with friends and is certainly not lacking in the intellect dept, she is the funniest, most interesting, wise person i know, kind of insulting to assume that anyone not in their 20s is a dottering old fool who is either to tired fat or old to run around and enjoy their children/grandchildren/great grandchildren. (not that anyone has said that, but alot of the positives you guys are listing hint at the fact that if you were in your 30s or older that you wouldnt be able to do any of those things)
ps, im nearly 28 and have 4 children, so i guess i qualify as being a young mum, but im just proud to be a mum, regardless of my age;)
LilShenanigans
18-01-2006, 22:07
Ok so we're getting a bit off track here.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think the thread was started as a way of making young mums feel better about choosing to have children instead of waiting for the new 'social norm', and also cutting out their social life to some extent...
So we've established that what is listed isn't just appropriate to young mums, but mothers of all ages... goodio.
Isn't the mindset of a younger female alone enough to say they are doing a great job? Their friends may be out drinking, having fun, going to music events and exploiting their freedom, but the young mothers are plodding along happy in who they are, for their choices and yes, may be upset some days as to their lack of freedom... but then they can come here and see that it IS worth it.
Some comments may be discouraging, so let's try and keep it on track now..
-And don't worry, I'm kind of telling myself off here as well :p
point well noted Erin :)
some mums just might get a bit disheartened is all, to read the things they apparently cant do.;)
back on track, great things about being a young mum, i will have a think and get back to you. :)
Baby Girl
19-01-2006, 00:31
Why is it that us young mums didn't butt in on the 'why being an older mum is good' thread from last year and criticise why they thought it was better??? Hmm food for thought......
I love being a young mum because........
I have as much energy as my kids and can keep up with them all day long even after a sleepless night (or 5 sleepless nights for that matter).
I will still be able to havea life after my kids.
Once my kids are in school and I retutn to the workforce full time, it won't be so hard to find a job and continue my career as I will still be young enough.
I still remember what it is like in modern schools and I think this might help me to help my children deal bettter with some of the issues they may face.
and finally....
My boobs don't sag even after bf 2 kids (gravity is still fighting a losing battle)!!!
♥Heaven Sent♥
19-01-2006, 00:46
I love being a young mum because
(most of everything has been said)
*I get to expirience those gorgeous smiles so much sooner*:D
SweetSerenity
19-01-2006, 06:38
Boomtish...i wasn't trying to say that older parents shouldnt be proud, and im not saying we can do things they cant.They should be happy and proud too, but this thread is in the "YOUNG PARENTS" forum and aimed at them, not to offend the older parents...if i wanted to do that i would have posted this in the "OLDER PARENTS" forum..so what was the point of you putting a damper on this thread when it's just trying to encourage young mums who dont feel good about being a young mum, to feel good! Thats what the aim is, to boost their confidence and to stop seeing the negatives of being a young mum.:)
As far as im concerned your response was way out of line!
I dont see why you had to make that comment, wasnt even relevant!
I dont go into the older parents thread and criticise what they do in there!
Im sorry but im really dissapointed that this thread has be ruined now...if you look back, no one had anything BAD to say only good, so why did you feel the need to spoil it all??? I think your comments were quite immature as far as im concerned!
Not happy Jan!:mad:
Imogensmum
19-01-2006, 06:58
I love being a young mum (24 (ok not so young!!)) as I have a father with a degenerative disease and now he gets to spend time with his Grandchild- If i waited he wouldn't have that- and she wouldn't have a grandad!! (not that was my reason for having her:rolleyes: - but it is a huge plus for me)
She is the first baby in one of my frienship groups and so is totally spoiled rotten with attention and love- which as a single mum means the world to me because now she has many fantastic male role models! And as these friends don't have their own children i know that Imy is not fighting for 1-1 attention from then IYKWIM.
As a young mum I think the main advantage is that we haven't had to comprimise on our careers- we haven't started them as yet! Where as most older mums are in there already and not all employees are overly helpful with childrearing and workplace practices! So they SOMETIMES have to choose!
And we will get to see many more generations of our family- hmmm maybe not always a great thing:D LOL
Natalie, just wanted to offer you my support. This thread was supposed to be a positive one so that young mummies could share what they are proud of! Not a dig at any older mums:)
Natalie, I'll be a young-ish mum as well (24 when Nuggie pops out) but I think that what Boomtish was getting at is that while it's a great thread that you've made, it kind of says that if you're an older mum you're going to miss out on things, which is a bit unfair to say, yanno. In the same respect of people critising you.
I think she was just offering a fair challenge! :p
Im sorry but im really dissapointed that this thread has be ruined now...if you look back, no one had anything BAD to say only good, so why did you feel the need to spoil it all??? I think your comments were quite immature as far as im concerned!
Not happy Jan!:mad: [/COLOR]
How is the thread ruined? Boomtish was issuing a challenge for people to come up with new ideas about the advantages of being a young parent - and some have (and one very cheekily:p ) risen to the challenge.
There are no barriers on this forum that forbid young parents commenting in an older parents thread (and they do) or older parents commenting in a young parents thread (and they do). I think it is sad that there needs to be an us vs them attitude about young and old parents - both have advantages and both disadvantages. Celebrate the fact that you are young parents, but don't get angry when someone points out that your good points are the same as some of the good points for ALL parents.
Lets keep this a happy place and stay away from the name calling.
How is the thread ruined? Boomtish was issuing a challenge for people to come up with new ideas about the advantages of being a young parent - and some have (and one very cheekily:p ) risen to the challenge.
Absolutely - that's exactly what I was doing! But that's OK Natalie - I'll go hang out with the oldies in the rest of the forum. :rolleyes: ;)
yeah rach, you old bag, shoo!! ;) :p
LOL Coops! Just give me a minute, I can't quite get a grip on my motorised scooter! This new fangled technology confuses my addled old mind....
LilShenanigans
19-01-2006, 13:59
hehehe
It's good to be a young mum because by the time you get wrinkles your kids will be getting them too!
hehehe, oh boomtish, you've brought the worst out of me :rolleyes:
Bad lady! go go... broom broom awayyyyyy lol
ohhh, thats a good one Erin!! :)
i think rach has stalled the motor on the scooter, i can hear her swearing and trying to kick it, but her arthritic knees wont let her. :p
SweetSerenity
19-01-2006, 15:27
How is the thread ruined? Boomtish was issuing a challenge for people to come up with new ideas about the advantages of being a young parent - and some have (and one very cheekily:p ) risen to the challenge.
There are no barriers on this forum that forbid young parents commenting in an older parents thread (and they do) or older parents commenting in a young parents thread (and they do). I think it is sad that there needs to be an us vs them attitude about young and old parents - both have advantages and both disadvantages. Celebrate the fact that you are young parents, but don't get angry when someone points out that your good points are the same as some of the good points for ALL parents.
Lets keep this a happy place and stay away from the name calling.
Look, i think boomtish began the whole us vs them, thats what i was so defensive about! I dont care if older mums post here, or young mums post in the older parents thread, but what was the need to make a NEGATIVE comment about this thread (eg: "What's the point of this thread?") when it was made just to help young mums feel better about themselves!
Threads should stay on the topic that they are, not move onto something it completely wasnt about (ie:young mums can do things older mums cant)...that was not what this was about!!!!!!
I apologise boomtish that i called you immature, that wasn't apporopriate.
Another thing, i have NOTHING against older mums, all my mum friends (in my life) are 28 plus, so i dont like being accused of starting this whole us vs them! I dont share that opinion and never will!
So to get this thread back on track....
Im proud to be a young mummy because i get to share more than half my life with my beautiful son :D
Rainbowbrite
19-01-2006, 15:34
MJ was born 4days after my 25th birthday :) I love being this age with a bub because I dont get classed as a young or old mum, i'm just a mum. I always wanted a bub before i turned 25.
You should be proud of being a young (or more mature) mum if you love your child & do the best for them, in the end thats all that matters.
RB
It's funny, I had always classed myself as a young mum (to be!), but when I booked in for ante natal classes, they told me I wasn't a young mum......I'm 22! Turns out I miss out by a year.........
My mum has been a young mum and an old mum (I have four younger brothers - 20, 16, 9 and 4 - she is 41) and she says that she preferred being a young mum. She says doesn't have the patience with the younger two that she had with us older 3!
MJ was born 4days after my 25th birthday :) I love being this age with a bub because I dont get classed as a young or old mum, i'm just a mum. I always wanted a bub before i turned 25.
You should be proud of being a young (or more mature) mum if you love your child & do the best for them, in the end thats all that matters.
RB
so true RB. i had my first at 18, and i guess some might have 'stereotyped me' (i dont know though, i must be to preoccupied with stuff, cause i never noticed it lol!) and my 2nd at 25, 3rd at 26 and at this age i guess im not really classified as either, like you said, im just a mum, as are all great mummies :)
saara, funny you mentioned your mum having more patience when she was younger, i sooo have found it the other way around, i have much much more patience, understanding etc of my kids now than i did when my oldest was little (not saying that applies to everyone, just my experience :) )
anyway, anyone who is interested in asking questions or getting some support from someone who has been through a teenage pregnancy on their own and come out in fine form on the other side, feel free to pm me :)
It seems strange doesn't it? My mum was married at 16 and had two miscarriages before she had me (and was told that she would never carry a baby to term - yeah right!) I'm assuming she had more patience with us because of that!
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