Not sure where to start...

[kuz78au]

It's been a long time since I posted, but I kind of wanted to vent somewhere where I wouldn't feel judged.

My DH of 3 years (been together for 6), left me and my boy about a month ago. He is very angry with me and holds a lot of resentment. This came out of the blue and totally knocked me for 6. He is a very deep thinker and keeps a lot of things to himself. And it took a lot to find out the issues and they are all about me. I didn't let him stay 5 mins in the spice isle when shopping, I don't listen, I spend too much money, I change my mind a lot, etc etc. He doesn't even want me to call him. He doesn't even call me to see how our boy is. Only when it's convenient for him.

He wants a single life. He is staying with his parents atm. I know he loves our boy to pieces, but he doesn't want to see me. This is just so hard on me because I'm just feeling so hurt and unloved. I just can't believe this is the same person. Even his family and friends say that he is a different person all of a sudden.

I just don't know what to do. I need to move out of this place because the lease runs out this month, and pack up all of those memories. I took all of his photo's down except for one in our little's room so he remember's who dad is. *sob*

He will see him on weekends, I have no worry about that and know that he will help out if I need it. But it's just that all of a sudden I'm a single mum and I'm finding it hard to deal with the emotions of someone walking away. Especially when I love him so much.

I just can't believe it :crying:

[misskittyfantastico]

I can't imagine what a kick in the guts this must be. I'm so sorry that you're going through this:hugs: . I wish I had some wise words, but I don't. Please know that we're all here to listen.

[the_original_duchess]

:hugs: i am not one to give you advice right now as i am going through a similar thing right now, but am always here to give hugs, love and support when you need it.
also to talk and vent to when you need it.
i hope that you feel better, and i know there is a long journey ahead of you, but i will hold your hand along the way, as im headed in that direction anyways.
Danielle

[mum2L]

Hi Kerrie.

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment. :hugs: I suppose it is so much harder for you also because it seems so sudden and you don't really know what is going on with your DH.

Maybe he just needs some space and needs some time to deal with his issues. It is a shame that he wont really talk to you about it though because it is a little unfair to treat you like this and not let the 2 of you sit down and see if you can work it out.

I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through when you are still so in love with your DH and it must be so hard to just sit and watch him turn his back on you and to some extent your little boy.

Should you ever need someone to talk to, please PM me I am always willing to listen. I hope in time it gets a little easier for you.:hugs:

[Issey]

W@W you poor thing :hugs: :hugs: what a shock.

His reasons seem to be petty, sorry I didn't see how old your DH is? Is he going through some sort of life crisis. Sounds like it is something deeper bothering him if also his family see a 'sudden' change in him.:confused:

Usually it is some BIG thing underneath that causes the little things to annoy us, like not being in the spice isle for 5 mins. Just my thoughts.

sending more :hugs:

[OneBabyBoy]

:hugs: I'm so sorry this happened to you :(
I know how you must be feeling. I had something similar happen to me too.
It will be hard and it will be sad but believe me when I say that you will get through it, eventually you will start to feel good again. In my case there wasnt really anything anyone could do or say to help me, it just took time for me to heal. Time is sometimes the only thing that can help.
On a practical note, there is a single parents section where you may be able to find lots of support and advise from other single parents.
:hugs: I hope you start to feel better soon.

[Mum&bubs]

I'm sorry but his reasons do sound a bit petty to me also. But in saying that, they sound like one's you could maybe work out?

It sounds like he is frustrated, maybe because he keeps keeping everything in instead of letting it all out? That would drive anyone insane. Is there anyway you could get him to open up to you and tell you how he feels? Why he is so angry at you?

It's a start!

I'm sorry this has happened to you, I don't have a lot of advice but plenty of hugs :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: