I need help with wedding stuff please

[kat82]

I have a really nice pen (to sign the marriage certificate) which I brought for my first wedding (too my ex which I called off). I really want to use it for my wedding now. I love it and don't think I will fine anything elsa that I love.


So would you use it? Or would you buy a new one the same? Or get a diffter one (which you won't love as much)?

Help please,

Kat

[M O P]

hmmm, really not sure Kat,
actually I think I'd get something completely different myself

[veve]

oh use it ... but .. maybe engrave it .. so that it FEELS different .. and more special??

xx
JEn

[tomtom]

It sounds like you really like the pen, so use it. If your worried about bad vibes maybe you could go to crystal shop and find out how to "cleanse" it. I know leaving crystals out in the moon light cleanses them of any "build up" of negativity. Maybe there is something you can do for objects.

[SpecialMumma]

Personally I wouldnt use it.

AND

DH would have been upset if Id used something at our wedding I was supposed to use when marrying another man. and I think hed have a right to be upset.


What does your DH say? Does he know you were going to use it with your ex?

As minor as it is, later on down the track, it may come and and your DH may react not so well ?

I had a similar thing happen to me, but it was over a hat. My DH had a hat, which I 'claimed' and wore for months, then one day I ran into his ex and she said "oh, mick letting you wear my hat, is he?". It was a hat he'd brought for her but she'd left at his house before they broke up, and when they finished, he kept the hat. It really felt like he was holding onto the past. It caused so much fighting, it was horrible.

Can you buy one similar thats equally as nice?

I just dont want to see any kind of trouble come from it for you.


Goodluck in whatever you decide :hugs:

[mummy-with-cheeky-boys]

I say go with it if you love it you love it.

I know i got a few things that if i ever left h2b touch wood i dont but if we went our own ways and i meet someone elce and planned to get married again i would use but only if

1. I told my then new partner that it was going to be used at my exs weddng.

2. If it hadnt been used befor was still new or in packages.

If you have a problem and find your H2B dont want to use it sell it on ebay and then buy something the same.

I dont think you should not use it because its form an ex relationship.

I know its not the same but i was preg befor i met h2b and i went out the day after i found out and got all these baby clothes anyways after my ex finnished with me and i lost the baby i kept the clothes and used them on my now son.

Why let it go to wast.

All of our wedding stuff i have got on my own with out my partner being their with me so in a way it was more picked out to what i like so in away i would love to use it again.

Good luck