Share our Fears/worries

[EcstaticEm]

Was thinking today (and reflecting on a much welcomed PM :hugs: ) and thought why not haev a thread to share & support each other with the worries of preg.. There are a lot of scary things that go on in our bodies and minds.. I dont want to focus on them, but would like a place to go where we can talk about it.. share it, and hopefully through that, not dwell on it too much..

I know I get scared a lot.. Today, Im scared I might not cope as well as I think I will if Beany does have Downs. and worried if its not downs, what if its something worse. Also worried that I fel way way sicker now that I did the first 12 weeks.. Why would M/S kick in now??? What if there is something worse wrong... I hate that feeling.

Anyone else want to share?

[Moops]

I'm worried about pre-eclampsia. I have been getting really bad headaches and (I haven't posted about this before) at my last midwife appointment they found protein in my urine. They didn't mention PE to me at the time but I have researched it and am hoping its not it. I have another appointment on Monday so hopefully I will get some answers then.


I just want a problem free pregnancy!

[melbryan]

I'm worried about pre-eclampsia. I have been getting really bad headaches and (I haven't posted about this before) at my last midwife appointment they found protein in my urine. They didn't mention PE to me at the time but I have researched it and am hoping its not it. I have another appointment on Monday so hopefully I will get some answers then.


I just want a problem free pregnancy!

I am exactly worried about this too, will have to wait till the 22nd June to shed some more light on this but I will feel more relief when I know for sure.

[Kizmet]

Was thinking today (and reflecting on a much welcomed PM :hugs: ) and thought why not haev a thread to share & support each other with the worries of preg.. There are a lot of scary things that go on in our bodies and minds.. I dont want to focus on them, but would like a place to go where we can talk about it.. share it, and hopefully through that, not dwell on it too much..

I know I get scared a lot.. Today, Im scared I might not cope as well as I think I will if Beany does have Downs. and worried if its not downs, what if its something worse. Also worried that I fel way way sicker now that I did the first 12 weeks.. Why would M/S kick in now??? What if there is something worse wrong... I hate that feeling.

Anyone else want to share?

Could the nauseasnous (is that a word?!) be from you stressing chicky? I know that I have been feeling ill every now and again now and i'm 16 weeks 4 days. It is odd because I didnt have all that much morning sickness so I was a bit worried too. I like to think of it as babies way of showing me everything is still fine and putting my mind at ease when I dont feel movements :hugs:

You are a strong and loving mummy and I have no doubt whatever life has in store for you you will handle it with grace and ease! Your maternal instinct is already so very strong:hugs:

[EcstaticEm]

Melbryan and Moops :hugs: :hugs: Very very scary. Thinking of you both and Moops, hoping the protein is low enough to keep you Clear Of PE. :hugs:

Kismet, Thanks hon :hugs:

[salt water]

Em - I worry about Downs too. Even though I had the nuchal and the results were low risk, I am so aware it is a screening tool and not a diagnostic tool.
My background risk is 1:90 so it still plays on/with my mind. I really don't want an amnio though, but then I also hate dwelling on things, would probably be better to have a "yes" or "no" answer, but then that leads straight back to an amnio. *sigh*

I also worry about the birth - I ended up with a huge hemorrhage last year after she was born and am really only just dealing with that now. I remember hearing the midwife shouting "she's bleeding, she's bleeding", and the OB being rushed back in, and seeing my husband turn a shade of white when glancing at the bed (just an enornmous pool of blood, like something you would see at a crime scene on CSI) and seeing the resuc trolley being brought in and wondering "hey who is that for"...and then as the birthsuite filled with staff..the realization that it was for me :eek:

I don't think I can do it again :no:

Noosamum XX

[Harmony83]

When I was 17 weeks pregnant with my now 2 year old I had an operation to remove a couple of cyst on my ovaries, I was left with a large cut from my belly button to my pubic bone, the silly doctor decided it would be okay to take out the staples a day earlier and of course being 17 weeks my stomach was constantly growing, so near my pubic bone where they had cut had started to pull apart, it got to be about 5cm wide and 6 cm long and 1/2cm thick before the doctors took me seriously, then I had to go in everyday for 2 weeks to get butterfly stitched up to try bring it in together a bit, which they did, but the scar where it pulled apart is still 4cm long and about 2cm wide!
Because of that minor drama I have 2 fears for this pregnancy.
The first is that I will have to have a C-Section (I delivered DS vaginally) but Im worried for some reason this will be different, and I don't think I could handle another operation!
My second fear is a bit silly, in fact DH laughed at me until he realised I was actually crying (I know Im a sook - blame it on hormones) but I am terrified that as my stomach grows my scar is going to split apart, I know its completely imposssible and irrational, but I can't get the thought out of my head, I swear I can almost feel it!
They are my 2 main fears, of course I am sweating the normal stuff as well, like having a healthy bub, will breastfeeding be easier this time around etc etc!
Gosh that felt good to get that out!!

[Moops]

I am exactly worried about this too, will have to wait till the 22nd June to shed some more light on this but I will feel more relief when I know for sure.

Thank goodness someone else is worried about this too! I see the midwife on Monday so :fingerscrossed:

[Lozie]

I'm worried about needing to have a C/section i have had 2 perfect births and had the same worries the whole way thru. Also worried how the boys will react to a new baby, Jacy was pretty good with caleb but he was much younger and caleb will be nearly 2 when this one is born trying to let him know whats going on now he's very clever, i hope he will be fine.

[sandralee]

Main thing I worry about is pre eclampsia, I try not to but I DO! Have had 2X 3day headaches in the last month + 4kg weight gain with a lot of fluid in the last month + sudden bouts of nausea. My OB said there is nothing to worry about, but didn't do any urine tests on me or anything. My blood pressure has been normal - well during my OB visits it has anyway LOL. Hate being a worrywart, but sometimes it is better to find out sooner rather than later if there is something wrong. Might go into a chemist and get some urine testing sticks, so I can monitor protein levels by myself.. just to ease my mind. Would a pharmacist be able to help me with some info - like what levels are normal for pregnancy in regards to proteins etc? Is there a certain brand of urine stick that is better or easier to read etc? Thank you for any help in advance guys! xx

[mini_me]

sandralee ~ sorry, cant really help ya, But definitely talk to chemist. If they cant help they'll know where to direct you. Im petrified about having another C/S. But i know such a real possibility! I’m doing so much research into what can happen, how my body should perform and hiring a doula. But things can always happen, that i cant possibly plan for. I hate not being in control!
I share your concerns about pre-eclampsia I already have high blood pressure. My heart is really playing up and im seeing a specialist next week. Back to wearing monitors 24/7 for day to day living. And then of course what about the meds, even though my daughter was fine, im still worried what if. Then going into hospital until my breathing and heart regulates, what happens to DD, DH cant take time away from work.
But its easier not to think about, and when it creeps in ill do virtually anything to get away from it. Sounds like im panicking :hair: just very stressful.
:hugs: i think we all need some pampering!

[Shana]

I'm worried too that the Public Hosp wont give me an elective c-sec. The Ob I spoke to sounded supportive and said they woudn't refuse it and would support me in it, but I'm still a little unsure. I won't get to see him again until 36 weeks and if they do refuse it - what'll I do? I'll have to hunt around for a private Ob to do it at the Mater and I'll only have about three weeks to get it organised. That is my main concern.
Can I make an appointment to see the Mater Ob sooner regrding this? Everytime I mention it my Doc (or the Social Worker the other day) they just tell me I should talk to a midwife to ease my fears of a VB. But I don't see the point in that. I've done my research, I want a c-sec. I don't want someone to try and talk me into a VB - b/c I don't want one.
Or should I go and see a private Ob in the next few weeks and line him up in case I need him?