Mummabear
12-01-2006, 12:58
Geeezzzz - sorry girls, I wanted to do a post and then close that thread but I somehow managed to close it before I posted :rolleyes: . I'm closing this thread after this 1 post only because I don't think we need to engage in another war of words. There are some people on this forum, that no matter how you word it and how polite you are about it, simply won't back off and leave you be........
Firstly - thank you to all the Mummies out there that came to my rescue when I was at a low point. Your help and support was invaluable. ALL OF IT.
I originally posted in the No Cry section because I had very limited knowledge of controlled crying and I was scared to death of it. I went on to try some of the gentler suggestions offered but none of them worked. I did some major soul searching before making my decision - it wasn't something I entered into lightly.
If your baby is crying it is for a reason. Being a mother is a 24hr a day job, so if your baby wont go to sleep without being cuddled then do it,
Hmmm, so you know MY BABY do you. You've spent time in MY HOUSE. After our initial foray into CC, which worked, he started grizzling overnight - not crying, just grizzling. So I started going in there again. He just wanted his dummy. Nothing else. No food (I know becuase I tried to feed him), No cuddles (I know because I picked him up and he squirmed to be put back down). He just wanted a dummy, which he would reach for on his own without me (I know because I stood at his cot and watched him do it). Yet, I still kept going in there because of the guilt. He started waking more and more because I'd disturbed his sleeping pattern and because sometimes he would wake and want a quick play before going back to sleep, why not call Mummy in for a play (I know because I've sat outside his room and listened to him play in the middle of the night and then go back to sleep). Once he started waking again throughout the night he was nowhere near as well rested as when he was left to put himself to sleep. He was grumpy, not sleeping well during the day and always grizzly. I left him to put himself to sleep again yesterday, for the first time in a couple of weeks. Yeah, he threw a tantrum for a bit - but then he went to sleep. And he had a great, peaceful sleep. Last night he slept well too, I heard him wake once, grizzle, sing a song, put his dummy back in and go back to sleep, all on his own. He then slept solidly until 7am. He woke up today refreshed and happy. He's been playing really well today, and he's more awake and open to learning because he's not so bl@@dy tired all day. He's just gone back down for a sleep, on his own again, no tears, no fuss and is sleeping well.
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When your kids are bigger and they are older and its Dinner time are you going to stop that also, because it too tiring?
This has nothing to do with anything being too tiring. You presume to know why we make the choices that we do without knowing anything about us or our lives. For me it was about the quality of his sleep - there wasn't any. He was so tired all the time, and grumpy. Not much learning going on there when he's that strung out.
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This thread is now closed. Thank you again to all you wonderful women who offered me non judgemental support. We have found our peace. I hope you all find yours too.
Firstly - thank you to all the Mummies out there that came to my rescue when I was at a low point. Your help and support was invaluable. ALL OF IT.
I originally posted in the No Cry section because I had very limited knowledge of controlled crying and I was scared to death of it. I went on to try some of the gentler suggestions offered but none of them worked. I did some major soul searching before making my decision - it wasn't something I entered into lightly.
If your baby is crying it is for a reason. Being a mother is a 24hr a day job, so if your baby wont go to sleep without being cuddled then do it,
Hmmm, so you know MY BABY do you. You've spent time in MY HOUSE. After our initial foray into CC, which worked, he started grizzling overnight - not crying, just grizzling. So I started going in there again. He just wanted his dummy. Nothing else. No food (I know becuase I tried to feed him), No cuddles (I know because I picked him up and he squirmed to be put back down). He just wanted a dummy, which he would reach for on his own without me (I know because I stood at his cot and watched him do it). Yet, I still kept going in there because of the guilt. He started waking more and more because I'd disturbed his sleeping pattern and because sometimes he would wake and want a quick play before going back to sleep, why not call Mummy in for a play (I know because I've sat outside his room and listened to him play in the middle of the night and then go back to sleep). Once he started waking again throughout the night he was nowhere near as well rested as when he was left to put himself to sleep. He was grumpy, not sleeping well during the day and always grizzly. I left him to put himself to sleep again yesterday, for the first time in a couple of weeks. Yeah, he threw a tantrum for a bit - but then he went to sleep. And he had a great, peaceful sleep. Last night he slept well too, I heard him wake once, grizzle, sing a song, put his dummy back in and go back to sleep, all on his own. He then slept solidly until 7am. He woke up today refreshed and happy. He's been playing really well today, and he's more awake and open to learning because he's not so bl@@dy tired all day. He's just gone back down for a sleep, on his own again, no tears, no fuss and is sleeping well.
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When your kids are bigger and they are older and its Dinner time are you going to stop that also, because it too tiring?
This has nothing to do with anything being too tiring. You presume to know why we make the choices that we do without knowing anything about us or our lives. For me it was about the quality of his sleep - there wasn't any. He was so tired all the time, and grumpy. Not much learning going on there when he's that strung out.
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This thread is now closed. Thank you again to all you wonderful women who offered me non judgemental support. We have found our peace. I hope you all find yours too.