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*babygirl*
27-05-2007, 09:41 PM
before i start i just wanted to say that dispite what happened i still feel positive in myself with my healthy bubba and quick recovery... while the day itself was horrible, it will never affect mothers day or her birthday for me. she is perfect and life is amazing with her in it!:yes:

13th May 2007: mothers day.
(booked in on the 15th of may for a csection due to high blood pressure and a footling breech bubba.)
woke at 2am with chronic back pain and dismissed it as normal pregnancy pain... went back to sleep. woke at 9am and cooked breakfast for me and Dp. after coming back into bed with DP i felt like i was dying... my pelvis and spine felt like it was going to collapse! dp rubbed my back for the greater part of two hours before we went our seperate ways for mothers day celebrations.

arrived at mums with my siblings feeling HORRIBLE... mum took one look at me and told me to sit down. back pain increased and was coming in waves... NOTHING like how contractions 'should' feel... going by textbook descriptions but due to breech bubba i think i felt them all in my back:confused: ANYWAYS... sat around at mums until about 1. called the hospital and described my back pain which was now mingled with severe period pain and they told me i should head in for monitoring after i'd packed my bags:eek:

got on the phone to DP who was 45 minutes away and told him that dad was on his way to pick him up just incase anything happened.

arrived at hospital and was placed on the monitor while midwives filled out 100 forms lol... was shaved and told that in ONE HOUR i was going to have my baby and that theatre had already been booked for an emergency csection as i was in early labour and they didnt want it to progress... the OB on call came in and explained what was happening and said he'd see me in theatre. i started to panic that DP wasnt there... got wheeled down to theatre and was waiting while more paper work was done and DP came busting through the doors in his sexy theatre attire loaded with 4 cameras that my family had thrust at him... he had ran and was white as a ghost... she was coming two days early and we had no time to reflect or prepare.

DP was told to wait outside while the spinal was put in then someone would fetch him...
i was taken into theatre and told to curl in a ball... WHEN YOU ARE LABOURING IN YOUR BACK AND HEAVILY PREGNANT THIS IS TOO MUCH TO ASK!!!!!:mad: so four people curled me into a ball for 35 minutes while they tried to get the spinal in... 15 local injections later and MANY failed attempts they lay me down and put me under a general without even two seconds to kiss DP...

According to hospital record Aalliyah was born at 3:25pm weighing 8pound 6.... 49cm long and 34.5 head circum.

no one had informed DP what was happening... so what was supposed to be a 10 minute wait for him was nearly an hour... we both missed seeing our little girl being born and then she was taken to special care because she was breathing funny after being under general and had some fluid on her lungs...
i didnt get to see her at all until after 6 hours... then i didnt see her again until she was 12 hours old... no one would tell me what was happening.. no one informed DP at ANY stage.

dispite all this happening i am in love with my lil bubba and she is a really good girl.
dp and i are absolutely besotted both with each other and our new lil baby.

my recover has been amazing and i feel fantastic.

thanks for reading.. sorry it was so long

Tam-I-Am
27-05-2007, 09:55 PM
Firstly CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your beautiful little girl - she looks just gorgeous in your avatar.

I'm so sorry that the birth was not the experience you would have wished it to be - it sounds very traumatic for you. I think its great that you're able to separate the actual birthing process out from your little girl, and thank GOD she's here and healthy - but also don't deny yourself a time to grieve for what you wished for.

Hope your recovery is quick and smooth, and that your new life with your little girl is full of joy and laughter. :hugs:

punkbaby
27-05-2007, 09:58 PM
Congratulations as tam i am said sorry your birth wasnt the experience you expected nothing ever is though :)

At least your little girl arrived nice and safely into the world! Well done!!

mum2my4
28-05-2007, 05:38 AM
Congratulations on the birth of your girl:yelclap:

I'm sorry the birth didn't go as planned, but you have a great positive attitude torwards it.

I had a general for one of my births and it is hard because you do both miss out, and it happens so quickly.

I hope you are enjoying baby Aalliyah.

defaipe
28-05-2007, 08:26 AM
congratulations on the birth of your daughter aalliyah. gorgeous name :D
you have such a positive attitude which is fantastic IMO and would have definitely helped with the recovery.
i wish you & your baby girl all the best! Aalliyah sounds like she has an amazing mummy.
take care

danielle13
28-05-2007, 08:30 AM
CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your beautiful little girl :hugs:

I'm sorry the day didn't go according to plan but what a wonderful mothers day present!

It's great that you have such a positive attitude to such a frightening experience :thumbsup:

miss ani
28-05-2007, 09:28 AM
sweetie, as i've said before i'm so sorry the birth wasn't a pleasant experience for you... but i'm constantly in awe at how positive you've been about the whole experience!! :yelclap:

little aalliyah is perfect!

btw - see my post for a stupidly-long birth story!! LMAO! i got a little carried away!!

*Chels*
28-05-2007, 09:40 AM
Congrats on the safe arrival of your daughter.She is absolutely gorgeous!!Im sorry that the birth didnt happen the way you would have liked,but like the others have said,you have a great positive attitude.
Take care:hugs:

ButterflyMama
28-05-2007, 10:10 AM
I feel really bad that you had a horrible birth experience. I did as well and I have come to the conclusion that it's something that takes time to get over. A lot of people have told me "well it was all worth it I'm sure" and yes this is true but in the end a lot of went wrong for me (and for you too I'm thinking) could have been prevented. It's not fair. If you want to talk PM me anytime.

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter!

mum2L
28-05-2007, 10:26 AM
Congratulations on the birth of your little girl! :smiliedance:

I am so sorry to hear about your labour experience and that it didn't turn out how you would have hoped. :hugs:

I think you are a very strong person to have been through an experience like that and are so positive about it today.

Enjoy your little girl and being a family!

*babygirl*
28-05-2007, 01:08 PM
thanks everyone for your replies...
i do not need to grieve... everything happened that i did NOT want to happen but i wont dwell on it at all... it was one day... im a little sad i didnt get to see her straight away but these things happen. i know it wasnt the fault of the midwives or doctors... it wasnt even my fault... no one was to blame for the way things happened and thats why i cant grieve... i have no negative feelings because there is just no where to direct them and im much better off without them:yes: thanks again ladies.

Tan-mumof3
28-05-2007, 01:17 PM
Congratulations an the birth of your little girl :yelclap:.

Bep
28-05-2007, 06:59 PM
Congratulations! Well done to you!

Lisa&Davey
29-05-2007, 10:27 PM
Thanks for sharing your story. You have a very good outlook on a rather crumby experience.

Enjoy that gorgeous little girl!:yelclap: