Feel down

[AnaBea]

Hi all....I feel bad posting for the first time just to say I'm feeling down, so I'm sorry in advance.
I live away from my family with my husband in
QLD (our families are in WA), and we're expecting our first baby in 4 weeks. Lately I've been so tired, still working full time, and everynow and again I've been feeling like just crying...and I need just someone to give me a hug or something like that....but my husband distances himself away from me when I look like that because he says it's not constructive for me to feel like that and if he comes and tries to talk to me he feels he is encouraging negative behaviour. Which makes me feel worse!! He says it's too frustrating for him to talk to me when I'm like that, so he leaves and goes to another room. Later he'll ask me if I'm "over it" or "back to normal" and then he comes back and sits with me. Is this a man thing (a psych nonetheless!), I mean, would I get my emotional needs met if I had my sister, mum and friends about? Probably.....it's very hard to feel like this and know that the one person you have around you thinks you're being silly for feeling the way you do.....*sigh*. Anyhow, like I said, sorry for the vent. I'm glad I found this site, it helps to know I'm not the only one riding the rollercoaster of emotions.

AnaBea

[natasha]

I wish I was there to wrap my arms around you, give you a big tight hug and tell you that you aren't alone.:hugs: :hugs:

Men just don't get it sometimes. I really feel for you hun...:hugs: :hugs:

[HouseOfBlues]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

Welco0me to bub hub.
You will get lots of support around here.
I hope you feel better real soon.:hugs:

I am 40 weeks preg and feeling so tired and over it.
I hope the rest of your pregnancy is enjoyable.

[misskittyfantastico]

It's soo hard being away from your family...I'm only 7 hours drive from my mum and I find it terrible. My DH as wonderful as he is, isn't a) a woman or b) my mum!

It's really important to build yourself a network of support, I reckon Bubhub has saved my life some days, it's somewhere to vent and to find that support - never underestimate the power of a cyber hug!

I'm sorry you're feeling so yuck at the moment, just remember that there are always people here to listen:hugs:

[TwoBlue]

Just here to say welcome and offer some more hugs :hugs:

Dont stress love.. you have US now !!

[AnaBea]

Thanks girls.
I appreciate all your kind words. I may not be able to see you all, but I feel a lot better. Had a big chat to my sister on the phone as well, and that made me feel monumentally better also. How do women out in the bush with NO internet do it?? I have nothing but utmost admiration for them.

Thanks again.

[misskittyfantastico]

Dial up:thumbsup: :hugs:

[motherhoodlmb]

I definitely agree about trying to build up a support network. I've had friends for years and I know them and their strengths (and weaknesses), so if I'm upset, happy, sad or whatever, I know which friend to turn to.

Same with my partner, he is wonderful in some ways and deficient in others (in the nicest possible way :laughing: ), so I try and work with his strengths - though that's not easy when most of your friends are working full time and you're at home with kids; sometimes I expect him to be everything for me which of course he isn't.

Perhaps just tell him to give you a hug when you're feeling like this and leave it at that and come on bubhub or build a network in real life and use that - in fact I urge you to build that network in your new state because you'll love that support when you become a new mum!

Probably trying to get him to be sympathetic to whatever your teary needs are is like a male trying to get his wife to love footy if she hates it. Though I love footy but I hope you know what I mean...

Take care.