pegasus
26-05-2007, 01:13
Well this was originally going to be a vent thread about my hubby's ex, but after some messages from my DSD, it's turned into an appreciation thread for her.
It all started with a call this afternoon from biomum of my DSK's. We were supposed to have DSD for the weekend, but we've all been :barf: (DH, me, DD, and DS). All getting better, but DH and DD were still :barf: yesterday. Anyway, biomum called me and asked if we could have DSD this weekend as DSS is staying at a friend's and she needs a break. I'd spoken to DSD during the week and she had said she was sick with a virus too, so all of us though access this weekend was off.
I told biomum this and ended up copping an earful of abuse about how it's always about us and we don't care about the kids etc. I tried telling her that my 10month old can't deal with a 2nd virus as she's already sick and hasn't had all immunisations, but got hung up on.
Here's an example of a SMS I received from biomum after I said this: "Who cares, you knew *** had to other kids when you got with him i have to got to hospital its always about your kids well i dont care there *** kids why dont he start showing it"
I then told her not to contact me as I would look out for my kids as they only have me as a mum, and told her to contact my DH in future - here's my reply: "There going to be nothing to contact about dont contact the kids again i mean the hole lot of you **** and is family do is upset DSD and DSS if only you all knew What they think but you dont because you never see them"
I resisted a lot of what I wanted to say to this (spelling and grammar is as it appeared to me). Instead I decided she had no right to tell us we couldn't contact the kids (they're 12 and 14) and sent my own message to DSD: " We've been asked not to contact you but if you need to talk -message and we'll call"
Left it at that and called MIL for a vent. Turns out she had a phone call from DSD last night and biomum has broken up with her boyfriend again (he's moved back with his mother). That made a few things clearer to me.
Anyway - I then got a message about 11 tonight from DSD saying: "Hey gudnite evryone how is dad i heard he was sick aswel" So I figured she did it off her own bat - don't know if she's staying at mum's house or a friend's but it has been her choice to contact me.
Anyway - we've now talked / messaged tonight and she gets it!!! All I sent her back is that we love her and know she's going through a difficult time at home and hope to see her soon.... Her telling message was: "Yes i no that love use al to and i wana cum c use al aswel i hope DS and DD stil no hu i am and how much i lov em mis n lov use heaps mwa"
We have gone on to talk more than this but you get the drift....
PS I've used the exact language and spelling used in the text to make sure nothing is lost in translation.
Now - who wants my step daughter to give a huge hug to???
I wish she was here - she needs that hug soo much!!!
It all started with a call this afternoon from biomum of my DSK's. We were supposed to have DSD for the weekend, but we've all been :barf: (DH, me, DD, and DS). All getting better, but DH and DD were still :barf: yesterday. Anyway, biomum called me and asked if we could have DSD this weekend as DSS is staying at a friend's and she needs a break. I'd spoken to DSD during the week and she had said she was sick with a virus too, so all of us though access this weekend was off.
I told biomum this and ended up copping an earful of abuse about how it's always about us and we don't care about the kids etc. I tried telling her that my 10month old can't deal with a 2nd virus as she's already sick and hasn't had all immunisations, but got hung up on.
Here's an example of a SMS I received from biomum after I said this: "Who cares, you knew *** had to other kids when you got with him i have to got to hospital its always about your kids well i dont care there *** kids why dont he start showing it"
I then told her not to contact me as I would look out for my kids as they only have me as a mum, and told her to contact my DH in future - here's my reply: "There going to be nothing to contact about dont contact the kids again i mean the hole lot of you **** and is family do is upset DSD and DSS if only you all knew What they think but you dont because you never see them"
I resisted a lot of what I wanted to say to this (spelling and grammar is as it appeared to me). Instead I decided she had no right to tell us we couldn't contact the kids (they're 12 and 14) and sent my own message to DSD: " We've been asked not to contact you but if you need to talk -message and we'll call"
Left it at that and called MIL for a vent. Turns out she had a phone call from DSD last night and biomum has broken up with her boyfriend again (he's moved back with his mother). That made a few things clearer to me.
Anyway - I then got a message about 11 tonight from DSD saying: "Hey gudnite evryone how is dad i heard he was sick aswel" So I figured she did it off her own bat - don't know if she's staying at mum's house or a friend's but it has been her choice to contact me.
Anyway - we've now talked / messaged tonight and she gets it!!! All I sent her back is that we love her and know she's going through a difficult time at home and hope to see her soon.... Her telling message was: "Yes i no that love use al to and i wana cum c use al aswel i hope DS and DD stil no hu i am and how much i lov em mis n lov use heaps mwa"
We have gone on to talk more than this but you get the drift....
PS I've used the exact language and spelling used in the text to make sure nothing is lost in translation.
Now - who wants my step daughter to give a huge hug to???
I wish she was here - she needs that hug soo much!!!