What to do??

[acroning]

Hi all
Im due in November and have been having terrible ms and fatigue from about week 6 its emotionally and physically draining and i was just wondering if any of the other mummies due in november knew when there were going to finish work? I only work 3 days a week but am struggling to even do that!!

[Kittylou]

You poor thing!! I don't work but am a full time uni student so I'll be finishing up at the end of this semester because the second semester doesn't finish until after my baby is due. Only four weeks to go!!!! Of course I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do with myself for all that time - DH expects us to have the cleanest house and gourmet meals every night until the baby is born, I think!!!

[Hoping]

So sorry to hear that you are suffering terrible ms and hopefully it'll go away soon.

I'll be working until the end of September and taking October off. My bub is due around the 1st November so I'll have 4 weeks before due date. I think by then I will be really tired and driving to work will be a real big pain. I'll finalise leave closer to September though cause one of my friend's said that you need at least 6 weeks off before bub is due cause its hard to get around at that time.

[acroning]

I was thinking finishing up around september as well if i can even last that long, i keep getting told that it will all go away soon and i cant wait until it does!! well i think i just needed to vent as everything seems like such a struggle at the moment, not to mention i have considered permanently putting a peg on my nose as i cant stand even the slightest of smells, that sets off the ms big time!! aahhhhhhhhhhh what to do what to do!!

[Hoping]

acroning: Yours is an ivf bub right? (so is mine) I remember that you fell preg first round as well. I guess the best comfort you can get is that your bub is doing fine and growing just like it should. My v.mild ms disappeared completely at 14 weeks so hopefully you don't have too long to wait before you feel better. Sending you big :hugs: I was told that ginger (biscuits, ale, tea, candy) is really good for nausea, but since I don't like the taste of ginger (except when it is in stir fries) then it wasn't an option for me. I'm sure you've probably already tried every remedy under the sun, so just hang in there...

[Kizmet]

no advice here hun but hang in there it will get better :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[melbryan]

Hope you're feeling better soon I am finishing up on the 1st Oct I work 3 days per week and will really need the rest. Try and rest it will pass hopefully.

[acroning]

thanks all for your :hugs: yes I fell preg with my first ivf try - we were very lucky as i know people have tried many times and still no luck, I was going to try and stick it out for a couple more weeks to see how I go if it doesnt get any better I will speak to hubby about work and see what we can come up with, I know money is very important to him so for me to give up work so early makes me feel really guilty! but im sure what i choose to do will be the right thing in the end, today im feeling pretty good so thats a good thing mind you i have been popping the maxalon today!! I keep thinking to myself once i start to feel the baby move i'll feel better!

[mummy2sophie]

Poor thing, I still have ms, although this is becoming less and less frequent.

I'm not working this time round, but I remember what it was like with my first pregnancy. I think it depends on what you do. I'm a high school teacher so had to give up at the beginning of the 3rd trimester as I was on my feet all day and physically could not cope with my job any longer (think Sydney December with no air conditioning!!). It was great timing though because I managed to stay on until the end of the school year and my students were wonderful.

Reading a great deal about pregnancy and reading out bits aloud to DP really helps him understand exactly what you are going through. You can say, "did you know my blood volume increases by another third whilst pregnant! No wonder I feel so puffed and tired all the time." etc...:yes: I was lucky because my DH read all about pregnancy and was hugely sympathetic and managed to get to quite a few of the ob appointments.

Perhaps talking to a financial planner or drawing up a budget can help you both figure out a way of saving on daily costs whilst you stay at home. For example we saved a great deal on take away because now I'm home we hardly ever have it! Small things like that can help quite a bit, surprisingly.

As for the ms I have no solutions. Only that when you feel reasonably good get as much work/housework done as possible. And try to squeeze in a nap everyday....I did this with careful planning nearly every day at work. I worked at a Catholic school and would nick down to the chapel where I had hidden a couple of pillows in the choir area and would wake up either to the bell or my mobile phone alarm.:laughing:

And don't be proud...tell your boss and workmates that you feel really sick and could they help out, take up any offers of help. I had a very understanding boss, very lucky.

Good luck.

[4tiggers]

Hoping and acroning, I am a November to be mum and this is an ivf bub also. I was so sick, all day even before the all telling bt. I only worked 3 days a week but after 11 weeks I finished up at work ( it was the end of the school term). I felt after all the injections, poking and proding, dissappointment( we miscarried our first ivf bub) and now all day nausea, that I deserved some me time to enjoy being pregnant. I want to remember every little detail, not worry about work as this will be our only bub, not doing ivf again. Everyone is different but I dont think you should feel guilty for doing what feels right to you.