Clucky again!

[Gemma]

Did you guys get clucky after your bubs turned one?? I want another baby...I miss the cuddles where they don't try to get away, baby smell and when they grip your finger so tightly in their hand. I love Grace to bits but I miss my little baby :(

How did you guys get over the cluckyness because I don't want 2 under 2, I wanted a three to four year gap!

HELP
Gemma.

[jakobsmum]

;)
I am so clucky too. I keep thinking I want another now. But then I think, there will be twice as many nappies, even more washing, having to juggle a baby with Jakob, who is a long way from being more indenpendent of me. I can also remember how tired and sick I was whilst pregnant with Jakob. Though it was worth it all. :D

The way I keep talking myself out of it, besides being on depo provera, is that this is my only child that I will have such quality time with. He has grown so quickly I can't believe he is 1 next month. Before I know it he will be 2 and maybe then we will start trying. Time flies when you're having fun! :p

[Gemma]

Thanks Sarah. I'm glad I'm not the only one :o

Its so weird, you know that having another now would be the wrong thing to do, financially and for Grace sake and yes the nappies, the washing, the vomiting, back pain, only eating dry crackers...what was I thinking??, but the feeling is soooooo strong! :eek:

Before Grace, I never understood mums that had one baby after another and so on, it just seemed ludicrous, but now I think maybe they couldn't help themselves...in love with their babies :)

I will just have to be strong for Graces sake, thanks for relpying.

Gemma ;)

[mamafelix]

Yes and don't forget that toddlers can be big handfuls- Felix is 18 months and I love him to bits but I am sooo glad I'm not tired and pregnant and don't have another little baby to look after right now- he needs all the attention I can give him. I'm thinking a three year gap will be about perfect- close enough to still be friends, but old enough to do their own thing too.

[wilsmum]

i think that 3 years is actually the "recommended" age gap. to me personally a 3 year age gap makes sense and fits in with the way i view my future....however i think that the timing is different for everyone and you have to do what keeps you sane - whether that be have a gap or get it over and done with quickly!

[Gemma]

thanks everyone!

[EkBarrett]

Hi,

I know what you mean, when my little boy turned one I was so clucky, but was determined to hold off until he was two, I am glad I waited, when he hit 15 months he become a true toddler, wearing me out and testing my patience with tantrums :-) thankfully he is 20 months now and a lot more controlable but I am glad I fought back the urge to get pregnant, because I honestly dont think I would have coped if I had been pregnant as well, We are now planning to start trying within the next twelve months, I just hope I am ready for baby number 2 :)

Emily

[Sharon]

We have 2 under 2, a 20 month old and a 4 month old, both are boys. If we knew now what we didn't know then we would have waited. It is just starting to get better. Its hard work. But we love them to bits and wouldn't change a thing.

Next baby is definately 3 years away before we start trying again.. lets see if I can wait that long. If I get too clucky my husband will remind me of how difficult it has been and I need to give my body a rest.

If it happens it happens.

[Kim]

Hi Gemma,

I know exactly what you mean about the smell - I just love breathing them in when we have a big cuddle. I have 2 children under 2 (Madeline 21mths and Michael 4 mths - he was a lovely surprise when my daughter stopped breastfeeding) and although this may sound crazy, it's easier than you may think to have them close together.

Although it does mean a lot of work because they are both essentially reliant on you for everything, you get rid of all that sleep deprivation in a few short years instead of having to start from scratch once you've had a taste of the good life (i.e. a full night's sleep!), and you avoid the behavioural/jelousy issues that you may encounter when your first child is 2.5-3yrs.

I'm even considering getting pregnant again as my little boy is so big for his age that I don't think of him as a little baby anymore! I say let the cluckiness take hold and go for it!

[Gemma]

No, I am determined to wait. I'm not so bad now, but a couple of weeks ago I cried when the pregnancy test came back negative. And Grace is so much fun now, no I am going to wait! :)

[lily'smum]

Hi Gemma,

I hear ya! When Lily turned one I was so proud of myself for keeping her alive that long, but also sad that my little baby was growing up.

I am desperately clucky - there is nothing on this earth as special as giving birth and caring for your own child. Their smell, the way they look deep into your eyes...

My husband doesn't want any further children (I have 11 + 13yo step children) and it seems the cluckiness gets harder to deal with.

You can make the wait - it'll be SO worth it when you've given both your children the love and attention they need as babies. All the best!

Lily's Mum
xx :)

[Katiab]

Hi Gemma,

I had 2 under 2 (they are now nearing 1half and 2half), my second was born 2 weeks before my first turned 2 (what was I thinking :eek: )

They were a handful and you forget the sleepless nights etc but they are turning into great pals and play together as well.

Being a single child myself I didn't want just one.

We are looking at having another one next year at the moment as I was pregnant when Opal turned 1 I didn't get clucky but I am extremely clucky again now.

Let us know how you go.....

Cheers

Katia

[jomias]

Hi Gemma,
I really don't think there is any cure other than spending time with mum's that have a few young ones close together, total mayhem!!. I have three, Jorgia 4, Mitchell 3 & Asher 1. I was desperately clucky for my youngest. For the life of me I just couldn't think of anything else. It is wonderful but totally chaotic! Brushing their teeth is like planning a holiday!
Goodluck
Lisa.