19 months old and just wants Mummy...

[rynosmum]

Okay, just when I thought we had this toddler thing ALL worked out....

DS has always loved 'nigh-nigh' time - would give Daddy a kiss and cuddle and run to his cot so I could put him to bed. He also loved Daycare and used to get so excited that he would drag his bag to the front door so I'd hurry up.

In the past few days though, he has hated going to bed (would much rather play) and has stood up and cried out to me (although within less than a minute of me leaving he strangely settles and goes straight to sleep), he has also been crying for the past two days when I've dropped him at Daycare.

It this just a phase he is going through or is it because we've spent ALL of our time together over the past 4 weeks at Christmas ? I love him dearly and I hate causing him this distress. What are other 19 month olds up to ?:confused:

[Imogensmum]

Oh how horrible for you-

I know when i was in daycare the children were often quite out of sorts when we returned from the 2week Xmas break.

Children thrive on routine (well the majoratey) so when there routine is changed their behaviour also changes. With persistance and reassurance it should only take a few days to a week to get your little one back into his comfort zone.

(p.s- you don't have to listen to me cause i suck at the sleep thing- so my routine theory may not work:rolleyes: but that is just how i found most of the toddlers in daycare)

best of luck

[Supermum]

Ryno'smum - mother of another 19month old here. I also just spent weeks at home with both of my children and my daughter has become such a mummy's girl during that time.

She's clingy, whingey, won't go to Dad and just wants Mama, Mama, Mama. She follows closely wherever I go to the point where if I stop dead in my tracks she runs into my backside!

I also have a nearly 3 year old and I distinctly recall he went through the same thing at around the same age. I'd say it's just a phase amplified by all of the time you've been able to spend with him recently. It appears all is normal - he just wants his mum.

Good luck!

[funnyfarm]

Aaaahhhhh ladies, you are making me feel normal again. My daughter is doing this aswell. Rynosnum, i think our kids are whispering to each other about what to do next to confuse us poor mummas.

I was thinking an age thing aswell and she should grow out of it (hopefully by the time she is 5).

it has come to the point of when i need to go to the toilet, i have to run and quickly go and hopefully i am nearly finished by the time she makes it to the toilet door to be picked up.

I am also nearly in robot mode that when i see her coming i get down low to give her a cuddle and pick her up because i know that this is what she wants ( i now don't have to wait for the winge to know that she wants to be cuddled and picked up).

Janet.

[nemosmum]

Good advice girls, you took the words right out of my mouth lol :D

Young children have a very different concept of time to us adults, 4 weeks probably seems like a year to little Ry!

Like the other wonderful mummies have said, with persistence and lots of mummy cuddles for reassurance he should get back into the routine in no time :)

I am actually having the opposite problem, as O has now been home with "Just Daddy" for the last 2 weeks thats who he wants all the time :eek: if daddy goes anywhere without O, O freaks out and cries and is basically a mess till Daddy returns!!!

O will let me cuddle him but if I go to leave he smiles and waves goodbye :( like he doesnt care.....

I am not looking forward to taking him back to day care next week, he is going to have some serious withdrawal issues from "Daddy!"

S

[rynosmum]

Thanks Girls, you always make me feel normal again and less stressed. Ry had a great day yesterday but I picked him up at 2 and he played with Daddy until I finished my work. He was calm and relaxed and DH offered to put him to bed as it would be simple....

Well, the crying and screaming happened again - Ry stood up in the cot, arms outstretched and crying. We shut the door and I timed it. He was asleep within 45 seconds. Weird - I would expect that if he was truly distraught, we would have a real event but he kinda realises that it is bedtime so does his best to stay up but when he knows that isn't going to work, it's straight to sleep...odd. For his two day sleeps, there is no problem at all - he's straight to bed.

I had DH take him to Daycare today so we'll see how it goes.

I do miss my little angel but over the past month he has learnt so much and communicate so much more - I think he's just settling into his new abilities as well.

Thanks again - I'll keep you informed !:D

[ElectraJewel]

Yup! I TOTALLY know what you are talkin about. Our DD is very much a mamma's girl...always has been. No privacy for anything anymore....toilet.....she's there trying to sit on my lap....I have to pry her off me in order to go into the shower...I have to sneak out of the room (while DH is looking after her), but when she realises I'm gone...she runs to our bedroom door yelling out "mamma! Mamma!"...it totally breaks my heart.

About the sleep thing.......I am so sorry to hear that this has become a bit of a difficult time for you lately....but just to make you feel much better.....our DD has never ever liked sleeping......much at all.......she cries going into the cot (sometimes for up to half an hour) and she cries (not always...but mostly) when she wakes up.....at around 4- 4.30am EVERY morning. Sad really....but we just accept it and get on with our very early start to the day :) The birds sing so lovely at that time of the day......or maybe I"m just totally nuts at that time of the day with sleep deprivation :) Anyway, I hope you feel better about your current situation :)

[rynosmum]

Hi Girls,

Just an update on little Ry. He's baaaccckkkk !!!

For the past two nights, I have put him in his cot and he has had a little giggle then said 'nigh nigh' and gone straight to sleep.

He had also started to get upset with his bath and we are still working through that. We noticed the other night after a teary bath episode that he had a bit of nappy rash so I think he's associating the bath with the pain he had that night. That's okay - we'll ease him into that.

Thanks so much for your support - it made this phase so much easier !:D