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I love being a stay at home mum! I am extremely old fashioned and don't believe in child care, for our family at least. I can see myself returning to work when we have finished having children and the youngest is at least in year 5. I am just struggling at the moment with my husband about the work I do and how tried I am. He thinks I can sit on my bum all day playing with the kids and can have a sleep whenever I want. He does acknowledge that I work hard long neverending hours but he always seems to be competing against me telling me I have no idea how hard it is to work a full time job. Do I keep reminding him that I have worked a full time job, put myself through uni and looked after my dieing mother all at the same time? I gave up my job to be a full time mother and don't forget it for a second but how do I get my husband to realise that life with the kids constantly is hard and tiring? How do I get him to see that without me running the house and him working our lives would be down the drain, that we are both equal? Without my Mum and without friends that are stay at home Mums (they all work!) I feel very shut off from the outside world at the moment. It would be great if someone could give me some advice. I love my husband but I can't keep battling with him for recognition.
Please help me!!!:crying:
:hugs: For you!!
Many men dont really understand how draining being a SAHM can be.
The best thing that taught my hubby was leaving him with the kids all to himself for a few days. A week would have been better though. Now he appreciates me a lot more :)
Dr Phil says that being a SAHM is equivalent to working 2 FULL time jobs......
All the best!
I love being a SAHM too...although I am hoping to be WAHM soon....
I am not old fashioned, I just dont want to work...especially for someone else so I can make them rich...:laughing:
I couldn't imagine leaving DS either...I miss him when he is asleep and can't wait for him to wake up :o :p
I love being a sahm because my kids know that i am there for them whenever they need me. My mum was a sahm as well and i felt so good(cannot think of a better word) anyway just knowing that she was there when i got home from school was such a big plus for me. And thats the way my kids will be brought up.
:hugs: For you boyzmummy... I was going to suggest that maybe you leave your husband with your children for a weekend on his own (at least during the day time) and see how he goes.. Oh and dont forget to remind him that its not just a matter of watching the boys either, he has to make sure that all the washing, cleaning, shopping, bill paying etc is done whilst spending lots of quality time with his children also..
I am with you.. I dont believe that either job is more important than the other.. I have said this somewhere before.. I believe that your job is sooo important in the fact that you turn the house into a home that is comfortable to live in, cook the food that is required for living and take care of the most prcious little darlings you will ever have.. And his job is important in the fact that he works to pay for the house, food and things that are needed for the children..
Tell him its not a competition.. He has his employers to give him recognition for his work whereas you dont have anyone therefor need it from him.. I love it when I get recognition from my man..
Anyway hope this helps a bit.. Good Luck..:thumbsup:
I also LOVE being a SAHM !!!!
Although my hubby does appreciate me after staying home for 4 weeks with us!!!
I love it...done it twice, once from 21-27 and now from 36yrs old. This time is better by far but both were good times and wouldn`t change for anything!
I absolutely adore being a SAHM!
There is the odd hard day but i find it pretty cruisy espesh second time around.:yes:
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