Miscarriage and the after

[Tasha83]

I had miscarriage just 2 days before mothers day. It was a huge disapointment, loss and huge feeling of sadness. My husband and I had been trying for a few months and to have now miscarriaged is like a big kick down. :thumbsdown:

So after it all I sit here and think to myself about when will it be right again to concieve.. Will I only ever have 1 child.. If I try to concieve again will it be another miscarriage.. am I, are we, not ment to have another child.. :confused:

These are not excatly the nicest thoughts in the world to be asking yourself, but I am guessing im not alone in what I think?

I was feeling lonely in what happened to me, but there are many of us out there that this has happened too. Unfair it is, and I only wish all of us, who have endured this, much love and a heartfelt hug to give us the strength to keep on going and to never give up. :hugs:

Thanks very much for listening to me

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: Tasha.. you are soo right that your not alone in feeling that way. Not that it helps some days.. I think you loved and tried for months to have your beautiful second child.. and sadly, they left you.. its not anything wrong with you, or your beautiful bubba, Just Mother nature in its cruelest form.. bad things sometimes happen to good people. I needed to cry for several weeks before my loss even felt real.. Dont ever beat yourself up for how you grieve..

Sending so much strength your way, and so many prayers to your angel baby.

[Duchessa]

Hug to you Tasha, it is awfully disappointing, sad and totally unfair. Come and join us in the miscarriage support thread (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=1482016#post1482016) to get some understanding and support. :hugs:

[Tasha83]

Hug to you Tasha, it is awfully disappointing, sad and totally unfair. Come and join us in the miscarriage support thread (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=1482016#post1482016) to get some understanding and support. :hugs:


Thank you Duchessa and EcstaticEm for your hugs, I will be going over to visit that thread.

Thank you

[Pebbles]

I just wanted to give you big :hugs: . I know how hard it is. I miscarried in Januaray after TTC for over 12 months and even going on Fertility treatment. It all felt like a huge let down to go through all of that and then to loose the baby we so desperately wanted and felt we deserved. We had a light at our tunnell though and just 3 weeks afer my m/c I conceived again. We found out when I was 6 wks pregnant and we couldnt have been happier. I am now coming up for my 19th week and althougth I am still paranoid and anxious that something terrible might happen with each week that goes by I feel a little bit better. I wish you all the luck in the world, faith in the future and time to grieve will heal your wounds.
:hugs:

[rynosmum]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, especially on such a memorable day.:(

I have lost two angels now. One at 12 weeks and our last one more recently at 16 weeks - both happened over Easter holidays.

Everything you are going through is completely normal. Will you ever conceive again? Almost positively. Will you miscarry the next child? Probably not. The best thing that you can do is relax and let things happen at their own pace, when you are both ready.

Oh, and by the way....I KNOW that all of this is logical advice but it doesn't mean that I believe it when people tell it to me either.:gloomy: I've seen you on the other thread - I look forward to getting to know you better and going through our TTC and pregnancy journeys together.:hugs:

[GraceUnhearing]

:hugs: to you are your DH

[Michaela]

I am really sorry to hear about your loss. :hugs: Just make sure you are kind and gentle to yourself. Allow yourself to greive when and how you feel you need to. I can tell you that greif is a very lonley road, especially for a bereaved mother.

It is perfectly normal to ask yourself all of those questions as well. What you are feeling is completly normal - not that it makes feeling it any easier. But you do have confront it before moving on or else it gets stuck inside you.

You are very sweet for thinking about all the other mothers out there who have been through a similar experience, when thishas only recently happened to you. Thanks for your hug!

Good luck in the future as well, I hope you have some good news for everyone soon.

[Tasha83]

With everything that has happened, nothing has changed things but just the thoughts of others, people who care and share there time to give a hug, send a post, and have replied to me, has just been up lifting.

I posted thinking alot of people would just read and move on, I wasnt expecting replies, I was just wanting to get what I thought off and out into the world.

I did also want others to know, that, I may not know who you are, or your story, but if you have had loss, I just wanted to give you a hug.

Nothing worse than feeling alone and it makes things so much better to deal with if some one out there cares and shares with you.

Through all of it I hope I made you smile or your day better by knowing that caring people are out there, just as I have found, so many carring people who have helped and shared their stories and given a hug :)

:wizard: for all our future babies and journies.