m/c.....starting again soon

[brideofjabba]

Hi girls! I have just come back from 'Due in August 06'. Unfortunately we suffered a miscarriage this past weekend. We are still doing tests etc but i have had a lot of blood loss and loss of tissue and on saturday i had an ultrasound and there was no baby just a gestational sac. I should have been 9 weeks tomorrow.
After we get the final....diagnosis or whatever you call it. I will be back to charting. We willl probably wait and see how my cycle goes and then jump in to ttc (of course i'll get the drs go ahead first)
I can't say its good to be back! But i'm glad there is still lots of great support here.

[Lunar]

It is hard I know, we had 2 m/c before falling with this one. You'll get there, just remain positive and it will happen when it's meant to.
Good luck with the results, sometimes it is better if you have a reason for it happening but often there is no reason and it's just mother nature.
Wish you luck and happiness in the future;)

[MilkOnTap]

Hey Bride,

I am so sorry to hear about your m/c, especially at 9 weeks...

Best wishes TTC in the future!


Cheers,

[JATS]

Hi Andrea

Sorry to hear about the m/c, I hope you get the all clear soon and that you don't need to spend much time ttc.

Best of luck to you, if you need charting help just ask ;)

Amy

[hoping4another]

Hi,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss.
I got so much support from the ladies here with my M/C and this place can be such a wonderful and caring place especially when you are going through a loss like you have.
Big (((((((Hugs))))))) to you take care.

wendy

[ElizaDee]

Andrea I am so sorry for your loss **Hugs**

You will find pleanty of support around here to help you through. Good luck with the TCC when you are ready to try again.

[dylansmummy]

Andrea, so sorry to hear of your loss. :( We are all here if you need us.

((((hugs)))))

[kelsta]

Andrea

I hope you are doing OK, and like you I have come back from "due in August 06".

I guess this time it was just not meant to be for both of us.........

I have tried to focus on the future now and although DH & I still have some sadness within us, we are now trying again.

Hopefully we can join another thread soon when we will maybe be expecting in Sept 06, or Oct 06 or whenever it is meant to happen.

Keep smiling!

Kell

[Jacki]

Andrea,

So sorry to hear about your loss. You know you have all the support you need here. Good luck when you start TTC again.

Best wishes,
Jackie

[Sarie]

Andrea,
Hon, I'm sorry this has happened. I hope things go well when you TTC again!
Best Wishes
Sarie

[Valosgirls]

Andrea Im so sorry to hear of your loss - and at 9wks too:( I hope that you get renewed strength with every day and just remember that you have a little one looking down from above now:)
All the best for next time round,
Rik xx

[StormAngel]

Andrea, i am so sorry to hear of your loss, good luck when you decide to TTC again!

[brideofjabba]

Thanks so much everyone! I'm glad to see a few familiar 'faces' still around....obviously i wish you were all preggo, but you know what i mean right?

[Hokey Pokey]

Just sending you a hug Andrea and lots of healing prayers xoxoxox

[Krissy]

Andrea i am so so sorry for your loss

We are all here for you if you need to talk or get support

I hope to see you back in the TTC threads when your ready.

Krystal

xoxoxoxox

[cosmic]

Andrea, I'm so sorry to hear that news. I hadn't even heard you were pregnant since i hadn't put my head in the TTC threads for a while.

I'm glad you're feeling positive about trying again. If it makes you feel better, both Min and Sweetangel conceived immediately again after a m/c (ie. in the very next cycle :eek: ). I hope you are seeing another BFP very, very soon!

C x

[pippa]

Hi andrea,

I am so sorry to hear about your M/C. As you know I have had to and it was heartbreaking but believe me it does get easier as time goes by. I waited a couple of cycles after my m/c just to see that my cycle was back to normal.

If you want to chat at any stage then just pm me, Lots of ((((Hugs))))) to you

[Bron]

Andrea, I'm so sorry to hear of your m/c. We are all here to support you.

Take as much time as you need.

Thinking of you and your family.

Bron

[shereejoy]

I am so sorry Andrea, you take care of yourself now. You will never forget but the pain will get easier, trust me. I am so sorry to hear your news, big hugs and kisses to you.

[Naggy]

Hi Everyone

I guess I will soon be joining this thread. I am following both Kelsta and Andrea here from the Due in August thread.

Kelsta - I am so sorry to hear your news. I was reading your post and it sounded a lot like my experience.

Kelsta and Andrea and anyone else who has had a m/c - is it normal to not really know how to feel?? Some days I just can't stop crying and on others I really just am looking forward to TTC (however, I'm still bleeding two weeks later so it won't be for a while). I just don't know how to feel at this point in time ie, it's really hard to listen to what my head is trying to tell me if you know what I mean.

One other question - how long does it normally take for your cycle to come back to normal?

Sorry - last question - Andrea - what is the name of the book you got from the library about m/c?

Thanks and looking forward to chatting to you all.

Naggy
DH
DS - Sam 3

[hoping4another]

Hi all

Kelsta- I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can find the support and comfort from the wonderful ladies here to help you deal with your loss.

Naggy- I am very sorry for your loss. Our head plays weird games with us when we are going through a M/C but instead or listen to your head listen to your heart cry if you need to and if you need to talk i am sure you will find someone on here who will chat. i think part of the healing is Thinking of our future TTC but i was completely focused on this afterward and it did help me because it took my mind of the M/C.
As for your answer with when your cycle will return to normal it different for all ladies. With me it hard to say as after my 1st D/C for the M/C the doctor missed part of placenta and it was left behind for 6 weeks so i had to have another D/C 6wks later.
After this D/C my cycle returned back to normal straight away. 28 day after my last D/C i got my Af.
Talking on here to other who have gone through a M/C sometimes was the only way i could cope with my day.


Big ((((hugs)))) to all the ladies going through this hard time
Wendy

[kelsta]

Hey Naggy

So sorry to hear you have been going through this. I too have my good days and am sad and then really was positive about trying again.

And guess what.... I am now thinking we are BFP again!

I have tested the last 2 mornings and both tests came up positive straight away.

It was a shock, we started trying again about 5 days after i stopped bleeding from the M/C and i never got AF back.

We are amazed and at the same time sooooo nervous. We are not telling a sole this ttime, as we told our parents and my twin sister.

I guess we are just lucky to fall again so soon, it took us 2 cycles last time. But the nerves and emotions are running really high.

Hang in there, and i truly believe it will happen when it is meant to.

Andrea: How are you going???? How have yu been feeling too?

Kell

[brideofjabba]

Kell! how long ago did you m/c? Were you told to wait? We were told to wait one cycle. My bleeding is only just starting to stop. I have a small amount of brown spotting and that is all.

[maybe1more]

Andrea- im so sorry to hear that you m/c, i hope your coping ok, i know its not easy, only time can help but it still remains a emotional issue, my bub would be due this time next month and on me and my dp`s anniversary of all days. Thinking of you and ill sure it would be long untill your pg again:)

Big hugs also to everyone else who know whats its like to feel empty and emotional after a m/c. Hopefully some BFP will follow soon.

Kelsta- wow, after two tests and two bfp!! Congratulation, great stuff, i hope your baby vibes wash off on us too:D

[kelsta]

Hey Andea

I M/C the week of xmas. Bleeding stopped 2 days after xmas. My doctor said to relax and my body will return to normal when it is ready. We have known him for 18 years and get on really well with him. He said that there would be no harm in trying again when we were ready, and to come back to him if i hadnt gotten my AF back in 6 weeks. This was my 2nd M/C, we had one before DD was born and my body went back to its 28 day cycles straight away.
I wasnt sure i actually o'd as i am pretty routine in that department too, so i am going on the date that the heavy bleeding started.
I have seen many versions floating around various websites about waiting vs trying again straight away. Just hope we have done the right thing by trying straight away.
I will probably wait another week before i go and see my dr, i am guessing next week i will be 5 weeks.
This is such an emmotional and worrying time for us, and i am trying my hardwst to not stress myself out about it competely.
Any suggestions to help here would be great!
Kell

[brideofjabba]

Kell, wow thats so fantastic! Congrats!!!
I have no idea how i will feel when i get pregnant again. I'll probably be a nervous wreck! I hope you are feeling ok. Take care!

[JATS]

:D Congrats Kell!!!:D

[kelsta]

Thanks everyone for the congratulations.

Andrea: I am feeling OK. I am feeling quite nauseaus most of the day though, and i feel like my early symptoms are greater than last time. My mind is going a thousand miles an hour about every little thing at the moment.
I am riding this weird rollercoaster of emotions as is DH. He is asking me very hour how i feel and do i have any pain. He is just nervous too i guess!
I feel much more "pregnant" this time if that makes any sense at all! Maybe it is just my mind playing tricks on me too!
I will keep you updated, we will probably wait until next week to go to my dr, when i think i am 5 weeks.
I guess he will be surprised it happened so quick, dh & I must just be one of those bizarre couples that can just pass each other in the hall way and get pg! :)

Until next time, take care everyone.
Kell

[min]

Andrea and Kell

We, too, researched the matter of when to TTC after a miscarriage. There's quite a bit of conflicting info out there (surprise, surprise). But we settled on my GP's advice - she said to try again whenever we felt ready. And we really did intend to wait one cycle - but then my O symptoms arrived out of the blue, and we said, "Well, let's give it one go - what are the chances??". As it turned out, the chances were very good! Pregnant again straight away. And this pregnancy has been "textbook", too - no bleeding, no problems (so do try to relax, Kell!). But we were very cautious until 13 weeks.

One other issue to consider - if you fall pg again right away, people (relatives, friends) can tend to "gloss over" your m/c, as though it never really happened. It's not a reason NOT to TTC again soon - just don't be shocked, though, if the excitement of a new pregnancy makes everyone forget about the previous one. Just one of those things!

[brideofjabba]

Min - i've had family members say 'oh so it was a phantom pregnancy?' because we told them that we couldn't see a baby on the ultrasound. They made it sound like i wasn't really pregnant. It has made me so mad and upset that they have just glossed over it so quickly! There was a baby and it died.
We aren't telling anyone next time until i'm 12 weeks or i start showing.
I'm temping now but i'm still spotting. I'm scared to bd again! I'm not sure what to do about that.

[kelsta]

Hey Min

Thank You, Thank You, Thank you.......
You have just made me feel so much better about this whole thing!
We have been over analysing everything, especially in relation yp falling pg straight away.
Deep down i am trying to be so overjoyed, but always have this shadow of doubt.
But as of today, i am going to be so positive and remember your words.

Kell