DP refuses to change pooey nappy

[Mummy2Amelia]

GRRR i'm so over him right now! :laughing: He absolutely refuses to change my DD's pooey nappies....he says it's because he does not know how to do it....so I said "ok, come watch me do it" ... he replies saying "oh nah i'll be right"...:thumbsdown:
Tonight was the last straw.....I changed DD's pooey nappy, and asked him if he could go to the toilet and wash the poo away, all he had to do was empty it into the toilet, it is toddler poo so it is hard and just rolls right off.....apparently it's too HARD!!!!!!:banghead: wtf??? I don't get it....I was in a rush to get to Coles before they shut tonight and just needed him to do that one thing for me while I dressed DD.. ok vent over lol....

How can I get DP to change pooey nappies or atleast give me a hand emptying the pooey nappy?

Btw, he will change a disposable nappy fine, he just thinks using cloth nappies and cloth wipes is just far too much for him to handle....PFFT!:shame:

[gremily]

Maybe once he's watched you a few times he'll get the hang of it and soon realise it's not that hard. Df has always changed pooey ones (although it's once in a blue moon due to him working) but he hates it and still has a lot of trouble doing it. He wipes too slow, doesn't get the nappy far enough out of the way, can't work out how to keep dd2's hands out of it, and it's really quite hilarious to watch! He's getting better, but think some people just have an easier time getting over the whole poo issue.

He has no trouble changing wet nappies. Maybe try getting your DP to help change just the wet nappies for now and then he may soon have a go at a pooey nappy:)

[mumofsam]

hahaha same prob!!

my dh had it so easy for the first 4months as he was always working and barely saw ds. now he is home more and i have had to 'train' him in the art of nappy change, esp pooey ones!

i did a sneaky and just said i needed help every time i had to change ds. holding hands and feet out of the way etc... he saw what was to be done and woops, "i just have to answer the phone", or get dinner or wash my hands. hehehe worked a treat. now i dont even have to ask.

[nuddle]

hahaha same prob!!

my dh had it so easy for the first 4months as he was always working and barely saw ds. now he is home more and i have had to 'train' him in the art of nappy change, esp pooey ones!

i did a sneaky and just said i needed help every time i had to change ds. holding hands and feet out of the way etc... he saw what was to be done and woops, "i just have to answer the phone", or get dinner or wash my hands. hehehe worked a treat. now i dont even have to ask.
lol, you are clever...

[pookiesossige]

Penny's got the right idea! :laughing: :thumbsup:

My DH is one of those, but to be honest, it doesn't really bother me - I know he will change it if he has to (ie- I'm not available) and I just make sure that EVERY other nappy change he is around for, he does- as compensation. He's happy with the current arrangement, and so am I! :D

[HoopDeeDoo]

Scott changes pretty much every nappy while he is at home. I figure that I change enough when he is not home. For example this morning I have already changed 4 pooey nappies :barf: All gross toddler poos too

[stellarella]

Sorry I am not much help...my DP is an angel :angel: who goes of his way to help me with everything. He changes all of DS's nappies when he is here *ducks for cover*...hey I snaffled a good one! :p (He also cooks almost every night, vacuums, hangs out the washing, brings the washing in, mows the lawn, cleans the bathrooms...)

I don't know if there is much you can do to change him....he sounds like he doesn't really want to be helpful...maybe use reverse psychology...sometimes you need to address them on their level...:p :laughing:

[vespertine]

In my opinion parenting is 50-50 when both parents are home. It's really not fair for him to just enjoy the 'fun stuff' without any nappy changing- you can't do that so why should he? Just tell him- 'Hey, it took two of us to make this baby! So when you're here, you can partake in the nappy changing too!' ;) It's not rocket science. That 'too hard' stuff sounds like a cop out to me.

[Snugglepot]

My DP is a reluctant poo changer with MCN's. He is happy enough to do his share of disposables though. I have come up with a game plan to make it easier.

You can buy flushable wipes in the Wiggles brand in a pop up box. They are not that much more than huggies in cost. So I have them for DP to use and I use cloth wipes (to make up for the cost) That way he can wipe etc as he does for a dipsosable and either leave it in the nappy bucket for me to flush the poo & wipes or if he is feeling brave he can flush all the poo and wipes and then put nappy in the bucket. I figure he hates the step of seperating the wipes and putting them in a bag and into the bin and also having to flush the offending poo, this way he can still change the nappy and I do the pooey part! Does that make sense?

I am yet to see how successful this is, but it worked once on the weekend.

Good Luck!

[OJandMe]

Seeing as we've just switched this week with the boys, I have to say that I'm pretty pleased with DH's efforts on the pooey nappy factor.

I've made sure that I cut my fleece liners big enough to protect the whole nappy from poo (except pooplosions, but not much you can do about that)

We still use disposable wipes... not giving those up. I like them.

So he just flushes the poo into the toilet, throws out the wipes and dumps the liner and nappy into the bucket for me to sort out when I wash the nappies later ( I always hot wash my nappies at the end of the day.. I find that way they half dry overnight and take a lot less time to dry the next day)

Could you buy some disposable liners for when he's looking after bubs? I bought a pack of 100 from Woolies for the boys to use at childcare. That way he just throw the lot.. the liner, the poop and the wipes into the bin.... As it is though you're 'supposed' to flush all solids into the toilet anyway... even with disposables.

[ETsMum]

I haven't got my cloth nappies yet, but DP has already declared that he will not be changing our toddlers pooey cloth nappies... Pfft... he sure will be!!! But, I've decided to make it easier on him with disposable liners and disposable wipes. We'll start with that and see how we go... :)