5 month hates feeding - please help me

[Cordelia]

My 5 month old is fully breastfed and for the last month she has screamed and fought and kicked and screamed some more every time I feed her.

I could handle this for a while because i thought it would pass but now, I am going crazy and bawl my eyes out every time I feed her. It's like she hates me.

My CHN says it's either because she's teething (yeah but she wouldn't scream constantly surely) or because she's frustrated that she can't look around while she's feeding. But it's more like she's in pain and hates the idea of feeding from me.

I have tried everything - I express first so that she doesn't have to wait for the letdown... different positions. I have her more upright.. I try different times - eg. when she's just woken up or wait til she's really hungry. Nothing works.

i'm seriously at my wits end and feel like I'm on the edge of doing something desperate because it is just so unbearable.

PS During the last month my DH has given her probably 5 bottles and she does the same with him as well.

[HouseOfBlues]

:hugs: to you.
I went through the same thing with DS.
He would get really frustarted when the letdown would take too long to come in. I would also get frustrated and anxious and that made the letdown take even longer to come in.
I then began to resent him and this mad me feel really sad.

I got to the point that you seem to be in and I offered him a bottle.
That made the whole situation completley worse as he loved the bottle and didn't want me at all anymore. The bottle was a lot easier as he didn't have to work to get the milk.

My question is...do you want to keep BF? If so, I would recommened not giving your DD a bottle at all.

If it is causing you both so much grief, would you consider putting her on the bottle?

When DS went on the bottle I felt guilty at the time but as soon as I saw he was happy I was so much happier too. Happy baby, happy mummy!

Good luck with your descision.

[GeorgiaAnne]

Oh, you poor love :hugs: to you. I would recommend to phobe the breastfeeding association and/or get a lactation consultant. Is it like that for every feed?