Second miscarriage

[BelindaBB]

I have just found out that my sister has had her second miscarriage in 8 months and she is understandably very upset. Both happended before she was 7 weeks. She has no children as yet and she is nearly 31.

How can I best be there for her and what shouldn't I say to her?

Any suggestions greatly appreciated.

[Princess_Alisa]

I feel very sorry for your sister! That must be so hard. I am sorry I am not much of a help, I have not much experience with this. I would probably just try to be there for her and encourage her to stay positive after her grieving time.

Big :hugs: to you and your sister.

[TrulyBlessed]

I myself have suffered m/c.

The best piece of advice is to just tell her, I can only imagine the pain you are going through right now but just know I am here for you to listen to you cry, vent or let out anger.

Just be there for her so she knows she isn't alone.

What ever you do, don't tell her it must have been for the best etc, people say this in the best interest but it only adds to the pain.

[Bunny_79]

Hi there, very sorry to hear about your sister :hugs:

I too have had two m/c both ending just before 6 weeks. I am now 9weeks pregnant. So there is def hope there. She would be devastated and prob the best thing u could do is be there for her and be a shoulder to cry on and an ear for her to talk to and let it all out.

For me no matter what people said like "dont worry it will happen" or "just be patient" didnt comfort me cause i wanted it to be my turn now. The hardest part is waiting and thats what just eats u up.

:fingerscrossed: your sisters next preg is the one that sticks. My thoughts r with u.

I hope i have helped you in some way.

[Aquamarine]

My SIL had 2 miscarriages but successfully went on to have a healthy baby girl with her 3rd pregnancy.

:hugs: To your sis.

[Duchessa]

I have just had three in a row. The worst thing is to gloss over it and try to move her on.

Let her know you understand that it sucks and it is unfair and it hurts and that it is ok to be really sad and upset.

There is a whole thread on this somewhere... hang on... HERE (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=84043)

[BelindaBB]

Thanks to everyone who replied, as always, everyone is so kind and thoughtful and your comments are always greatly appreciated.

Thanks again

Belinda