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[millymoo]

Hi

I havent been in for a while but as I am feeling abit low :gloomy: about this I thought being in good company would make me feel better!

We are struggling with me having become a Dummy in the night for Amelia. I end up co sleeping with her from the first wake, anywhere from 11pm on wards. She just nibbles all night.

My clinic nurse was right!! It is impossible for me to settle Amelia now without boobies!! Someone else will have to step in as I really tried last night but just upset the apple cart by trying to soothe her otherwise. She has been awake from 2-3.30am then up at 5am.....and that was it! She also didn`t settle until 10pm.

DH did volunteer but he had to leave at 5am for work today.

My clinic nurse also wanted me to up her solids...we now offer 3 meals a day but she is very fussy ...the idea is she will be more full and less likely to graze at night but when she does is less hungry in the day..viscious circle. She may not be hungry in the night but the milk still comes down!

I feel happy still feeding but also feel now she is older and aware of where her best tasting food comes from...it will be hard to wean and stop this night time habit.

Or maybe I should just be happy doing it and give her this time ...also buying a better warmer dooona for the spare bed in her room! i miss my comfy bed.

[Areca]

Does she comfort feed during the day? If she does I'd work on cutting them out first, before dealing with the night time. If she knows how to settle without booby it's going to much easier to wean her off the night time comfort feeds.
My advice would be to work on the day comfort feeds. Offer her more solids for sure, but if she's doing it for comfort only it might not make that much difference really.
I had a paediatrician get up me when DD was 11 1/2 months old cause I was still feeding her through the night and she insisted I wean her from that feed there and then and told me it would be hard to do but I'd brought it upon myself. She was a real cow and I never went back to her and didn't listen to her. We were cutting out day time comfort feeds and it was so much easier to just feed her when she woke of a night so we could both get back to sleep. At 12 1/2 months DD started sleeping through the night, all on her own. I felt like ringing that ped and giving her an ear full but I didn't!
You will get your DD out of this habit!

[millymoo]

Thank you Carmen!

You have given me comforting thoughts that she may well just start to sleep on her own at night. She used to age 2-4 mths then it just stopped:fingerscrossed:


Generally I have been given quite pleasant advise not like your experience but then she is still 7.5 mths. The clinic nurse was pleasant but quite insistent about the solids starting.....so i know how they can be.It can be infuriating and a bit condescending too.

She doesn`t comfort feed in the day. She will sometimes nod off on the boob( but not the same as at night where it goes on for ages )but can fall asleep other ways....so thats a positive. i hadn`t really thought about that but when I did realised at least there isn`t a problem then....many faces to keep her happy here during the day!

Finding some food she enjoys may help...so far fruit , yog and some cereals go down ok.

BTW...think I met you at Newcastle recently

H x

[Areca]

Yep you did meet me at Newy recently, although we didn't really get to talk...maybe at the next meet!
If she doesn't comfort feed during the day that's a good thing! As far as the solids go....just follow your instincts. I had a CHN really push me to get DD to eat solids but she just wasn't ready. I spoke to my GP about it and she said that she wouldn't worry until DD was 12 month old and still not eating...she started at 9 1/2 months old. If it helps then do it for sure but there is a big difference between a comfort feed and a feed for hunger.
Maybe start timing it of a night time....so give her half an hour to settle on her own (with you comforting her in other ways) and then let her have the comfort feed. You need sleep too! I have a friend who did this with her DD and it worked and it wasn't too painful for them!
Also maybe pm Rainbowbrite...her DD was much older but I know that she had similar issues and they are now resolved. She might be able to give you some tips.
Good luck! I'll keep brainstorming to see if I can think of anything else!