Engagement party / Suprise wedding

[oceanblue]

Just wondering if any one has had or been to an engagement party and it turned out to be the couples wedding.

[Pobblebonk]

I haven't, but my Dad did!

His partner Irene's best friend's son (did you follow...) was having a bbq and it turned into their wedding...

Is this what you're thinking of doing? I wouldn't mind doing something like this, if it was set out like a wedding reception with the tables etc, and just have everyone choose where they wanted to sit, and then get married in the middle of all the tables etc, so everyone could see.

Dad's girlfriend's best friend, Carlene, was a bit ticked off however that she wasn't told about it being a wedding until the morning of the bbq, and so she didn't have a 'nice outfit'.

I think that was the only whinge.

I'd rather do something like this, because I don't really want presents or money etc, just a great day.

[oceanblue]

Yes I have this strong erge to get married. My DP thinks its cause im pregnant and nesting already. I am not the type to wear a big white dress and walk down the isle so i thought a engagement party is a bit more low key more my style.

Also we live miles from both our familys so i dont expect them to fly to both our engagement and wedding and then come again when bub is born.

Also we are looking at buying a house/land at the middle end of year so want something that wont cost a fortune.

I only started thinking about it today and it just all fell into place. I have most of it planned already. :fingerscrossed:

Oceanblue

[InSaneOne]

i wanted to have ours like that but dh-to-be didn't so we just had a normal engagement party


and now i have to plan the wedding

[HanCh]

If DP EVER proposes I am seriously thinking about doing something like this. But I would still want a photogropher their to take photos, so I guess that would give the secret away when people noticed this as I havent heard of anyone having a photogropher at their engagement party.......

[LovingMumOf3]

If DP EVER proposes I am seriously thinking about doing something like this. But I would still want a photogropher their to take photos, so I guess that would give the secret away when people noticed this as I havent heard of anyone having a photogropher at their engagement party.......
We are having an Engagement party/Surprise Wedding in about 5 weeks :smiliedance: and we are having a photographer there.I've been telling people that the reason is that when we do get married we'll probably elope so we wont have the big Wedding thing and that this is our chance to get photos of all our friends and family dressed up and celebrating with us.They seem to be buying it(Phew!).

[Vespera]

My mum had a big party for her 40th and got married about 2 hours into it.

Huge surprise for everyone!!

Some of my step dads family complained because 'they would have come if they knew it was a wedding' but my mum was of the opinion if they didnt want to make the effort for her birthday they didnt deserve to be there. :D

[PunkyDiva]

How exciting, you lubblies having suprise weddings, would be so much more fun I would imagine and sooo less pressure and stress. :thumbsup:

[MummyCharmzy]

my parents invited everyone over for a housewarming BBQ, hadnt even told there parents and got married! :D

[Starlet]

This is what we're doing for our wedding :):)

[charlen49]

:yes: i think i'd like to do the surprisewedding party/engagement party too..stress free!

[Roopee]

:yes: i think i'd like to do the surprisewedding party/engagement party too..stress free!

I can give you a few hint hun if you need them!:hugs:
It took alot of effoert to keep it under wraps- even from the groom!:eek::eek::laughing::laughing:

[Jenko]

Yep, I've been to one and it was great!! :yelclap:

When we got there I noticed the bride to be had her hair done really nicely. She isn't one to usually go all out on the hair do, but I still didn't realise lol der :confused: :o

It wasn't until hubby came out in a suit and announced to everyone "Welcome to our wedding" about an hour or so into it.

It was such a great buzz and it rubbed off on all the guests, so everyone had a great time.

[Me]

I wanted to this, but DH wasn't into it, we ended up combining our housewarming and engagement party as a big doo then had a small wedding which was lovely.

[manditherese]

5 weeks until my housewarming party, at which we will be married. I cant wait!

I wouldnt say it is stress free, we are having a lot of trouble getting people to come up (we now live 4 hours aways from everyone). We have already had an engagement party so cant use that, but have bought a house and done it up so we'll get married then.

We have made it a formal party (number 9, dress to the nines!) so people wont complain about that and i can get dressed up and not look over done!

We both have been comtemplating not doing it as some extended family wont be there but, I figure they'll feel bad after and then make more of an effort next time something is on. Its difficult to say how important it is to you with out saying why...

Both our immediate family and close friends will be there. All i want is to be married to him so badly, we'll do it for eachother, the way we want and no one else matters.:hugs:

fingers crossed it all works out.

me 28 Valentine him 30
Bump number 1 EDD 17/4/08

[LovingMumOf3]

5 weeks until my housewarming party, at which we will be married. I cant wait!

I wouldnt say it is stress free, we are having a lot of trouble getting people to come up (we now live 4 hours aways from everyone). We have already had an engagement party so cant use that, but have bought a house and done it up so we'll get married then.

We have made it a formal party (number 9, dress to the nines!) so people wont complain about that and i can get dressed up and not look over done!

We both have been comtemplating not doing it as some extended family wont be there but, I figure they'll feel bad after and then make more of an effort next time something is on. Its difficult to say how important it is to you with out saying why...

Both our immediate family and close friends will be there. All i want is to be married to him so badly, we'll do it for eachother, the way we want and no one else matters.:hugs:

fingers crossed it all works out.

me 28 Valentine him 30
Bump number 1 EDD 17/4/08
Hi darl.Firstly,let me say congrats on the bub in tum,fabulous. Secondly,as long as the most important people are there on you special day that's all that matters.DH and I had our surprise wedding on saturday and it was the best thing we could have done.There were a couple of people that we would have loved to be there including DHs brother (in Qld) but they couldn't come ( everyone thought it was just an engagement party) but we had a brilliant day.There was just so much fun an joy (and kids everywhere) and there really is no other way that I would like for my day to have been. On the day,just go with the flow,enjoy every moment and make sure that there are lots of tissues (tears of joy) and plenty of photos taken. I wish you a truly wonderful day.If it's even half as good as ours you are going to have a ball!!:smiliedance: :party: :hugs:

[manditherese]

Thanks so much luvbnamum.

im sooo looking forward to it and can realx a little more now as i have haded in my notice at work! I'll work casual till bubs comes. now thats stress free!

My immediate family will be there (and his too) and our close friends so it will be perfect.

i think the the hormones and emotions of being pregnant are playing up so i get frustrated and sad at times but i know it will all be fine..

Wedding dress shopping on the weekend! woo hooo

[mothertobein2007]

i have been saying that to my df becuase i wanted to elope but everyone said no so im going to have a suprise wedding ether a enagemnt one or a fancy dress one

[JeSka]

i never even thought of it before but it really sounds like a good idea :yes:

[LovingMumOf3]

Wedding dress shopping on the weekend! woo hooo
How did you go darl??

[Mamaduke]

Friends of ours did this and not only did everyone have a fantastic time but they saved a fortune hiring a venue, car, photographer, videographer etc using the words 'engagement party' instead of 'wedding'.
When my friend called for a limousine she was given two very different figures when she called the exact same business wanting;
1) quote for a limo to take her to her engagement party
and
2) quote for a limo to take her to her wedding.
Something to think about - be careful how you word things!

[Lastcenturymum]

I know of someone who is doing that this weekend...but can't say nuffink!!!:cool:

(a friend of mine's niece)

[Lollie86]

This sounds like such a great idea! :thumbsup:

DF and I are seriously considering eloping, but we also have considered this.

If anyone has some ideas on how to go about it please PM me!

I need to convince DF this is the way to go!

[pepajane]

I did and it was a fizzer as peolpe had other plans so everyone left straight after the ceremony for their prior commitments. Also some people didn't turn up or got there late cause they didn't know what was happening.

[studyingECS]

My cousin did that, didnt go down well, my grandfather ended up having a heart attack and getting carted out by an ambo, my unlce and aunt had a massive fight and left seperately, there was arguments over presents and my nana bawled her eyes out because it was so stressful for her. I dont think our family does very well with surprises:no:

[manditherese]

Oh my god in 2 weeks i wil be married, Mrs Black not Miss Blackman!:babydust2: He he funny isnt it?

Luvbnamum, i found a dress and its perfect though i think it needs a bit of sparkle so im going to add some dimantes to it next week, it was a bargain $100 and brand new. I got it at the Malaga Markets, its the shop that Legends Bridal take all their old stock (still new). I just hope it still fits cos my tummy had popped out a fair bit now! it should be ok tho.

Our house is coming along and i cant wait to have the housewarming!! we will have to spring the wedding thing on quite fast as a few people know and we dont want any one to slip up!

I'll be back to tell you all about it, but for now i have so much to organise!!

Me 28 Valentine Him 30
Bump number 1 EDD 17/4/08

[mum2bubba]

I did and it was a fizzer as peolpe had other plans so everyone left straight after the ceremony for their prior commitments. Also some people didn't turn up or got there late cause they didn't know what was happening.


Yeah thats what I'd be worried about too. If I sent invites out for an engagement party I know a few people who'd think it wasn't as important as the actual wedding and probably wouldn't show up or they'd come late or whatever. :rolleyes:

[Starlet]

Yeah thats what I'd be worried about too. If I sent invites out for an engagement party I know a few people who'd think it wasn't as important as the actual wedding and probably wouldn't show up or they'd come late or whatever. :rolleyes:

On our engagement invites it says that we are having 'Dinner and Drinks'. So at the bottom it says please don't be late as dinner will be served at 7pm(but the ceremony is starting at 7).

I know that all our family will come because it is our engagement party. It doesn't bother me about the rest of the people as my family are the ones who are most important to me.

Plus I think most ppl will come because there is free food and alcohol! lol

[mum2bubba]

On our engagement invites it says that we are having 'Dinner and Drinks'. So at the bottom it says please don't be late as dinner will be served at 7pm(but the ceremony is starting at 7).

I know that all our family will come because it is our engagement party. It doesn't bother me about the rest of the people as my family are the ones who are most important to me.

Plus I think most ppl will come because there is free food and alcohol! lol

Yeah, I guess I could put that on the invites, never thought of that. :thumbsup:

[Lollie86]

Yeah thats what I'd be worried about too. If I sent invites out for an engagement party I know a few people who'd think it wasn't as important as the actual wedding and probably wouldn't show up or they'd come late or whatever. :rolleyes:

I figure if they dont think my engagement party is important enough to come to then I dont care if they miss out on the wedding.

Its their loss I guess.

[mum2bubba]

Yeah I guess you have a point (then again I know people who probably wouldn't even come to our wedding because they aren't talking to other people in the family) :rolleyes:

[JnA]

We are having a surprise wedding. But it won't be an 'engagement' party.. it will be a 'surprise party' for someone.. little will the guests know that it'll be a surprise party for them.

[Lollie86]

Yeah I guess you have a point (then again I know people who probably wouldn't even come to our wedding because they aren't talking to other people in the family) :rolleyes:

If we end up having a surprise wedding at our engagement party, we will be telling DF's brother and sister who live interstate that the engagement party will be the closest thing to a wedding bc we are planning on eloping.

Knowing them, they wont come anyways and DF will end up telling them so it wont be a surprise. :rolleyes:

[manditherese]

woo hoo only 3 more sleeps till i marry my fiancee and lose the 'man'. I'll be a Black, not Blackman!

Im so excited about our party and im hoping it will all go as planned, but who knows? im just so happy we're doing it this way, im much more relaxed and casual about everything (i only just booked my hair appointment and have no idea what im doing to it!).

I will be back here to tell you all about it in a week and a bit, after the honeymoon!!!

take care everyone!

me 28 Valentine him 30
Bump number 1 EDD 17/04/08

[manditherese]

Well im back from the honeymoon, we spent a week in Bali and it was wonderful.:smiliedance:

As for the surprise wedding, we pulled it off so well, nothing went wrong and we are both so happy we did it that way.Valentine

I wouldnt change it for the world. We did it just how we wanted and not the way other people thought we should do it.

My parents have recieved a lot of **** from some family members who didnt come for the "house warming" but its their fault and they are trying to pass it off on us, saying we should have told them. Stiff s...t if you cant make it to a family party then thats your fault, it cant be a surprise if you tell everyone. Im just mad cause none of them have talked to us dierctly! arrgh.:thumbsdown:

Anyways i would seriously reccommend doing it this way, we saved a heap of money, had all our close friends and family around (well most of them!) and most of all we both were so relaxed about the night.

To me its more about the marriage and becoming a family, not the actual wedding. thats just a big expensive party where you try and please everyone. We enjoyed it so much i wouldn't have changed a thing.:hugs:


Mr & Mrs Black
Bump number 1 EDD 17 April 08