Mothers Day Blues

[nelly75]

Just need to get this out!!

My H and I decided to separate a couple of months ago but decided to sell the house first then we would go our separate ways.

Our house has been on the market for 4 weeks and as yet no offers, so we have both been very stressed and a bit snappy so H walks out on Friday night and went & stayed at his parents.

He turned up at DS 1's 5th birthday party yesterday then came back home to mow the lawns before the open home. When he finished he looked at me and said "so do you want the boys this weekend?". I just looked at him and he said that he was too stressed living here and he was moving to his parents house until the house sold. Then he left. He came back last night and told the boys he wouldn't be living here anymore.

So I spent most of my 1st mothers day as a single parent in tears as everywhere I went I saw dads out with their kids giving the mums a sleep in and buying flowers for them. Then I had my sister & brother turn up to give DS his birthday present so I had to act like I was fine but then burst into tears the moment they left.

H then turned up at 4 to take the kids to his mums for dinner so now I'm sitting here alone feeling like **** knowing that tomorrow morning I have to go to work so I have to get the kids ready by myself and out of the house by 8am making sure the house is spotless as someone who came to the open home yesterday wants to bring their partner back tomorrow for a look.

Ok finished now, feel a bit better now I've got that off my chest!!

[Billy]

:hugs: I am so sorry for what is happening with you :hugs:

Selling a house is so stressful at any time- let alone when you are going through marital problems... I know how hard it is to keep the house neat and tidy to sell, we sold our place at Christmas (it sold after 4 weeks too) and it DEFINITELY put a strain on our marriage at the time.

I really hope your home sells for you as soon as possible, and you and your husband can come to an amicable agreement that works for you both. I'm sorry he is being so insensitive to you. :hugs:

But also have a Happy Mothers Day from me :) I hope you can get a break just for some 'you' time really soon!

[Butterflymumma]

Hey Hon,

here have some big :hugs: I hope you are feeling a little better. Im sorry your mothers day didnt turn out how you'd have liked it to. Just remember you are a fantastic mum and your children know that!

Your hubby really didnt handle the situation very well. He for one shouldnt have taken them away from you tonight on such a special day!!

I think you are just great for how you are handeling this. :fingerscrossed: that the people coming tommorrow will put an offer on your home so you can start your new life fresh.

Its not so bad being a single mum, takes some getting used to the idea, but just know you have a whole heap of women on here who are going to support you and care about you!!!

Take Care hon and Happy mothers day! xx:hugs:

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

:hugs: Hugs and hugs and lots more hugs :hugs:

I'm so sorry that this mothers day wasnt so good for you If you ever need to talk im here just PM me anytime
I dont know how to make it better for you just know that we are all here for you anytime you need
:hugs: :hugs:

[the_original_duchess]

:hugs: to you!!!!
i know its very tough, trust me i'm going through a similar situation atm. sometimes people don't think about what they do, and how it effects people. i hope you have a nice night, and can find a way to de-stress.
maybe call a girlfriend and have a nice long b****ing session. always makes me feel better:D
Happy mothers day!!
Danielle

[Hector]

>sigh< how nice that he feels he has the right to just get up, walk out and escape when it gets to much!!!!!! Never mind offering to stay there and YOU go live where someone else does the cooking and cleaning for you!!!!!!!

ARGH MENANJAWOLIJFAW;EJFA

Sorry, just OVER them! This is my 2nd mother's day, and last year my ex did sweet FA cos we were having a blue. We were fine on Father's Day so dd and I put in some effort for him as it was his first Dad's day and that sort of stuff means a lot to him. He was in tears after we gave him the pressies and stuff because he realised what a tw*t he'd been on Mother's Day, and he promised this years Mum's Day would be SO good etc etc

Instead, he's gone back to the frikken UK, left me with no support and having to quit the job I just started becos it's gotten too much. And we haven't heard from him in a couple weeks, he hasn't been in touch with DD for a couple weeks, hasn't paid any CS for can't remember how long and Mother's Day has come and gone and not a peep from him.

Let us all just breathe, now! It's really hard and I hope you sell your house really quickly. I just bought one yesterday so am about to enjoy the stresses! And I know how **** it is trying to get ready for work and clean the house and get baby ready all at once...

:hugs:

[Issey]

:hugs: so sorry that you are having a hard time atm.

Mothers Day does make you really emotional and selling your house and everything is alot to deal with all at once.

The best thing that happened to me on Mothers Day I cuddled my DS :) , he made me a card from Daycare (with help of course) and they made a picture with their hand print and photo that was laminated, still makes me teary as it means so much. The best thing is you & your child have each others love & nothing can change that:yes:

I hope you are feeling a bit better today and your inspection goes well. People understand that your house cannot be perfect with children. :hugs:

[Acacia]

Hi big hugs to you.

If it makes you feel any better i had a dodgey mums day too. Well it was just like any other day really. I woke up to a HUGE poo in my bubs pants...i use cloth nappies so i had to was it all off. Then as i was cleaning him up, he peed all over me and my bed. Feeling really crappy i just laid down in the pee and went to sleep for an hour!

Then his dad came and got him to take him to see his grandma. That was ok, but we have been fighting about mothers day (a friend organised a suprise for me for last night...it was only 3 hours but bubs dad thought it was inappropriate so we had a huge fight and i said i didnt want to celebrate it at all.) so it was a bit sad. So with my spare 2 hours baby free i decided to dye my hair but alas it turned out black instead of a nice violet and i hate it.

Then bub came home....we hung out...well as much as you can hang out with a 3 and a half month old then he went back to his dads for a couple of hours while my friend took me to see a special screening of the road to guantenemo bay, which was very good. Went to pick up bub and dad was acting bit strange and then i got all worried about him....and thats how the day ended!

I think that no matter what happens on mothers day (which by the way was made by Hallmark to sell cards...no joke) its nice to remember that we are doing the best job in the world and that our smiling children are our presents everyday.

:hugs: I hope you feel better and that your house sells really soon.

[Chanelc]

so sorry to hear you had a tearful day hope you are feeling better
Sending lot of :hugs:

[BaDaBing]

I hope you are feeling better today :hugs: