Don't know if i can

[StormAngel]

hi there

I really don't know if a can do it! I've tried a couple of times and she just stands at the side of the cot and screams :( , then she refuses to settle again until i feed her.

Anybody got some suggestions?

[Refresh]

If it doesn't feel right then dont do it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeding her to sleep. If this is what she wants to do then I would just let her and relax. If you really need her to self settle, why not check out some other settling solutions (I don't have any.) There is a thread here about the no cry sleep solution or something. Maybe others will have some ideas.

[jessica]

Hi jlk,

You might be surprised how she responds if you give CC a fair go!! I know my little one was/is a screamer - high pitched, gurgling hysterics!! I thought I could never do CC but it was our last choice after a month of sleepless nights!! Surprisingly it was as if she 'needed' to put 'herself' to sleep, she now sleeps through and has day sleeps rather than catnaps!! You have to choose to start and stick with it - it's too confusing for her if you go in half hearted!! it's difficult for both of you but definetly worth it!! I read the book "Solve your child's sleep problems' by Dr Richard Ferber.... other books have been suggested in other threads in this forum too...
CC was hard but it was the best thing we could have done for my little angel!!

Have to go - it's bed time! Good luck, let us know how you go,
Sweet dreams

[evike]

hi jlk,

I would suggest you to give it a real go. I had exactly the same feelings about CC but a couple of days ago I attanded a sleep class because my 6 month old little girl would not go to sleep by herself in her cot. She was standing and holding onto the side of the cot and screaming. But honestly it took her 15 minutes to settle herself. Since then I put her down and falls asleep within 4 minutes. Without me!!!! How good is that.
And we have now 2 hours sleeps during the day too. You dont understand how easier it is.
I could only say that I wish I tried CC earlier.

Good luck!!!!!
evike

[Jolou]

Hi Jlk,
I too have tried CC but I cannot do it and it does not work for my baby. I have recently read parts of "The Baby whisperer" by Tracey hogg and have been using her Pick up/ Put down method with Caitlyn (8 months). I have been doing it for over a week now and we have seen some results. She is going to sleep in her cot with assistance (something she has never done before) and is sleeping for much longer during the day. It is still really hard to do and very frustrating but it is much more gentle than CC and you are able to stay with your baby and comfort them if they need it. I would highly recommend it to anyone. I am going to stick with it even though I am really struggling and I hope to get Caitlyn to sleep through the night within the next month and to be able to completely self settle in the next 2 months.
I have nothing against people who use CC and I know it does work for some but it is definitely not for Caitlyn.
Good luck
Jo :)

[Ivy-Rose]

Hi there,
I thought I was doing it right and went weeks with my first bub and got no where.
I finally deicded to go to the ECHC and the nurse got me to watch a video and explained thigs to me. I can't rememeber exactly what I did that wasn't quite right but I noticed and when I did it right he went to sleep within 5 minutes the frist time and no crying his next sleep.
Just a thought anyway. But really do what feels right by you in the end.
I am using CC for bub 3 and she is doing really well. She sleeps through now and as a better routine inthe day. She is 7 mths and she has 2 day sleeps at least and eats so much better.
Good luck
Cheers Emma

[vickster]

Hi Jlk,

Just read your post and thought that you might like to see if you can borrow this book: "Sleep Right, Sleep Tight" by Rosey Cummings.

It has in it, a modified controlled settling technique in it especially for 6-12mo. I've read the chapter (but am not up to that age bracket yet) and it seems to have some really useful tips for settling the older baby who, like yours, stands up in the cot and is difficult to settle.

From the bits and pieces we're all telling each other, this book seems to have a different sleep technique than the traditional CC.

Let us know how you go.

Vicki & Charlotte

[mummy79]

Hello, ive posted a similiar post on another thread, I know you might feel guilty, but they need the first few days in order to be happy and you can't always be feeding her to sleep - how is that going to go when your child is 3 and won't sleep?. The other thing is that if you need support go to a sleep centre...i did and i'm am getting great results! They talked to me the whole time my son was crying (we went into him every 10-15mins to settle him) don't leave it too long though otherwise you'll have a harder time. I went to Tresillian Day stay and that night he slept 13 1/2 hours!!! I've got my life back, u should try this, there is nothing to loose!

[StormAngel]

Unfortunatly living in a remote country town i don't have the facilitys that the cities do my closest tressilian is 400kms away.

[mummy79]

Hi JLK, sorry to hear your nearest Tresillian is so far away. Basically I was told that my baby does not need to be feed all the time (i knew that already, it was just the easy way out) and to start streaching out feeds. In order to get you're baby to sleep without her being on the breast all the time you will have to get her into a routine of feed,play,sleep (or how ever you want to do it). I don't think you need for your baby to get so upset when you put her down. If she is starting to get too worked up go in and pick her up, give her a cuddle and when she calms down put her back down...this may take a couple of hours, but she is going to get the message sooner than later. If she doesn't settle while in you're arms i was told just put them down anyway, they're better crying in bed than you're arms...it's so hard i know, i still feel guilty doing it, but it is worth it!!! Also if they're just grizzling just leave them. My son was playing and had an occasional grizzle for 1 1/2 hours yesterday, but i just left him and he fell asleep. According to research, baby's sleep a lot better when they have gone off to sleep without any help. I hope this helps a bit??? it's still all fresh in my head so if you want any more info don't hesitate to ask me! i'm willing to share valuable information if it means you're baby will sleep as well as my lil man is! take care!!!

[Jolou]

Hi again JLK,
How are you going?
I just wanted to say I agree with the advice given by Mummy79. I have been using this method with Caitlyn( 8 months) for 2 weeks and we are still making progress. Yes it is slow progress and very frustrating but it is so much better for us than CC. She is now sleeping much better during the day and we have had 3 nights where I have not had to co-sleep with her. Believe me I still have days when I just want to give up but I know I have to keep going for both of us. The details of the method can also be found at babywhipserer.com and there is a forum that is good to read through. I know how hard it is when there are no services available to help. We lived in Darwin for the first 4 1/2 months of Caitlyn life and there were no sleep clinics. We went to one in Brisbane as soon as we could and it didn't help anyway. My best advice is to find someone to talk to and don't keep it to yourself like I did. It is not your fault and you have not failed by admitting that you are having trouble.
Best of luck and if you would like to chat please just private message me and I will give you my e-mail address.
Jo