Other mums pregnant in late 30's???

[FellowTraveller]

Hi All...
I am new to this site and can't believe how big it is! I am 39 years old and 36 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I become really annoyed with the whole age thingo. Just people passing judgement I guess. I know that people have commented that I will be an 'old mum'. What does this mean anyway!?? When I explain to people that I am feeling tired - probably because I am over 36 weeks - some comment that at my age it is understandable...maybe so, but I am also heavily pregnant!!
I have had a smooth pregnancy - except for the beginning with all the tests - that was all abit yuck! But we pulled through okay - so far! I am keeping fit by regular exercise and worked till 33 weeks.
Maybe I am fearing being an older mum and that's why I get so upset!!??? But I must say - I don't feel it.
I guess I am wondering what other mums in there mid - late 30's are feeling?
Any thoughts??? Sandy

[millymoo]

Hi Sandy...I would love to chat to you about this topic. I was 37 the week before I had Amelia and had similar comments. I have a busy day today but BBL

You sound like you are doing great!

[MariaO]

Just ignore the cheeky blighters bosco. Older mum, younger mum, who cares? It does not make a blind bit of difference in caring for and loving your child.
Most people are tired at the end of their pregnancy.
There are pros and cons to motherhood at any age. I might have had more energy in my twenties but I would have been a lunatic mother!

Congratulations and welcome to bubhub.

[shed]

Hi Sandy...I would love to chat to you about this topic. I was 37 the week before I had Amelia

Hey! same here! I turned 37 exactly one week before my son was born. I had a good pregnancy except for when I dislocated my pelvis, which wasn't due to age I assure you!

I also had a very easy labour and a lovely calm sweet baby who is perfect in every way.

I love being an older mum. I always wanted to be an older mum so this is how I wanted it to be. I didn't feel any more tired than any other pregnant woman and finished work four weeks before he was born.

I never got any comments. Not one single one. I can't believe anyone would be so rude! Everyone around me was far too excited for me to be negative. Besides that, five, yes FIVE of my friends were pregnant around the same time and they are all longtime friends so around the same age as me, so I felt completely normal.

Its the done thing don't you know?? LOL

DP wants another baby in a couple of years, so I will be around 40 for the next one and I don't give a damn what anyone else thinks. And neither should you.

[charlen49]

:thumbsup: here here....totally agree....ive been a mum at 25 and now a mum at 36........and u are exactly right....at 36 weeks u are tired because u havent got long to go....tell them all to pull their heads in and get with reality!;) ....bbl for a chat( wait and see what Helen has to say....we have similar views i think!)...anyhow congrats......and have fun being a new mum....because they grow sooooo fast!

[madreader]

Everything what the other ladies said. Be proud and dont let anyones comments upset you too much. I had my last child at 36 and i also had similar things happen to me. Take care and be proud.:yelclap: :wave:

[millymoo]

What a fabulous thread!!It took me a long time to decide to have a baby with DH number 2 and that is why I was 37 but age never seemed to matter to me.

Can I just say I adore being a mum to Amelia at 37, far more than at 21 with DD1..and D2 at 24..and didn`t think it was possible to like it more. So Bosco you are in for a great time.

There are so many positive points on this thread too!:thumbsup: to us older mummies!

Shed I too am thinking of going again.....so stick with me as I will be 40 too.When is yr bday then..July? Many of my friends haven`t started to have babies yet . Times change and they have had there career!I admire you very much for making those decisions and sticking by them.

What about you Charli????

Sandy altho I was very sick my pregnancies in my 20`s were smooth sailing but labour wasnt and I had all the stitches etc. I was also far too young in most of my friends and families circles minds. Add on 12 years and I was still sick but had a smooth labour with no stitches and healed quickl y!

What i will say though is that i developed some problems:-
Underactive Thyroid(not preg related but pain in butt none the less!)
Gestational Diabetes
Pubic Symphesis (like a dislodged pelvis!) after a fall at the pool at 32 weeks!

And when i talked about it some mentioned that i wasn`t young anymore and that i was bound to get a few problems.i couldn`t take it in really as I don`t feel old.I stopped discussing my problems in the end and just got on with it!It also carried on into after she was born when my weight stayed on longer..."well your not 21 any more":banghead:

I think it is marvelous what you and all of us are doing and knickers to the people who pass judgement with their small minds. it is very offensive.

When I was 21 I was too young and at 36 too old.....15 yrs in between is not alot really is it to get it right!

As you can tell I am passionate about it as I love being with amelia so much at this ripe old age of 37!

[shed]

Yes, I am 25th July and bubby is 31st July.

I must say, that birthday was a bit uneventful, sat on the couch all day, couldn't put my shoes on to go anywhere and basically felt like a whale.

Alot more exciting than the previous birthday though, at 36 I laid in bed all day after chucking a sickie at work and cried all day about being so old and still no baby... :crying:

oh that makes me feel a bit sad.

But yeah, 37 rolls around, puffy and sitting on the couch with a huge grin on my face!!

So nothing could really get me down. Even if anyone had commented I would have dismissed it. You can't go back in time and get pregnant earlier!!

[*Sparkles*]

Hi Bosco and welcome to the hub :wave:
Congrats on your pregnancy too.

I am 37 and I have just had my first bub. I have to say that I haven't been judged by anyone yet. But most people think I am younger anyway :p
I found it physically demanding to be pregnant at this age, but I definitely think the years of experience and wisdom are a huge bonus.

I will be having another bub in the next couple of years, I'm not going to let my age stop me so long as bubs is healthy.

I hope you have a smooth labour too.

[millymoo]

I have to try and keep looking young....look at the age of DH!!! Pressure:eek:

[shed]

thats why I picked an oldie LOL.

I love that people just presume I am younger because I have a baby. Coz only YOUNG people have babies, right??

Okay :D .

[PunkyDiva]

:smiliedance: Welcome to BubHub Sandy.
Well I am ttc, to be a mum for the 6th time:fingerscrossed: at age 39.
I copped the too young to be a mum with my first (I was 21 but looked younger),then it was don't you know what causes it yet?? and I imagine this time around it'll not only be the age but also the number of kids. You can't win people always their two sense worth and although prob unintentional it does hurt. So :hugs: for all us older mums.

[charlen49]

What a fabulous thread!!It took me a long time to decide to have a baby with DH number 2 and that is why I was 37 but age never seemed to matter to me.

Can I just say I adore being a mum to Amelia at 37, far more than at 21 with DD1..and D2 at 24..and didn`t think it was possible to like it more. So Bosco you are in for a great time.

There are so many positive points on this thread too!:thumbsup: to us older mummies!

Shed I too am thinking of going again.....so stick with me as I will be 40 too.When is yr bday then..July? Many of my friends haven`t started to have babies yet . Times change and they have had there career!I admire you very much for making those decisions and sticking by them.

What about you Charli????

Sandy altho I was very sick my pregnancies in my 20`s were smooth sailing but labour wasnt and I had all the stitches etc. I was also far too young in most of my friends and families circles minds. Add on 12 years and I was still sick but had a smooth labour with no stitches and healed quickl y!

What i will say though is that i developed some problems:-
Underactive Thyroid(not preg related but pain in butt none the less!)
Gestational Diabetes
Pubic Symphesis (like a dislodged pelvis!) after a fall at the pool at 32 weeks!

And when i talked about it some mentioned that i wasn`t young anymore and that i was bound to get a few problems.i couldn`t take it in really as I don`t feel old.I stopped discussing my problems in the end and just got on with it!It also carried on into after she was born when my weight stayed on longer..."well your not 21 any more":banghead:

I think it is marvelous what you and all of us are doing and knickers to the people who pass judgement with their small minds. it is very offensive.

When I was 21 I was too young and at 36 too old.....15 yrs in between is not alot really is it to get it right!

As you can tell I am passionate about it as I love being with amelia so much at this ripe old age of 37!
I luv your pasiion helen...it inspires me......and hey i've seen you in the flesh....and i thinks it ur dh that has the pressure luv keeping up with gorgeous u!:yes:
Hmm what about me.....well in those first few weeks ....when ur tired etc...i thought no way....but now 6 months down the track......i think yep...when bub is about 11/2 like to think about getting preggas.......so she has a little playmate....just got to convince dp:eek: ..lol

oh and ditto....great thread!

[thewoolsta]

Hi Hels bels
Im 37(8) soon..
just had my 2nd, Its so full on once the 2nd one comes along.
youll be feeding the baby in one room and the older one will be out in the loungeroom breaking the TV or something, and you can hear it but you,
A) cant get up to stop it cos youll wake the baby and, B) cant yell out to stop it cos youll wake the baby lol, and youre so sleep deprived that you dont care if hes breaking the TV as long as you dont wake the baby up! lmao
Good luck:)
Anyway the new trend is have em later cos we were all busy having a life b4, so I find alot of mums are in the late 30s to early 40s now.

[millymoo]

:hugs: Thank you Charlie!

PD didnt know you were ttc....:fingerscrossed:

[*Sparkles*]

Hi Hels bels
Im 37(8) soon..
just had my 2nd, Its so full on once the 2nd one comes along.
youll be feeding the baby in one room and the older one will be out in the loungeroom breaking the TV or something, and you can hear it but you,
A) cant get up to stop it cos youll wake the baby and, B) cant yell out to stop it cos youll wake the baby lol, and youre so sleep deprived that you dont care if hes breaking the TV as long as you dont wake the baby up! lmao
Good luck:)
Anyway the new trend is have em later cos we were all busy having a life b4, so I find alot of mums are in the late 30s to early 40s now.

Oh geez thanks, I have so much to look forward to then! :laughing: ;)

[lastone]

Hi All... i'm like Millymoo - 15 year gap - am now 29wk preg..

I had the "too young" thing at 20.. and now am getting the "older mum" comments at 35... i'm NOT old!!! well I don't feel like I am anyway! it makes you wonder - WHAT is the "acceptable" age?? surely in this day and age mid to late 30's is becoming the norm..

You guys are making me feel better with your talk of easier labours at our "old" ages! fingers crossed!!! :fingerscrossed:

[millymoo]

Hi There!!

Yes what is the acceptable age??? I think it is personal choice. I was reading in the paper at the weekend that in the Hunter the largest percentage rise in mums is in our age range!

Did anyone else see the article?

Iastone where are you? PM me if you don`t want people to know!

[lastone]

Hi Millymoo... i'm in the north west in Sydney... how about you?

(sorry for the gap in responding - had a shocker last week and spent most of the week in bed!! - feel a bit more human now and am back at work - maybe "old age" is catching up with me this pregnancy!!)

[millymoo]

Hi There..great to see you again..I am in Lake Macquarie. How are you feeling? You must be 30+ wekks now:yelclap:

[lastone]

Millymoo... am feeling better .. thanks! have started taking Iron tablets as well as the Folic Acid and feel a bit less like i'm walking through mud!! have low blood pressure so it's not helping.. and apparently a bit of anaemia.. but it's better than high blood pressure so should think myself lucky!! will be 30 weeks on Wednesday - yay.. finally in the 30's!!... mind you it takes so long to get there... it'll go too quick for my liking now i'm sure!!!

How are you going?

Lake Macquarie... that's up the coast from Syd isn't it? i'm sure my mum lives at the bottom of it... she hasn't been there long... Summerland Point I think its called...

[allsgood]

Hi

I'm 38 and 5wks pregnant. We thought due to my age that it would take ages for conception, but no! First month not really trying hahaha
I have a 6 1/2 yr old from a previous relationship. I am glad that I am an 'older mum', I was way to screwed up until about 32 to have a child. Now I have my life in order and this time round have a fantastic loving partner, which took me 37 years to find Valentine My only fear is regarding any disabilities the baby may have due to me being an 'older mum' but thinking positive that instead of 1 chance in 109 of a child with different abilities I have 108 chances that the child will not have any disability. It is more the unknown that is scary.
One other thing which is a little related to being an older mum but thought I would tack it onto the end .... I'm scared of being lonely, I'm a kiwi, partner is Aussie and previously I have found it lonely over here with a child. Some of the play groups seem to be specifically for the under 25yr old mums and I just didnt fit in. Anyone living in the Parkinson, Algester or surrounding suburbs in Qld???? Believe I will travel for company .... omg now I sound desperate :no:
Ok I've finished rambling now :yes:

[shed]

allsgood, just go along to the playgroup, who cares if you are the oldest? You might make some new friends anyway, just go with an open mind.

I say that but I haven't been to playgroup myself yet, LOL.

Pity you don't live in Sydney. I am about to turn 38 and bubby is about to turn one, all happening this month.

Another kiwi with an aussie partner here too, with our little baby who has already been back to NZ on his little aussie passport!

[Grace3]

I'm 35 years old and due in feb 08 with baby no.3.
I had my first when I was 31yrs old.

I don't feel old. I've never had anyone make a comment either. But you can't win and please everyone.

Ps I had two very easy labours. Not sure if this is age related though

Grace

[busymummyof4]

I'm 35 years old and due in feb 08 with baby no.3.
I had my first when I was 31yrs old.

I don't feel old. I've never had anyone make a comment either. But you can't win and please everyone.

Ps I had two very easy labours. Not sure if this is age related though

Grace

Hi to all the over 30's! I'm a 34 yo mother of 4. I guess I've not really identified with my age all that specifically but here I am over 30!


Congratulations Grace3. All the best for a wonderful pregnancy!

I was 34 with my last pregnancy. We were trying for no. 3 and got no. 3 and 4 (twins). I was 28 when we had no.1 and 31 when I had no 2.

I don't think labour is related to age at all. You will go on to have another beautiful delivery. All the best.
:thumbsup:

[millymoo]

Grace3 and Allsgood :party: Congratulations!!

Be interested to see how it all goes and yes I would probably like another as am loving being a Mum at 37 rather than early 20`s as before.

Age is just a number and can be too easily judged!

Some of my best friends haven`t even begun families yet as busy with careers.