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hi ladies here is an update (sry its from an email, sascha is screaming and im at an internet cafe)
well i left corey (with nothing!) cant believe that i did it, it has been a long time coming but still shocked. I feel so depressed today, i really wasnt expecting to feel so bad. a councillor rang me back from anglicare i dropped in this morning to have a chat. It all happened the day mum went home so 2/3 days ago, he was treating me really badly, i spent all day out in the city as corey didnt want to spend time wit us, alexander was screaming etc, he rang and was abusive and rude to me, then i just snapped. I said to him(over the phone) "thats it, enough, no im not coming home or listening to your abuse anymore!!!!" and i didnt go home. i got nappies from the shop and stayed wit a friend. now im staying wit another friend until i find somewhere, but the trouble is the bank is still making us pay morgage, centrelink wont give me rent assistance, i get no child support and corey has cut me off from all money! oh boy! i get centrelink help in 2 weeks and i still have my job, looking for daycare so i can go back, my boss has been great, housing services are terrible and it sound silly but the baby is having a hard time adjusting. corey says he doesnt want to know us anymore , i just feel so sad as i do love him. so i will email soon, he stole my computer(but i found it) just gotta get some new cords. thanks for caring and talk soon
I am so glad you contacted us. I have been soo worried about you and kept checking your profile to check.
I am so sorry you are feeling down. You did make the right decision about leaving though - even though you might not think you did right this moment - it will improve.
You are a strong lady and I admire your courage. Please keep in touch with me and everyone.
Take care Sabrina, be the strong brave woman you are. If he truely loved you he would treat you with the love and respect that you deserve.
All my happy thoughts coming your way.
Just sent an email, I hope it helps and I hope you get back online soon!
Everything will work out, just a hurdle or two ...
Stay safe hun
W & T's sleepy mummy
saschasmum - how brave of you. ((((Big massive hugs)))) I hope you are coping ok, and that things get better for you & Sascha. Surely he'll have to give you child support at some time? I think it's the law.
Good for you & I hope you are both ok.:)
I know it's hard - I was kicked out of home when I was young but it does all work out in the end and you will be a better person for it.
Stay in touch! Take Care :)
I know it must be so scary to be on your own. I'm sorry that you have to be in this place. But remember how hard you were pushed before you decided to leave. Of course you still love him (or the man that he should be), but despite that you just couldn't tolerate it anymore. The fact that he cares nothing for your wellfare right now speaks volumes about the quality of man he is, you deserve so much better. This is your first step towards that new life.
((hugs)) to you, the salvos can prob also help you out with accom and grocery money.
Sabrina I was getting worried about you. glad to hear that you finally left and hopefully you can start afresh and not have to deal with such awful abuse again.
Good on you for leaving. You are a very strong woman and mother and you will fight your way through this because you have courage and strength.
Stay safe and try to contact us when you can Sweetie.
Thinking of you Sabrina. Hang in there and keep us all posted.
sabrina (((((big hugs to you))))))) you are a brave woman keep in touch
and i hope everything works out for you...
thanks for the replies
it just hurts so much to lose everything. i know they are material things but i worked so hard for them
my family want me too come home but they have set conditions and i really cant deal wit their probs so we are going to make a go of it on our own! i have seen a few 1 bedroom big apartments, i figure that will do for now until i can apply for rent assistance etc. at least i didnt get the sack! bloody dh cleared me out and then started hiding things, but i got the better of him and have contacted the insurance company and they have agreed to pay me a bit more ha ha ! i even took back the electronic spa back massager that i brought him last xmas that he never even bothered to open, and to my delight target said seems they still have themand it was still sealed they could give me a credit for $129, so i can now get a few things and sascha some more clothes.
thanks for the private messages, i did go to a few housing places and got no help, but am going to apply for a bond loan and will ring those places that you kind ladies sent me. i am feeling so much better just talking to you all. i have even managed to change my change my hotmail password. i will go and get my mail redirected now just incase dh gets nastier! i am just sad he hasnt rung, doesnt care about his son, i will also stay in melbourne until march, hoping dh wants to see sascha.
if anyone wants to meet for a coffee, just email or let me know
(vodafone) thanks again, \
You are a stronger woman than me. Good Luck in your new path and know that you are doing the best thing for you and your child :)
You sound like you are doing great Sabrina, so many plans and things to do - keep going forward and before you know it you will be where you want to be.
You should be very proud of yourself ;)
Great big hugs.
It's good to hear from you. I hope you are coping ok.Stay strong,you and Sascha will be fine.:)
You are a brave and strong women Sabrina, you have made the best decision for both you and your precious son. I wish you both nothing but pure happiness and love.
You are so much stonger than I am Sabrina. I only hope that if I ever found myself in a situation like yours that I would be able to be brave like you and get out.
Thinking of you always hon.
Take care and be safe
Wow - congrats on leaving him. I'm sorry that it wasn't with more of your stuff though.
That's good news about Target - glad they could help you out like that.
Take care, Sabrina. Will be thinking about you and Sascha.
Sabrina, if you don't mind second hand clothes I could spare some. What size is Sascha?
I will send you an sms soon.
Sabrina! We have never chatted before but just read about your situation. You have a huge heart so of course you are sad, and love hurts so much when it doesn't turn out the way you had wished. You can do this as you have proven how strong you are by getting through what you have, and the best gift that you can give you and your darling boy, is respect for yourself and belief in what you can achieve - you have shown this by leaving and you are worth admiring for it. Stay strong and stay in touch.
Hope your days get brighter
Best wishes to you both
My prayers and best wishes are with you all!
You are such a brave brave woman...I really hope everything works out for the better for you and your son.
Just a comment...
I am so disappointed, surely when a break up occurs, shouldn't the primary care giver (in most cases the mum) and children be the ones who are assured of a roof over their heads? Wouldn't it be in the best interests of the children to have them in their own home and not contribute to an already sad situation by uprooting them from their safety zone? I can't see how we as a society, tolerate these situations where mums and children are looking for places to live whilst one solitary person stays in the family home! Regardless of who left who the main focus should be to keep the children in their routine and their home so as to not confuse or frighten them any more than they already would be!
I can't understand how this is allowed to happen:(
You have done the right thing, just hang in there for now it will get easier every day, easier said than done i know :o
Keep in touch
you and Sascha are in my prayers
You are such a strong and wonderful woman! What you have done takes such courage, and although things may seem uncertain, you will look back in years to come and be so glad you made this decision. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are. I'll be thinking of you and little Sascha - give him lots of cuddles!
Take care Sabrina i hope everything work's out for you soon.
Big hugs XXXXX.
Well done! I only just read and posted about your situation in the thread you wrote about this decision - so I have little to say!
If you want to talk pm me, even though you don't know me from a bar of soap!!!
It gets easier every day, you have done the right thing for your children and one day you'll be so proud of yourself for surviving this turmoil.
Lots and lots of love!
I've just been sitting here trying to remember what your username could be. I'm letting you know that I got your email last week when you left Corey. Don't listen to his false promises if he tries to get you to come home. Be Strong.
I don't know how else I can get hold of you. I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you, and please contact me soon.
Big Hugs from your Lismore Friend Melissah
You hang in there, things will get heaps better soon, I am sure
Still praying for you and Sascha:)
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