why is it always a debate

[Nowhere]

or slagging match what ever you like to call when ever there is a thread about botle feeding or a thread about breast feeding or tube feeding what ever the case may be

We all know each others veiws on it and at the end of the day no amount of title tatle is going to change that

cant we just GET OVER IT there is more to being a mum than the way you choose to feed your child

No way of feeding makes any mother better or worse and we all know everyones veiws on it so why i wonder does it always end up turniong sour

Im just wondering whyits such saw point for some of us and why it seem to be so empowering for others

I really hope this doesnt turn nasty its not my intention

[Ashleigh<3]

I hope it doesn't turn nasty but I'm sure it will.

You're doing a wonderful thing MM.
Just because your child is tube fed doesn't mean you're not sharing a bond with your baby, any form of feeding is bonding.
She is your world.

If we ever came across a belligerent intended post, I assure you, you would have more then half of bubhub on your side.

We're applauding you and are all here to offer you support.

:hugs:

[rynosmum]

Unfortunately people will always disagree on things.

I agree with you though. To me, I admire people for their inner qualities. It doesn't have anything to do with how they feed their bubs, how they birthed them or even what nappies they put on them.

Live and let live - at least for topics like this.:hugs:

[natasha]

If we agreed on everything life would be boring. But I do agree that we should just support eachother, whatever desicions (how do u spell that anyway, my spell check in broken...:rolleyes: )......we make.

People get grumpy when they feel like their decision (hmm that looks beter maybe).....is being questioned and belittled. They get defensive and therefor bite back.

[SorenLorensen]

I hope it doesn't turn nasty but I'm sure it will.

sad but true and most prob will

i do agree with you though, all that should matter to everyone is that DD is fed and is healthy, and no one has the right to judge me on what it is that i feed her

[misskittyfantastico]

I truly think that there are ALWAYS going to people out there who have different opinions. I think that if someone say "OOooooh errrr, YOU don't BREASTFEED??? - you eeeevil person" , then they are silly and best ignored. If someones says "Breast is best" it doesn't mean that if you FF, or tube feed, you are bad or wrong....it means you are feeding your baby. I BF'ed and FF, I use sposies and MCN's, I do all sorts of different stuff....and I couldn't give a stuff what people think (Unless, they are saying "Why, Kitty, you are simply superb"...then I listen!)

We need to believe in ourselves:yes: Ignore the rubbish.

[SorenLorensen]

Why, Kitty, you are simply superb, and if i may say what a superb post :yelclap: :p

[misskittyfantastico]

Why, Kitty, you are simply superb, and if i may say what a superb post :yelclap: :p

:laughing: :laughing:

*takes bow and accepts bouquet*

[Ashleigh<3]

I concur, kitty you are most definitely superb!

MM- Listen to Kitty. lol

[hayles86]

It shouldnt matter how we feed our babies, what should matter is that we ARE feeding our babies. I dont understand why this is all a hot topic either. But i find everything to do with being a mum and looking after our kids is a hot topic. I Bf DD for 6months and 3 of those months she didnt put weight on :( so i had no choice but to ff. Which i find is heaps better for her and i.
As long as they are healthy thats all that matters :)

[~rambox~]

I truly think that there are ALWAYS going to people out there who have different opinions. I think that if someone say "OOooooh errrr, YOU don't BREASTFEED??? - you eeeevil person" , then they are silly and best ignored. If someones says "Breast is best" it doesn't mean that if you FF, or tube feed, you are bad or wrong....it means you are feeding your baby. I BF'ed and FF, I use sposies and MCN's, I do all sorts of different stuff....and I couldn't give a stuff what people think (Unless, they are saying "Why, Kitty, you are simply superb"...then I listen!)

We need to believe in ourselves:yes: Ignore the rubbish.

Couldnt have said it better myself :thumbsup:

[FourAngelKisses]

Haven't read all the posts, but I think it's because we get "breast is best" rammed down our throats so much that people think that if you aren't BFing, then you are depriving your child of nutrients.

[harvey123]

i agree, we should all as mum's be very proud and supportive of each other. i think every mum does whats best for them and their bub. big pat on the back for all of us. :hugs:

[shed]

There are many methods of feeding and many reasons behind the choices. Breast is best, that has been proven time and again and breastfeeding rates are still quite low.

That doesn't mean that people who don't breastfeed are starving their children and I don't believe that anyone really thinks that.

I breastfeed because I find it easy, lucky me. If it wasn't easy I would use formula and I wouldn't feel guilty about it at all and nobody could make me. I would still know that breastmilk is best out of all the options though, that wouldn't change. It wouldn't make me a bad mother though, its just a fact, not a judgement.

[alanasmum]

I think being a good parent is feeding, caring for, nurturing, loving, clothing and educating our children. And how we choose to do all that is up to us. People are always going to have opinions on how we choose to parent. That will never change. Part of being a parent is learning to filter the good advice from the bad.

[SamanthaJane]

I just think people are being way too ignorant when it comes to different parenting styles.

It's just like any issue, whether it be feeding, circumcision, immunisation, cloth/disposable. No one is going to do the same things as you, because we all have different views on things. We've all been brought up differently, we all have your own personal financial, medical, emotional, phsyical and psycholigcal differences.

To judge someone else just because they do things differently to you is just ignorant and wrong. It's none of my business what anyone else does for their child, it doesn't effect me at all.

Unless a parent is doing something illegal then you have no right to judge or comment.

[JATS]

The thing about being a parent is that now more than ever before in your life you come to understand the old saying "d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't.

Everyone is a critic and no matter what your choices some people will always find something to critisise.

Feeding, clothing, toilet training, daily routine or none, pets or no pets, what toys you get for them... whatever you choose there will be those who dissagree, and a few of them will feel the need to speak up and convert you to the 'right' way of doing things!

"There's a right way and wrong way to do everything, and the wrong way is trying to make everyone else do it the right way!"

To be a great mum all you have to do is the best YOU can. The only critic you need to worry about is your child.

[SairBear]

stupid debate .. who cares how u feed/clothe ur child as long as its done:D

I Breast Feed and Formula Feed atm... I hate the guilty feeling i get from that even tho im doin whats best for my baby. But then again i hate the looks i get for BF in public .. You just cant win!!

Tho BF is great for not only bub but u also eg helping later down the track to decrease chances of some cancers and osteoperosis. But you can only do YOUR best and sometimes that means formula:thumbsup:

[JoJoMart]

I've done heaps of reading on the benefits of breast feeding vs bottle feeding and while I totally agree that 'breast is best' it doesn't always work. In my case I persevered for nearly 3 months with both BF & FF and have since moved to feeding 100% formula to my bub. Formula provides all the nutrients a baby needs, it's just 'missing' some of the goodies that breast milk has like antibodies etc.

People shouldn't judge because a lot of people bottle feed because they weren't successful at BF and it was more stressful for them & baby to BF than to FF.