Did the fear of morning sickness stop you from having anymore children?

[Aquamarine]

Just wondering if any bubhubbers stopped having more children because of morning sickness.

I had bad morning sickness with all three of my children and to be honest it scares the heck out of me.

We want a :bfp: sometime next year with our 4th and final bub but to be honest I can't get the feeling of ms out of my head.:eek: :crying: :barf:

[kimbo]

I only have had one baby but the morning sickness was horrendous.

I remember telling people that it isn't worth it and that I don't want this anymore ( I think I was almost falling into depression as it was constant sickness from 6 weeks - 17 weeks) I feel terrible for thinking that way but I couldn't help it at the time.

As soon as the morning sickness went I knew I would have more and now we have DS I can't wait for no.2.

I am prepared that I will be really sick and if I am my mum will come up from Sydney for part of the time to look after DS as that is probably my main concern that I couldn't look after him.

My close friend has two children and she won't have any more as she was extremely sick and was in hospital both times, luckily for me it didn't quite come to that.

I'll have my fingers crossed for you if you have another one that you will sail through the pregnancy with no MS. :)

[Aquamarine]

Yep my main concern is the fact that I am so sick that I find it so hard to care for the other children.

I said the same thing every time I was sick that there was no way I would have more after feeling that way, but I now have 3.

I have to say that DS#3 was the most difficult by far.

I actually felt like I was dying.:crying:

I am just going to try to think positive for next time though.

[hayleylea]

Hi, im currently TTC #2 and im scared i will get MS as bad as i did with #1. I was sick ALL day and ALL night from 6 weeks till 20 weeks! The thing that scares me is like 3spunkyboys said..im scared i wont be able to care for DS if im that sick. Luckily i have alot of family and friends willing to help out....i am praying that when i do fall i wont get MS!! :fingerscrossed: anyway!

[Aquamarine]

Hi, im currently TTC #2 and im scared i will get MS as bad as i did with #1. I was sick ALL day and ALL night from 6 weeks till 20 weeks! The thing that scares me is like 3spunkyboys said..im scared i wont be able to care for DS if im that sick. Luckily i have alot of family and friends willing to help out....i am praying that when i do fall i wont get MS!! :fingerscrossed: anyway!


I hope all goes well for you too.:fingerscrossed: :yes:

[nats]

To be honest words like "Lochia" and "sloughing off" practically prevent me from more children :(

[Aquamarine]

To be honest words like "Lochia" and "sloughing off" practically prevent me from more children :(

Sorry for sounding silly, but what does this mean?:o :confused: :)

[nats]

Everytime I remember about the post partum bleed and discharge for 6 weeks :eek: I just feel :barf:
I'll be dreading it for the entire next pg :no:

Lochia ... eeewww! VOMIT!!!

[Salina]

I am pregnant with my 3rd, and although a 4th child in itself is daunting with the challenges of raising a larger family, I have been so ill this time around that I definetely will not be having another pregnancy. My poor two DS's have suffered boredom and lack of cuddles - I have been so sick, sometimes the smell of my own children (and they aint smelly) has induced vomiting and I never want to go through that again!

[bronny-jane]

nope not scared, i had it all the way through with dd 1 and dd2, but only 10 days with dd3... i just eat banana's

[wannabemum]

I had horrible ms with this pregnancy and was put in hospital a few times in my first trimester with HG. At 29 weeks I am still suffering but its liveable. Plus I am also suffering the disabling effects of chronic fatigue syndrome, so pregnancy isnt something I want to jump into again faint heartedly in the near future.
However I know once this bub comes I will want another :hugs: , will just have to wait a few years until I get my confidence about pregnancy back.....

So no, ms hasn't stopped me from having more children, definetly widened the gap between pregnancies though haha....

[Chub Chub]

I only have had one baby but the morning sickness was horrendous.

I remember telling people that it isn't worth it and that I don't want this anymore ( I think I was almost falling into depression as it was constant sickness from 6 weeks - 17 weeks) I feel terrible for thinking that way but I couldn't help it at the time.

As soon as the morning sickness went I knew I would have more and now we have DS I can't wait for no.2.

I am prepared that I will be really sick and if I am my mum will come up from Sydney for part of the time to look after DS as that is probably my main concern that I couldn't look after him.

My close friend has two children and she won't have any more as she was extremely sick and was in hospital both times, luckily for me it didn't quite come to that.

I'll have my fingers crossed for you if you have another one that you will sail through the pregnancy with no MS. :)

I could have written that exact post....the only person who understood me was my Mum as she said she was ill when she was pregnant with me.

Everyone else said I was being terrible when I said it wasn't worth it.....well it definately WAS worth it I just didn't know it yet.

Well I always said I'd have kids close together in age....it hasn't happended that way as DD just turned 2 and not 100% sure I can deal with morning sickness again...just the thought of it makes me want to cry:crying:

[kymmy]

I had terrible morning sickness with my girl. I kept on thinking "I must not be ready or mature enough" I just couldn't handle it. I slept a lot cos it was easier. I had no ms to speak of with my first son but had it quite badly again with my last bub. It was awful cos i couldn't rest as I had 2 other children to care for (including a sick toddler and a child to take to school)

I wondered when my pregnant with my girl ' Why on earth would any one want to be pregnant if you have to go through this' This seems crazy now but I was at the point then where I was almost thinking termination was a good idea. I hate myself for thinking that but at the time it made sense (selfish) just to feel some relief.

I hate being pregnant but I don't see any other ways around that when having my own children. If I could skip that 9 months I would be very happy.

[funnyfarm]

I had DD2 five months ago and she will be our last. I have always wanted 4 children but we have decided to stop at 2 as with both children i had HG (in hospital on numerous occasions with both pregnancies). During the second pregnancy it was very hard on DD1 as i couldn't give her any attention. Things became that bad that she used to walk around the house carrying an icecream container pretending to vomit.

I also found it extremely hard as i have no family close by to help out.

[shymmer]

I am 13 weeks with no#1 and the m/s has been so bad I have prayed for a m/c so it will be over. I am terrified it will last the whole pregnancy. This experience has been so unbearable that I am traumatised by it. The only thing that has gotten me this far is the knowledge that I will NEVER do it again. I always wanted 5 children but there is no way on earth I'll go through this again. I am going to request an elective c-section when due so I can have my tubes tied at the same time. It has effected my entire outlook on pregnancy to the point where I loathe it. My body just doesn't handle pregnancy well and I won't put myself through it again. Not to mention that I could not possibly look after an existing child and be this ill at the same time. I'm not against more children but I won't go through pregnancy again to get them.

[Rachael]

I am 13 weeks with no#1 and the m/s has been so bad I have prayed for a m/c so it will be over. I am terrified it will last the whole pregnancy. This experience has been so unbearable that I am traumatised by it. The only thing that has gotten me this far is the knowledge that I will NEVER do it again. I always wanted 5 children but there is no way on earth I'll go through this again. I am going to request an elective c-section when due so I can have my tubes tied at the same time. It has effected my entire outlook on pregnancy to the point where I loathe it. My body just doesn't handle pregnancy well and I won't put myself through it again. Not to mention that I could not possibly look after an existing child and be this ill at the same time. I'm not against more children but I won't go through pregnancy again to get them.


You will think differently when you feel the first kicks :)

My morning sickness was really severe too and I was in hospital with it as well.
I always said one was enough but we have decided another is going to be in the works next year. I am dreading the MS (hopefully I don't get it) but I know I will cope somehow.

In the end it is worth it when your little bub is placed in your arms for the first time and you see his eyes looking up and you and you feel that beautiful connection.

[kymmy]

I am 13 weeks with no#1 and the m/s has been so bad I have prayed for a m/c so it will be over. I am terrified it will last the whole pregnancy. This experience has been so unbearable that I am traumatised by it. The only thing that has gotten me this far is the knowledge that I will NEVER do it again. I always wanted 5 children but there is no way on earth I'll go through this again. I am going to request an elective c-section when due so I can have my tubes tied at the same time. It has effected my entire outlook on pregnancy to the point where I loathe it. My body just doesn't handle pregnancy well and I won't put myself through it again. Not to mention that I could not possibly look after an existing child and be this ill at the same time. I'm not against more children but I won't go through pregnancy again to get them.
:hugs:
Shana - I could have wrote that exact same post almost 8 years ago. (except the c/s part)
Pregnancy doesn't agree with me either yet I still want 5 children. Morning sickness is the worst of it for me.

[rileysmum_wa]

Wow... this is going to sound strange but it is kind of comforting (as well as sad) to read that other people have had HG really bad as well, caus mosty people think that i am over-reacting with mine.... i love the 'just try not to think about it comment'

I had always planned to have 3 or 4, but now I am stopping at 2. With my first i thought that i coped ok, but now i realise that it was just caus i could sleep and mope all the time, and didn't have to worry about anyone else, now that i have someone to look after - my ds - i feel guilty all the time beacuse i can't give him the attention he deserves. He is another one who walks around and pretends to be sick.

I've been in hospital twice so far and have a bleed in my placenta that they think might be from all the straining from vomiting all the time with an empty stomach. As a result I am on ondansetron, which helps a bit but i am really nervous about taking it....
I can't imagine having to look after 2 while going through this again...

[Ally Jane]

wow after reading all your posts i think i have it fairly easy,i was very sick early on and im still throwing up daily @27 weeks but its bearable...it doesnt make me look forward to another pregnancy but i know it will be worth it and i will do it again but ill be dreading the m/s again

[mum23girls]

Have you tried positive thoughts? Affirmations that you will not be sick?

It is my personal opinion that morning sickness is more mind over matter. I went through all three pregnancies with no m/s at all. I was so lucky, but then again I actually talked myself OUT of it!! I will not be sick...I will not feel bad. If you go into it thinking it will happen (or even happen again) chances are it will....

Try it, let me know how you go.:detective:

:hugs: to all you sicko's:kiss: :laughing:

[rileysmum_wa]

At the start of this pregnancy i had no sickness at all and i told myself over and over again that i would not get any..... just ask anyone close to me, i was so positive and so excited.

I find it strange that so many people tink that it is a 'choice' to be so sick that you have to rely on a drip to get enough in you to keep healthy...

BTW i have seen 4 doctors this time and have been told by all 4 that it is believed that pepole who get HG have a kind of allergy to pregnancy hormones, mine are at souch a high level that they thought i was carrying triplets, but i can assure you after quite a few ultrasounds already there is only one

[shymmer]

Mum23girls, I'm very glad you had no m/s, I wouldn't wish this on anyone but to 'tell' yourself you are not sick when you are truely is wishful thinking. I know you mean well and your hugs are appreciated.

I have likened it to when you get food poisoning - try talking yourself out of that! It is your body's reaction to the hormones . . . how can you possibly control that? You have absolutley no control over how much hormone your body will produce during each pregnancy.
My sister had no m/s so I was thinking that might be for me too. But then I got it and just got worse and worse and worse until I couldn't function. None of the women in my circle of friends have had it this bad. They either had none or just a bit. NONE had it 24 hrs a day. NONE were bed ridden (can't walk around for the nausea), NONE were emotionally devistated by how severe it was.
This is most definately not a choice. It has interrupted my entire life - I can do nothing I used to do. Can't clean the house, go food shopping, can't hang the clothes on the line (bending up and down makes me vomit), nothing even normal let alone go to the gym as I used to or be in the car longer than 5 minutes. Tonight is the first night I have even been able to look at the computer long enough to post about how I have felt.

[our little treasures]

I wish eating bananas worked for me! I had HG and was in hosi for it! I found ds was a bit better but still lost heaps and couldn't hold anything down. This bub was bad again but I will have another 1 or 2. It is for such a small amount of time considering how long you have to enjoy your special babies/children/teenagers and adults.
Yes I am saying this because I am obviously over my MS:D

[kymmy]

Have you tried positive thoughts? Affirmations that you will not be sick?

It is my personal opinion that morning sickness is more mind over matter. I went through all three pregnancies with no m/s at all. I was so lucky, but then again I actually talked myself OUT of it!! I will not be sick...I will not feel bad. If you go into it thinking it will happen (or even happen again) chances are it will....

Try it, let me know how you go.:detective:

:hugs: to all you sicko's:kiss: :laughing:
Not as easy as that unfortunately. I likened it to having something foreign in my body ( hubby DNA?) and my body reacting. I tried to keep my mind off it with my girl by sleeping and you would think I would be too busy with 2 kids last bub but still felt awful.
I certainly didn't want to feel blah all day every day. :no

[our little treasures]

Have you tried positive thoughts? Affirmations that you will not be sick?

It is my personal opinion that morning sickness is more mind over matter. I went through all three pregnancies with no m/s at all. I was so lucky, but then again I actually talked myself OUT of it!! I will not be sick...I will not feel bad. If you go into it thinking it will happen (or even happen again) chances are it will....


I know your trying to be helpful but seriously if you had no morning sickness good on you. You obviously were never going to get it! With every pregnancy I bragged oh I haven't got sick I am going to miss out and boom I got really bad!

I am sorry but women who have been through what I have been through would all be totally angered at the MIND OVER MATTER comment!!

I can promise you it is not that simple! I went into #2 pregnancy thinking it might be just as bad and it wasn't half as bad as number 1 and then #3 was horrid! I cannot believe I am explaining myself nor can I believe another person could think because she was lucky, others like myself are making themselfs sick!!:banghead:

[EskimoMumma]

In my three previous experiences, I've been hospitalised 3 times due to severe dehydration, etc accompanied by really bad m.s.

i agree rainbow. I once go to the point wher ei was vomitting only blood, no more stomach acids..:eek:

[mum23girls]

I am sorry if I upset anyone... it was not my intention at all. I am sure there are people that believe in the power of poitive thinking, it may not work for some.

[EskimoMumma]

But morning sickness isnt from negative thinking. Its a sympton/reaction that alot of pregnant women get and positive thinking will not stop certain smells making you want to hurl and be queasy. It might help a bit but it will not stop it. Positive thinking wont reduce your sense of smell and sensitivity...

[reAllytee]

I am sorry if I upset anyone... it was not my intention at all. I am sure there are people that believe in the power of poitive thinking, it may not work for some.

We understand that its not your intention but the fact of the matter is that while there are some cases of m/s where its mainly nausea & you can "positive think" your way out of it, its not the case with many.

I am another who was hospitalised due to Hyperemesis which is extreme m/s & wouldnt have a medical name if it didnt exist due to being in our heads.

I had it extremely bad with DS where i lost 20kgs & was a shade of grey through the entire 9mths i was pg. I even vomitted my way through the labour & had to be on a drip for that due to dehydration.

I started this pregnancy with it again & was miserable. You have no idea how it affects you when all you do is vomit. I needed to carry around a bucket wherever i went because as soon as i moved i'd vomit. You name a place & i can pretty much assure you i have vomitted there & its incredibly frustrating & distressing.

I am one who can talk herself out of being sick but while pg its impossible because im not being sick due to an upset tummy or a bug. Im being sick because i dont agree with pregnancy.

I lost 10kgs this time around & while ive been lucky that it stopped 6wks ago i still have the odd day where i am sick & have bad nausea. I wish i could talk myself out of it but its just not that simple !

Most people just dont understand until they have either seen someone going through it or have it themselves. Just maybe keep more of an open mind.

[summerlump]

i've not had my bubs yet, but initially i was really sick for 3-4 months. i had bad morning sickness and depression...then somewhere in month 4 all of it ended and I was feeling better and better...in my third trimester I feel so good...

this has made me forget how terrible i felt in the first 3-4 months which is good because it was so bad there wre moments where i actually wanted to lose the baby.

[CharlisMummy]

Hi girls

I'm late in on this thread but its encouraging to see that some of you have gone on to have more bubs after Hyperemesis.
I had it from 6 weeks until the end, hospitalised 5 times, vomiting blood etc and I really just wanted to die. I couldnt imagine anything being worth feeling like that but in the end it is!
I really don't know if I can go through it again. If I do it will have to be when DD is old enough to understand.
It makes it even harder to cope when people tell you its all in your head or to 'try a dry biscuit before getting out of bed' wtf?? do they think you would be in hospital if it was as easy as eating a biscuit??:laughing: