Why stuff me around?????????

[the_original_duchess]

Why does grant feel the need to stuff me around?????
last night he came over to pick up the car, and he came inside, i fell asleep on the lounge waiting for him.
he went to pick me up and carry me to bed, but woke me up.... then he hugged me and kissed and rubbed my belly...... said he misses me and the kids.
and then this morning, after i had another sleepless night, tell me that he doesnt love me?????
why is he doing this?
doesnt he understand that its killing me? i cant eat, i cant sleep, i just want to die.
why give me false hope and then tear it away? i cant handle it, im about to have a baby. i want to stop crying, but i cant
i rang him after he msg'd me this morning to say i need to know what he wants. and he said that he cant tell me. he needs a few months to get his head around it all.
i told him he isnt welcome at the birth anymore. hayden will be in the NICU because of my diabetes, getting his suger levels checked for the first 12 hours after birth, he can see him then. and then no contact at all until the 9th of june, when he tells me what he wants. by then i know i will have the strength to turn around if he decided to come back, and tell him to p*** off, i dont need him. i'm well and truely over him.
if it were right now then i dont think i would have to strength to do it. but in a few weeks i know i can.
i am NOT going to let him s**** with my head anymore. its stops now. ITS OVER and thats final.
i am worth so much more than this treatment.
thannkgod i can realise this, even at my lowest point.

[mellissa1974]

:hugs::hugs::hugs: to you danielle take care, I think you are doing the right thing.

[Gumby]

In reply to the first part of the thread. He is a loser that knows he still love you but obviously doesnt want the responsibility anymore.
Secondly :yelclap: :hugs: for believing in yourself to have the strength to turn him down. just keep that mind set of "I can" and you will... Take care

[Pobblebonk]

:hugs: Dani.

It's absolutely NOT FAIR on you what he is doing. I cannot believe he would even do this to you when you are so close to having your baby, and are already under heaps of stress as a result of his behaviour. *shakes head* I'm disgusted. I'm beginning to think can Grant do any MORE to you to disgust me?

If it were me in your shoes, I would prefer to have no contact with Grant than have the emotional rollercoaster treatment that he so selfishly feels is his right to dish out. Reasoning being, that with no contact, I would be able to sort my own head out with what is going on, and whether or not I feel that if he decided to come back, I would be able to handle him doing this to me again, or if it's bridges burned so to speak.

He is being unfair, insensitive and selfish.

You ARE worth so much more than this treatment, you are right. And it's always the lowest points that will open your eyes wide.

Has he given you any indication as to why he is behaving like this? Is there someone else? Has something happened to his job? Because I find it very strange that he would wake up one day and throw it all in.

PS. I dont want to send you the Bub Hub 'pressie' until AFTER you've had your baby, because I'm sending it via Registered Mail... But I've already received money from some Bub Hubbers - thanks guys!

[melfunction]

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"- Eleanor Roosevelt. even f**kwit husbands"


I cannot believe the callousness in which Grant is showing you. Just dumbfounded :confused:

Read your sig over and over, because you deserve all the strength you can get.

[Ashleigh<3]

:hugs: You did well.

You are worth more then a three month wait.

[Jax Tellers Old Lady]

Danilelle keep being strong i think he knows how vulnerable you are and probably thinks he can pick and choose when he wants you or not. Dont let him do this try and get through the days minute by minute. I hope that this gets easier for you and your always in my thoughts:hugs:

[whatwasithinking]

See Danielle we all told you you had the strength and courage.,

And your second part of the post shows that. All I can say is Well Done!!!

You are well on your way to bigger and better things.

Happiness awaits you. :hugs: :kiss: .

Glad you aren't going to fall for anymore of his little mind games. :yelclap:

[SalTheGal]

In reply to the first part of the thread. He is a loser that knows he still love you but obviously doesnt want the responsibility anymore.
Secondly :yelclap: :hugs: for believing in yourself to have the strength to turn him down. just keep that mind set of "I can" and you will... Take care

I totally agree with this.

God Danielle- what he is putting you through is terrible, surround yourself with the people who DO care for you at this time.:hugs: :hugs:

[brooke]

:hugs: I am so sorry that he is treating you this way. He needs a serious "slap upside the head". By the sounds of it he is being incrediably selfish and immature! No normal sane, respectful human being would so this a week before the baby is due! You deserve better treatment than this! Stay strong.... your doing a great job!

[Gumby]

Aldo I dont think I would allow for this few months to decide.If you still want to be with him, you need to put your foot down and say to him ITS NOW OR NEVER. And give him about 5 seconds to decide.

[lukaelmo]

This is like the part in the film where everyone is saying, "no, don't take him back, we know he's the bad guy and that you deserve better".

Look, I don't know you and I don't know him. I am not sure that I would be able to be strong this close to birth, and I really think that anything that you do to keep your head above water right now is fine.

You do what you have to do to get through this.

[MrsTwith3]

Danielle I applaud you for your strength and fortitude. Keep believing in yourself and you and your beautiful kids will be fine.
Im sorry but it makes me a bit suss that he is giving you a 3 month timeframe.
Hmmm got me thinking that I bet he decides to come back once your baby bonus money comes through after you have bubs.
All the best to you and yours.
Stay strong hun :hugs:

[Ana Gram]

You deserve so much more and so do your kids! :hugs:

[KaM]

:hugs: thats the strng girl I know and love!!

As I said to you last night hun, you've got plenty of time to work through all of this. There is no hurry. You can tell him the same if need be. As long as your honest with yourself and him thats all he has the right to ask for. Just make sure u and them kidlets are first. .he is a wayyyyyyyyy down the list :yes:

[OneBabyBoy]

Oh my god. what a nightmare. Danielle I am so sorry this is happening to you. :hugs:
I really wish I could say something or give some advice that would help but it probably feels like nothing will help at the moment. It will take alot of time but you will get there.
Everything is so much harder when you're pregnant. He should have waited until you wern't pregnant anymore. I hope everything goes well with the birth and I'm proud of you for seeing your strength, you will prob need to draw on it in these first months.:hugs:

[GraceUnhearing]

:hugs: to you sweet

you dont deserve this at all!

i dont understand why men have such problems telling people how they feel!

[aden2005]

Im so proud of you hun :hugs:

[V8]

That's so horrible how he is messing with your emotions right now when you are just about to give birth!

I am glad you aren't buying into it though and hope you can put your foot down, he shouldn't abandon you and his kids at such a time. What a selfish thoughtless inconsiderate bleep bleep bleep!

[MissBrightside]

He is being so incredibly selfish to do this to you and your children.
I think you have been very strong in what you have said to him, but I think you should be the one deciding what you want, he shouldn't get a choice in the matter.

[juzzy]

Big :hugs: to you

[ButterflyMama]

You're doing well Danielle, stay strong and don't let him stuff you around anymore. Well done! :hugs:

[jess_live_die]

:hugs: sorry his being a poo head.
you are worth more. personaly i think males not all but most like to play the games with our heads becouse then they feel like they have control on us dnt eva lose ur strengh you a strong women you can do it. :hugs: :hugs:

[SamanthaJane]

My ex is was the same when we first ended it... :rolleyes:

Time to say byebye for good :wave:

Big hugs to you, it's not fair. :hugs: God knows what goes through these pathetic idiot's minds. Seriously, grow up :rolleyes:

[Eloise&Charlie'sMum]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: i am soo proud of you....you are strong and confident and independant...how dare Grant think he can treat you this way!!!