Dont know what to do...

[yeya]

Hi all.
Just need some reassurance or something, not too sure what I after actually.
I am leaving my partner of 7 years, I have been with him since I was 17.
We have a 7 month old daughter, I am desperatly unhappy.. Despites my please, he doesnt want to change, or cant one of the two..
I wonder am I better to go and be happy on my own, or stay and b miserable forever?
And what about my daughter... Whats best for her//
I dont want to be alone, but I dont want to be taken for granted either..
I just want a man who loves me the way I deserve..
Sorry ladies, just feeling very low tonight.

[~rambox~]

I know how you feel as i became a single mum almost 9 yrs ago. I think you need to do what is best for yourself and your daughter both physically and emotionally. Yes it will be hard to start with but you can do it. No you will not be alone forever i was alone with my son for 2 yrs then got together with my wonderful husband jason.

I hope things work out for the best for you and if you need to talk i am here :hugs:

[yeya]

Thank you for your kind words... I just feel so helpess..
I am sitting here in tears as I write this even..
I just feel so used and abused, so raw and empty.
I gave him so much, and never got anything in return, but I still feel like it is all my fault..

[~rambox~]

It isnt your fault if you gave all you could and got nothing in return dont blame yourself :hugs:

Is there family near you that you could stay with for a few days to compose your thoughts?

[OneBabyBoy]

The best thing for your kids is to have a happy peaceful home environment and mother. You have to do what you have to do to achieve that - if nothing else has worked.
The first few months will be really really hard and you won't believe me but it does pass, trust me :hugs:
I was just talking to my friend last night about how great I feel emotionally now (although I still have my moments but on a whole it's good) and I said that I wished I would have been able to see this me when I was so sad just a few months ago.
You are a very strong and capable person from the sounds of it and you will be able to get through this.
Keep us informed and hopefully we can support you through it :hugs:

[OneBabyBoy]

Thank you for your kind words... I just feel so helpess..
I am sitting here in tears as I write this even..
I just feel so used and abused, so raw and empty.
I gave him so much, and never got anything in return, but I still feel like it is all my fault..

Awwwwww :gloomy:
I know how you feel. You give yourself completely to someone and then when it ends you feel like you don't have yourself anymore.
I wish I could do more to help you.
Is your DD asleep? How about you have a long hot shower and cry it all out then take a few deep breaths and either watch tv/movie or read a book/magazine and give your heart and brain a break from thinking about it for tonight. Tomorrow you will feel more refreshed and ready to deal with things.
:hugs:

[MissBrightside]

As the others have said it's not your fault! Yes you probably will feel miserable for awhile, but then you start realising that you are actually happier because you don't have to put up with the cr@p you have been for such a long time.
I was with my ex for almost 8 years and have been a single mum to 2 kids for just over a year now with very little support financially, emotionally and physically for the kids. It is a bloody hard job, but you become a stronger person for it.
There are lots of us here who understand what you are going through because we have either been there or are going through it.
You have taken the first step in realising you are not happy and probably won't be as happy as you should be by staying. There are some hard roads ahead. Do you have family and friends around who can support you through this time? :hugs:

[Chanelc]

Big big :hugs:
It is the hardest decision any person can make. You can only do what is right by you. Your daughter will be happy as long as you are happy...
Sounds like you have tried to communicate with your partner and sometimes men don't realise how serious it is until you pack up and move on. Maybe if you go he will wake up and see you are serious. Who knows?
All I can say is it isn't your fault life sometimes doesn't work out as planned.
Just be true to yourself and be kind to yourself.
Know we are all hear to listen.

[mooter]

Big :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

I know it is hard and probably the toughest decision you may ever have to make.

You need to look after you, if you are happy your baby will be happy. Trust me.

I left my eldest two childrens dad when I was pregnant with number two. It was hard, it was tough, he did not give me any support financially or physically.

I did it by myself and came out a stronger person, you can do this too if thats the choice you make.

I now have a wonderful husband and two more beautiful children. If I could have known eight years ago that this is where I would be standing now, it would have made it so much easier.

Be strong, be proud, dont be discouraged.

[~rambox~]

Hi Yeya,

Just checking in to see if you are ok today :hugs:

Hope all is well :kiss:

[yeya]

Hi Yeya,

Just checking in to see if you are ok today :hugs:

Hope all is well :kiss:


Hi Rambox.. Yeah I guess so, surviving at least.. Has been a nasty day with the other half though..
Guess I just have to shut it all out till I have organised where I am going...

[~rambox~]

Hi Rambox.. Yeah I guess so, surviving at least.. Has been a nasty day with the other half though..
Guess I just have to shut it all out till I have organised where I am going...

I hope things start to look up for you real soon :hugs: