Melbourne couple need your help...

[samcat]

We have been on the IVF program with many unsuccessful attempts and would love to have children. Our only option now is to find an egg donor. If you are under 36 years year of age, have completed your family and would consider helping us, please contact us. All travel & medical expenses will be reimbursed.

This advertisement has been approved by the Victorian Minister for Health as required by s40 for the Human Tissue Act 1982 (Vic) (Sep 04)

Please contact us via Private Message.

We look forward to hearing from you, it has been a long, hard road for us, over 10 years in trying to have our family.

[cheezelz]

Im sorry but Ive just started my family so cannot help but good luck with your search.

xoxoxo

[Roxy]

Welcome Samcat....

I hope that you can find a lovely lady to help you...

For anyone thinking about donating, please let me say that Samcat and her DH are some of the most lovely people I have met in a long time....

[samcat]

Wow, it's so nice to log in and see some responses! Thankyou Cheezelz for the good wishes. And Roxy, thankyou for the kind words! Yes, we are hoping that there is a wonderful lady that is able to help us.

[samcat]

Well, thought I had better add some more info to my original ad! I am from Victoria so I do have to post the official approval! It's a pretty boring 'official' ad I know, but it was written a number of years ago, but the heartfelt message is just as relevant today.

I should tell you a little bit more about us......... We met later in life through friends. He was divorced and I was single. I had not felt the need to settle down before, until we met. He was so different to all the guys I had been out with before, even my mother liked him (now that was a worry!!). We got engaged at sunset in the water at the Maldives, waves crashing against the shore. He had wanted to propose under a waterfall, but he said he couldn't wait any longer to find one! We got married the following year at a winery, where it rained non stop! Many people told us on the day that it was auspicious to rain on your wedding day - meant good luck with fertility. But sadly, that was not to be.......

We didn't feel the need to rush right in and have children straight after marriage, we had places to see and wanted time with each other.

After a while I was seeing a gynaecologist for some issues, a laparoscopy shedded no light and in her words "everything is gorgeous down there"! So we continued on our merry way. I eventually got pregnant naturally!! It was confirmed on Valentines Day and it was the happiest I have ever been. It was a difficult time, I had lots of bleeding, including a 5 day stay in hospital, then lost the baby at 16 weeks. I was absolutely devastated and even now, tears well up just thinking and writing about it. Then we started on clomid, but nothing. We eventually went to IVF and after 5 cycles we knew that our chances were practically non-existent. We had tried all sorts of protocols including the colorado. Our doctor let us try again, as he said you have to "look back from your rocking chair and know you have given it your all".

It was now time to think about donor eggs. We gave it great thought and knew this is what we wanted. We advertised and a wonderful woman offered to help us. We did a fresh transfer and 2 FET's cycles. We even went down the immunology path and had extensive testing and more protocols, but sadly, it was not to be. Unfortunately our donor is unable to help us again.

So here we are, at the present day. We have been on this path for over 10 years, and wonder when it will be our turn to have the joy and happiness of our own child. We live in Melbourne but are happy to travel. We have family in Quensland (mother, brother and heaps of extended family) and my small family live in Melbourne. In the meantime, we are doting on our fluff balls - 2 Birman cats. We have recently renovated our house and would like to do the bathrooms, but can think of a much better use for the money - to have our own family. We would eventually like to live somewhere by the water and in the country - it has always been our dream to wake up in the morning with the sea and bush, and our own little family with us.

If you are still reading, thankyou for making it this far!

[MellyMumma]

Hi

I really hope you find someone soon and have the joy of a baby you both deserve. You sound like lovely people and I'll ask around whenever I speak to people to see if they can help you. I haven't finished my family yet so would be of no use to you. I cried when I read your story. Goodluck and lots of magic baby dust for a miracle very soon.:wizard:

Hugs and kisses:hugs:
Mel

[kdmid]

May I ask what is involved with egg donation and why the other ladies eggs couldnt be used.

[Roxy]

Hi Kelly...

I hope that Samcat won't mind me jumping in here - anything to help her get her much desired donor.

Samcat's previous donor was unable to donate again because she had just started a new job that involved rosters, and she was on quite a lengthy probabtion period. She didn't want samcat to have to wait any longer than necessary to cycle, and she wasn't sure how long it would be until her new job settled, so that she could cycle again for samcat.

There are loads of threads in this section about what is involved with egg donation - feel free to have a browse. There are some great stickied threads at the top of this section that might answer some of the questions you might have.

[mikaylasmummy]

I have sent you a pm....

[bronlovesrob]

Hi there Samcat,
I just wanted to wish you the very best in finding another lovely lady to be your donor. I read through your story, and you certainly deserve a break after 10 years of heartache. I know the anguish/despair of infertility and wouldn't wish it on anyone, I really hope your dreams are answered soon.:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:
lve
Bron

[samcat]

Thankyou Mel, its great for you to get the word out there, not just for me but also for other ladies who also need help! And Roxy, thankyou for the support, and helping me out with answers, greatly appreciated. Unfortunately, our donor was not in a position to help us again as she had a lot on her plate but we were really greatful for her giving us a chance in the first place. Hi Mikayla's Mummy, shall jump in and look at the PM. And hi Bron, I wish you all the best with your jourey too, its a tough road isn't it.

[pisces00]

Hi samcat,

I too am in victoria and as i cannont donate any more am now dedicated to helping couples find a donor. Please pm me if you would like to chat but here are some tips i have found to be successful for others.

Place a homemade ad on the noticeboards of any universitys or tafe colleges - the younger the eggs the better and due to the media alot of younger women are better informed about the egg donation process and more willing to consider it.

Place the same ad in as many cafes, ladies gyms, hairdressers etc - anywhere that it will catch the eye of some kind woman. I donated to someone who placed a small ad on the noticeboard in front of Safeway, next to a "lawnmower for sale" ad!!!

Spread the word - yes i know alot of people dont want to open up about this but you will be amazed at who might actually think enough of you to want to help.:thumbsup:

[samcat]

Thanks for your ideas Pisces!

I thought I was closer to finding a donor, but it was not to be....
But I'm not ready to give up yet!

[Roxy]

Hi Samcat!

Just thought that I'd bump your ad, and see how your search was going?

[samcat]

Thanks Roxy, no luck so far, have had some enquiries. Sometimes I think it will never happen for me but I have to keep on with my dream!

[Cassiecat]

Hi Samcat
I am in Melbourne and in similar situation so a big helpful hug is all I can offer..
I have also advertised in Melbourne child but without much luck there are a growing number of adds there every month(so sad for us all)
Any way wishing you luck really hoping we all find that special person
LOL
Cath

[samcat]

Thankyou Cath, and good luck for your search, how are you going? Any news yet? :)

[sarahstarfish]

Lovely You

I popped on for a squiz after being away for a good while...man, don't' I wish I was on the other side of 35 - I would whisk you and your lovely DH to a clinic before you the pen marks on the forms were dry!

Just wishing you everything in your new journey - you amaze me with your strength, you are one special lady, one very sweet couple.

Hang in there hey.

xx Cindy

[Stephany]

Thinking of you Samcat, we are also seeking for an egg donor and are now planning to advertise in th child magazines. :wizard:
Love
Stephanie

[Tracie64]

Hi Samcat

Good luck in your journey to find a wonderful donor. I found my possible donor on this site and I hope the same luck comes for you.:fingerscrossed:

Take care and have a great week

Tracie64:hugs:

[samcat]

Just wanted to let everyone know that we have found our lovely donor to help us! We are very excited and know there is a long way to go yet! Thank you to everyone for your support and messages. Good luck to all who are going down this path!

[xkwzit]

Hi Samcat
Thanks so much for your update, I am excited that you are a bit further toward your goal.

Hopefully, news like this will give everyone who is still searching a bit of a lift too.

Cheers

[Bobbin]

Congratulations, I hope it all works out for you.

All the best.

Robyn