I want a boy...

[Baby Girl]

I always said if I had a girl first I wouldn't have anymore kids but now I have 2 girls I find myself wanting a boy more and more.....

Is it just a phase - I seem to have been clucky since DD2 was born - 7 months ago!!

DP is quite happy to try for a boy and is willing to give up a few things to help his boy spermies and is happy to do the whole timing thing but I am just not sure if I am just clucky or really ready for 3 kids.....

If you have more than 2, how did you know you wanted more? Did it just happen? Was it what you always wanted? Did you just know?

Oh so many questions... Somedays I feel so sure I want one more and want to try our best to make it a boy and other days I think what if it is another girl - will I want to try for another one to get my boy? How many more times will I want to try? Do I really want more than 2? Can DP cope if we end up with 3 girls - he'll be totally outnumbered :eek:

This is soooooo confusing!!!!!

[JATS]

LOL

Hubby and I are going to start with 4 but if they are all boys he's willing to go for 6+! Scarey thought for me if they all turn out boys!!!!!

I honestly believe what my great grandmother's catch phrase is - "your worst regrets in life end up being the chances you were too afraid to take"

I live by that rule! If you want a bub, talk to your DP about it, maybe he'd like to try too!

See how you go

Amy

[W & T's sleepy mummy]

Schmell - I know how you feel in reverse! I have 2 boys and desperately want a girl - maybe we could arrange a swap! Tee hee

Seriously tho, I really want to try for another & have almost convinced partner (his only worry is the expense!) but we have agreed if it is another boy we will stop there. We probably won't plan to have another, it will just happen - we're terrible that way, so I just try to remain healthy and ready at all times!!

Good luck on your boy:D

[W & T's sleepy mummy]

Ps - 3 seems to be a common number - we met four couples at a party a few months ago - each with 3 boys - they all gave up trying for a daughter after the third boy!!

[Baby Girl]

W&T's Mummy, Maybe we can just swap on every other weekend LOL :p

I would be quite happy with 3 but can't guarantee myself that I would stop there if I did not get my boy hence why I have paused at 2 for now.

I was an only child and DP was the eldest of 10 so we are poles apart and also have different views on how many kids - We both originally agreed 2 but now we are thinking about no. 3 and I worry that we will then start thinking about no. 4 and so on.....

[Melissa1983]

i am with you schmell.. I always wanted a girl first, and the second a boy but i ended up with two girls. I don't know if i am just clucky or if i want 3.. But what if it is a girl... i will be disappointed, as i want a boy so much, but i would still love the child either way, as long as its healthy.

[WeThree]

when dh and i met we already had i each, giving us a ready made, instant family! we decided we wanted one together and after he was born, because of the big age gap between him and the other 2 we decided to go one more, we also wanted too have 2 children that were full siblings. so that was our reason for going a third, well fourth really lol!
i think if your reasons are because you want a boy, then you've got to ask yourself 'is it the only reason?' 'what if it is a girl, will i be accepting of that?' If you honestly answer yourself that it is the only reason, then it might be a bit of a risk, because if it is not a boy, you could be bitterly disappointed. i am sure if it was a girl you would end up loving it just the same, but i think you would have to be 100% sure that you would not be upset if it was one. (easier said than done i know, although my motivation for having another was not because i wanted a girl after 2 boys, i must admit i was pretty darn excited when i found out it was a girl!)
i guess just talk talk talk and talk some more with dh, only the two of you can know what is truly best for you and your family. good luck, whatever you decide :)

[alicesmum]

aahhhh...give me four daughters any day! "Little Women" always was my favourite book!!! :)

(Sorry, no help am I?!? What all the other ladies said...good advice!). :D

[Baby Girl]

Thanks Coops,

That is where my problem lies - if it was a girl so be it. But I can't be guaranteed that I woud not want to try again for a boy - IYKWIM? That is really what scares me - What if no. 3 is a girl and we decide to go for no. 4 incase we get that boy? I know I am worried over something that might not happen but I know what I am like :rolleyes: Even if I get my no. 3 boy who is to say I don't want to try for another one so he isn't outnumbered by his sisters - Do I make any sense??

I think I definitely want to try for no. 3 and I know DH does too....maybe I should be thinking about when to do that rather than what MIGHT happen after!!

Oh Like I said before - this is sooooo confusing!!!

[WeThree]

i know it is hard. because if it is a girl then you would be thinking 'but what if we dont try for no 4, and it is a boy? or we do and its another girl?' also hard when trying to decide 'do we want to give him a brother, but then what if that one is a girl??' dh and i are a bit the same in that we are not 110% certain that we are absolutely finished with our family, i mean, no way are we in a position atm to have another, we dont have the finances, space, or enough spare hands, lol!! but we dont want to rule out the possibility of ever having another, you just never know... although my head says no way, never ever, my heart sometimes says otherwise....
i was talking to a mum at my play group about this, she felt the same, we were saying how delightful our bubs were and how clucky they made us, and she said she believes mother nature made us that way, that most of us will always on and off feel like that, and that eventually we just have to think with our heads, or decide a number when we start planning a family and then stick to it, otherwise we would just keep on having them, lol!!! she said like the urge for a cigarette with an ex smoker, if you wait the feeling will pass' (the clucky feeling) interesting theory, and one that i often think of when my kids are running amok and the place is a mess, and im so glad i didnt give into those clucky feelings! lol
i guess what im trying to do in this rant is answer your question, lol, you said what do you do if you continue feeling like you should have more? and whilst i dont have an answer for you personally, some musings by me and another mum at my playgroup might provide some insight (or not hehe:p )
good luck with your baby making:D

[whatwasithinking]

But what happens if it's another girl.

What do you tell her in years to come - "Oh darling we only had you because we wanted a boy"

If you want another child then yeah that's great but if you are only having it because you want a particular sex then that's crazy.

Sorry don't mean to offend but I can't understand it.

[Ffrenchknickers]

I think thats the whole point of Schmells post....wondering if or not she should do it and if its for the right reasons??

I can really realate....we have 2 boys and wold LOVE a girl. We put off trying for number 3 for a little while until we decided that we just wated another baby, no matter what sex:)

If you get another girl, its not like you will end up not loving her just as much or anything crazy like that:)

[whatwasithinking]

I have sent an apology via pm to Schmell in regards to my post - my point came out wrong.

I hope noone thinks I meant that "she was crazy personally"

[Ffrenchknickers]

:):):):)

Mwa!

[whatwasithinking]

Feel the love

[Ffrenchknickers]

Feel the love

MMM, speaking of which, I better go to bed or I'll have one cranky hubby:o NIght!

[whatwasithinking]

Nighty Night :)

[Baby Girl]

No offence taken MissUnderstood.

Thanks for your PM but really there was no need for apology - thanks anyway.

I would be just as happy with 3 girls but would also really love to have a boy...

What worries me is that if no. 3 is a girl would we just keep trying until we got a boy - we could end up with 20 kids :eek: :p ;)

[JenNT]

old wives take here but has proven correct with my kids. If first child's crown is off centre the next baby will be a girl, if its in the middle, it will be a boy and so on with each child.Look at number 2's crown,is it in the centre :D

[Funkychicken]

Not sure if this will help. We read and used the book Choose The Sex Of Your Baby-The Natural Way by Hazel Chesterman-Phillips and got our little man first time around followed by our princess two years later. We were extremely strict about following the timing and DD took five months to conceive as we didn't want to get too close to OV.
We were quite happy with our pigeon pair and had decided that was it but lo and behold five years later I was pregnant again and completely freaked out at the thought of being a mum to three! Things such as if I am holding the hands of two what does the other one do? I know that sounds silly but all those concerns came up. Anyway a bit over nine months down the track and I am absolutely besotted with our new baby boy. I can't believe how in love with him i am and my husband has also expressed this. The most amazing feeling is of being a more completed family. I didn't expect this but i truly feel more of a "real" family having three.
If you go ahead I wish you all the best and hope that whatever the outcome you will also get to experience the euphoria of having three children.

[Baby Girl]

Jen,

DD2's crown is definitely centred - so I am going to pretend that the old wives tale is wrong :p just kidding but if it is another girl I will blame that theory.

Sal,

Thanks. I will look for that book and have a read. From what I have heard is it something like for a boy you have sex longer from when you ovulate than for a girl?

[Funkychicken]

Jen,

DD2's crown is definitely centred - so I am going to pretend that the old wives tale is wrong :p just kidding but if it is another girl I will blame that theory.

Sal,

Thanks. I will look for that book and have a read. From what I have heard is it something like for a boy you have sex longer from when you ovulate than for a girl?

NO NO NO!!
For a boy abstain from sex for at least a week(to increase sperm count) and then only have sex once right on ovulation. For a girl, have lots of sex(men love trying for girls)at least every 48hrs, but stop at least three days before ovulation. The theory is a high sperm count will contain lots of fast swimmers(boy sperm) and they will reach the egg first. Girl sperm, the slow and steady swimmers take more time to reach the egg, so if you try a few days before ov, the boy swimmers will have died off, leaving only girl sperm-the stayers!
It's worth monitoring your cycle for a few months and this may sound crude but observe your mucous closely. When it looks like raw egg white and is stretchy, you are ovulating.
make a note of which day this occurs on to give you a clearer idea.
good luck

[Baby Girl]

No wonder we keep having girls LOL ;)

Okay so I should read the book then.....:p

I don't think DP will like the boy method hehehe

[Hokey Pokey]

This is going to sound so blonde of me lol but where do I find the "crown" :o

[Terrible2+1cutie]

I have 2 boys and desperately want a girl too, my boys are only 2 and 1 years old, i would love all my kids to be close but dont want any more than 3 kids so if the 3rd end up being another boy i will be just as happy, i get clucky sooo easily though lol.

Catherine

[JenNT]

Kristy - its at the back of the head where the hair changed direction, some ppl have double crowns