Is it normal to feel jealous?

[EmsMum72]

I had a miscarriage 4 weeks ago and everytime I see pregnant women I feel SO jealous. My girlfriend is 2 weeks further along than I would have been right now, and it's so hard trying to move on from my M/C when I'm confronted with it all the time (we see each other once a week). Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for my friend but why, why, why me?? :gloomy: I just get this empty feeling in my tummy, and it hurts when my 3 yr old DD keeps saying 'can you try again for another baby please mummy, cause I'd love a brother or sister!' I'M TRYING BABY!! :hugs:

[Eloise&Charlie'sMum]

I am sooo sorry that you are having to go through this...I just wanted to send you a :hugs: and let you know its alright to feel the way you do we all get the attck from the green eyed monster, but after what you have just been through it so completely understandable:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[RoarsomeMum]

Firstly, so so sorry for your loss :hugs: :hugs:
YES.. it is normal, hurts like hell, but it is normal. I found it eased a bit with time, but some days, just seeing my own growing belly makes me cry for the little ones we have already lost.

Let yourself feel however you feel hon. Be kind to yourself. :hugs: :hugs:

[BubbaNoogie]

I am so sorry for your loss.:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Yes, its totally normal and natural.

When I lost my twins my friend was a month ahead of me in her pregnancy, I didnt see or speak to her for 4 months, it just hurt too much (lucky she is a great friend and understood)

Let yourself greive and look after yourself.
Good luck for when you ttc again:hugs:

[MilkOnTap]

First of all - I'm sorry to hear about your loss... :hugs:

And secondly - yes, its totally normal to feel jealous. I lost my first bub in June 05 - and then the next one in Sept 05... Over that time 2 of my closest friends 'accidentally' fell pregnant, and one of them terminated. I was absolutely devastated... :(

I found that the only thing that helped me through that time was concentrating on keeping myself busy, healthy and active. Trying to keep myself focused on what really mattered and that was that one of my friends was going to be a mum and needed my support. It was so hard - but I realised that because I lost my baby then she appreciated hers that little bit more... which was in a strange way kind of reassuring...

Please take care... And best wishes TTCing! :hugs:

[littlerayofsunshine]

Hi there,
I feel exactly the same i had my first m/c with my first pregnancy on the 29th of last month and ever since then ive been jealous of everyone i SEE thats pregnant. Its also had because my mum is pregnant as well and she is due next month. Im kind of dreading it because its going to be hard for me to go and see her.
Oh well we and DF have already started trying so hopefully something soon.
Bye!!!!!!!

[littlerayofsunshine]

sorry just to correct what i just wrote i forgot its may today so i actually had my m/c in march.

[Brasha]

Just want to send you some :hugs:.

i am told that each day gets easie with some bad ones thrown in for good measure although i am stuck in a rut as well. Jealous oh my gosh.... the green eyed monster lives in my house like its possesed, SIL is due when i would have been and i can't talk to her look at her its too hard, i have tried ubt i can't. I am now struggling with all the support and attention they are getting from other family members, and the excited comements etc but the do it in front of me, and im sure they dont mean to upset me, but boy am i starting to really ...aaarrggg i dont want to feel this way hate isnt the right word, but i am sick of now not existing...see jealous...ggrr

Hope your days get easier and i pray for all our littles ones lost.

[meltux]

Hi....it sounds like we are all the same when it comes to the green-eyed monster. I work with a woman who is pregnant and who has stated she doesn't "really" want another baby but it is for her new husband so he can see what his genes look like.....mmmm she lost me right then and there!!
And so she is at work talking about casting her torso with plaster and displaying it....ummmm...I almost lost it!!!! i did say that it would be pretty unprofessional to do so here and we really don't want to see her naked body on display (we are in a highschool)...yes she is daft!!!! Don't get me wrong I LOVE the pregnant shape of a woman and think it is absolutely beautiful and would definately let my sister take some tasteful pics of me (arty shots) BUT PPPPPPAAAAHHHHHLLLLEEAAASSSEEEEE..on display???At work???? Come on! I also don't like her much and even less now that she carries on constantly!!!

I have a severe case of green-eyed monster with her but I have dealt with and embraced many others being pregnant around me...you know it is just HER!!!!
sorry for all of the:ecomcity: but just needed to vent !

:wizard: to you all

[EmsMum72]

Thanks for your replies, glad to hear I'm not the only jealous one. I really have to force myself to ask my friend how she is coping with her pregnancy, if she's felt the baby move yet etc., (I do want to know, but also I don't because it should be me, I should be pregnant with her cause we were going to go through it together) because I could quite happily not ask her to avoid that big empty whole in my tummy whenever I'm around her! Sometimes I think I'm still pregnant, like I'll say to myself 'oh no I can't eat that cause it's no good for the baby' and then I remember ..... I am doing really well, I think I've coped with it remarkably well considering it took us over 2 years to get pregnant with our 2nd child (the one I just lost) in the first place, I am just so eager to start trying again before I get too old, but my gyno has told me to wait until AF pays me a visit (haven't had one yet since D&C). I know alot of you will say that 34 isn't that old, but for me it is :no: . I didn't want to be older than 35 to have kids, but it looks like that might just be the case (if I do in fact EVER fall pregnant again). Thanks again for listening to my whinge, and for all your positive comments and :hugs:. For those of you who have lost a child/children through miscarriage I am so sorry for your loss, I'm sorry that you're going through what I am, and I will :fingerscrossed: for each and every one of you that you will be blessed with happy, healthy babies in the very near future!