Mad, Angry, Upset

[Olismum]

I am feeling mad, angry, upset and just generally let down by the RAAF. We received a posting to Adelaide. We had been trying to get this posting for the last 3 years and had applied for a PT posting. We got it and were told that we were leaving the first week of July and hubby would start his new position on July 12th. I was so excited, i am originally from Adelaide and was really looking forward to being back near my friends and family. Yesterday we were told that our posting had been cancelled and that we would be posted at the end of the year but they didn't know where to yet. WTF!!! I have already told the daycare centre here that we don't need our spot after July and booked our daughter into a new childcare centre in Adelaide. I've also cancelled specialist appointments that I booked almost 4 months ago for July/August because we weren't going to be here and had to get referal letters written up so I can book in to see new specialists in adelaide and now they are saying that we aren't going. I am so mad. Last night I had to ring my family and tell them that we are no longer moving to Adelaide, which was really hard as my dad is very sick and would have liked to have spent some time with his grand daughter. The stupid thing is that our PT posting was approved because I have PND and need support from family and friends. I am at a loss as to what help they think they are being to me by telling us that we are going and then cancelling. Is that supposed to make me feel better because it's certainly not helping. I am so angry, because now I'm back to square 1 with my specialist appointments and it takes 4 -6 mths to get in from the time you book.

[Wish_Bear]

That really sucks!!!! Defence is the pits at times. I never get my hopes up about anything the Navy says we will be doing becasue I have been dissapointed too many times. We had to reschedule our wedding date 3 times because the Navy changed it's mind.

I kind of live 2 lives. I have my Navy side of things and my civvy side of things. Too many dissapointments have made me very jaded about the whole situation. I often wish DH would get out and we could move back to QLD and be near our family.

After suffering PND for nearly 6 yrs I know there is not really any support for partners, it's like we don't exist. Some one told me that if the Navy wanted Dh to have a family they would have issued him with one. I kinda believe it too.

I really feel for you and know what you are going through.

Hopefully the RAAF can be a little caring and change their minds but I hate to say it but don't hold your breath.

Take care, I hope it works out.

[mummyof5]

. Some one told me that if the Navy wanted Dh to have a family they would have issued him with one. I kinda believe it too.


That is so true...:yes:

Olismum, that is totally sh!t for you guys!! All I can suggest is whinge, whinge and whinge some more to the social workers and get your DH to gripe to the posters alot....people who complain the most seem to get what they want more in that place.

:fingerscrossed: they work something out for you.

[Wish_Bear]

That is so true...:yes:

Olismum, that is totally sh!t for you guys!! All I can suggest is whinge, whinge and whinge some more to the social workers and get your DH to gripe to the posters alot....people who complain the most seem to get what they want more in that place.

:fingerscrossed: they work something out for you.

Yep I totally agree. Squeaky wheel gets the grease:thumbsup:

[Olismum]

That really sucks!!!! Defence is the pits at times. I never get my hopes up about anything the Navy says we will be doing becasue I have been dissapointed too many times. We had to reschedule our wedding date 3 times because the Navy changed it's mind.

I think that's the worst part in all of this. When they first told us we were going. I was very blaise about it and said 'I'll believe it when I see it" and that I wasn't going to hold my breath and I upset alot of people. Alot of the guys hubby works with called me some not so nice names because they thought I was being ungrateful and that I didn't appreciate the effort that they'd put in to get us the PT posting. It caused a huge fight between hubby & I and now I feel like turning around and saying "I told you so" to his whole unit. We also had to replan our wedding 3 times due to last minute deployments, lol. Hubby rang just before and said that he had about an hour to decide on new posting preferences but looking at the vacancies for next year it looks like we are headed to Melbourne. I don't know why they even bother asking you where you want to go as we've yet to ever get a posting to one of our top 3 preferences. We've been talking alot lately about getting out. We only have 2 years left before hubby's done his 20 yrs service and then we're free to go.

[mummaof4girls]

We are on a PT posting to Edinburgh with the RAAF at the moment. If you want to talk, see if I can help some my msn is G_Dwinchester@hotmail.com We went through the same thing to get ours, and their are certain ways to get around their ****.

Dakota

[MilkOnTap]

Oh OlisMum - I'm so sorry to hear how much you have been stuffed around... I guess getting in touch with DFA or DCO is next to useless, right??

Can you speak with the chaplin in your hubby's unit? Maybe he could pull some strings? I know when my hubby was in the gulf the chaplin on board was absolutely fantastic!

We are another couple who had to reschedule our wedding 3 times before we could set a date... and even then we set it with only 6 weeks to plan and prepare because we knew that it was the only way to absolutely confirm a date. So frustrating though - because of the short notice it meant we had to sacrifice the company of so many of our friends and family so we could get married...

(At least Melbourne is a little bit closer to Adelaide than Townsville is... very little comfort there though :()

Best wishes - and let us know how you go :hugs:

[Olismum]

Thanks for the support. We started with the Chaplain to get our original PT posting and then had to sit through endless interviews with DCO, Pyscholgists and RAAF Bigwigs before it was approved. Unfortunately there is nothing anyone can do, as the position we were going to is no longer available. There are 3 units moving from Edinburgh to Wagga which leaves no positions for my hubbies trade & rank at all at Edinburgh. We spoke to the manner who said the best he could do was offer hubby a position in Adelaide at a lower rank, which would mean that he would officially drop to that rank and I'm not willing to let him do that. It's not fair that he should have to lose a rank to live in a certain area so we're just going to wait and see what happens. The manner has been excellent to us and says he is going to do his best to get us to Adelaide at the end of the year after he knows what all the reshuffle changes are, but if he can't then he will make sure that we get either of our next 2 posting preferences. I told him that I was happy to go anywhere other than Tindal, if it meant that my hubby didn't have to lose a rank. I can't praise the manner enough for everything that he has done, he made an appointment with the admino to try and sort it all out and waited 20 minutes and the admino didn't even bother to show up or tell him that she couldn't make it. I really feel for him, having so many people wanting to go to certain bases and only having so much power to make it happen.

[Cat13]

Hi Olismum. That's the same reason we are now living in Townsville instead of staying for another posting in Sydney as promised. We requested early advice of posting because I was due to have bub around posting season and needed to decide what state to have bub in. Were 99% guaranteed a Sydney posting but then the position hubby was due to be posted to was scratched. To be honest I wasn't surprised, you soon learn with Defence that postings, dates for overseas tours and leave approvals can all change in the blink of an eye. Like you, I don't get too excited (or worried in regards to overseas trips) about these things until they actually happen.

Not that it's any consolation but Melbourne is not such a bad place to live. That was our first preference but someone else got the posting on compassionate grounds. That's where all my family are and they were so disappointed at our move becasue Sydney was alot closer to Melbourne than Townsville. Still, have to say we are actually enjoying it up here. Hubby loves it and never wants to leave. I'm sure defence will upset that for him!

Relly sorry your plans for returning to Adelaide have fallen through and :fingerscrossed: you get your next best preference.