General singles chat ...

[she_rambles]

Gone.

[Pobblebonk]

I thought we did have a singles chat - called Singles Catch Up Chat...

And I know what you mean about the midwife thing. When I attended my first pre-natal class, the midwife grilled me and grilled me about where the father was, and why he wasn't around, in front of everyone, and I was the only single mother.

I ended up balling my eyes out, and calling them the next morning to give them a serve for their attitude towards single mothers! Grrrrrr.

It never really bothered me about being a single mother, because quite frankly, I would have rather have been a single mum, than with my ex! But then, my ex is completely useless! COMPLETELY.

I actually asked my ex to give me a break when I was pregnant, because between his cr@p and his mothers unbelievable cr@p, I wasn't having much fun being pregnant, and I decided to take ownership of my own pregnancy and put into place things that would allow me to enjoy the experience. Was supposed to be a 2 week break, took me 3 days before I realised that I didn't want him to come home.

He had though, like 7 months to get his act together leading up that that point where I said I to take his stuff because he wasn't going to be able to come back, and even then, he didn't bother doing anything about it. He just wanted to stay living like a 14 year old boy with no responsibility and having mummy do it all for him.

I wrote all of my anger down, and all the things about him that ****ed me off, on my laptop, and because he has no concept of privacy, he of course, decided to go through my laptop one day and found this document, and then had a big spat at me about it, and I said, oh no, everything written here is the truth, and the only reason he's getting upset about it now is because he's actually hearing about what he is like, and it makes him look bad, and makes him feel bad for being so useless and irresponsible.

He's also a big 'talker'. He's always talking about he's going to do this, he's going to buy this, he's going to have this, and seriously, it NEVER happens. And he's also a 'leave everything to the last minute' person.

I can't stand him. At the moment, all interactions with him annoy me, and I don't want to have anything to do with him outside of our son. I mean, he still walks into my house after dropping off Mr Chicken for access, and goes straight to my fridge and cupboards, and having a look at what he can eat! And I have to ask him to go home, because he wont just LEAVE.

[OneBabyBoy]

Morning Ladies
DS and I are going to a bbq at a friends house today which should be fun.
hope you all have a lovely sunday too :yelclap:

[SweetSerenity]

Morning Ladies
DS and I are going to a bbq at a friends house today which should be fun.
hope you all have a lovely sunday too :yelclap:

Morning:wave:

Ooh that sounds like fun :D I love BBQ's!

Me and DS are going to a family lunch at a club which will be nice.

I love not working and having my Sundays back (i used to work every Sunday)...Such a family day isnt it?

Enjoy !!!

Love Nat xxx

[OneBabyBoy]

It was a beautiful day!! My DS was delightful even though he's teething and also has the sniffles. We had good food, good company and a perfect sunny sydney day :D

[jess_live_die]

i just wanted to come and say hello :wave:
and if im aloud to id like to join in its been a pretty bad day today and yesterday

[Pobblebonk]

OMG she_rambles! Did you slap him? Because I certainly would have!

And um, being beautiful doesn't justify why her life is so hard - what an idiot! And just because you might not be 'beautiful' like her, doesn't mean you wouldn't understand. OMGGGSGG this friend of yours... well... I can't even say it!

And um, truly beautiful people don't sleep around behind their husband's back... How much uglier can this girl get in my eyes?

[Pobblebonk]

i just wanted to come and say hello :wave:
and if im aloud to id like to join in its been a pretty bad day today and yesterday

Jess... SPILL.

[scorpio83]

I'm a SAHM....but my walkies are in the arvo!:thumbsup:

[jess_live_die]

Why was it a bad day? Baby stuff/ex stuff/everything?

I was just having a rant to a friend of mine about a guy I know ... he's talking about this 'girlfriend' of his (she isn't really his girlfriend, she's married but is sleeping around with a heap of guys) ... anyway, I'm saying his "gf" is a cow (just trying to make him feel better, because he's always talking about how evil she is) and he suddenly tells me that I couldn't possibly understand how difficult his gf's life is, because I'm not beautiful like her!!! I can't remember exact words, but it was basically "You can't understand how hard it is to be beautiful. Less-than-attractive people just wouldn't know." !!!!! I know I'm not a stunner, but dude, you just don't say things like that to your friends! Telling me my butt looks big in these pants? That's fine. Telling me I'm ugly!!!

I feel better now I've got that off my chest. :D Even my dodgy ex never said anything that bad!
i had a bad with my family my ex dosent help
1st thing was saturday my babies 2nd birthday and i took her to the zoo well my sister kicked her in the face and made her cry 90% of the day then sunday i invited alyveas family over and i was baby sitting a 3 week old and alyvea aunty had given dianne a book and colouring pens and my sister started colouring it all in and i said no so i went to take it of her with the baby in my arms and she kicked me that baby fell mum grabed him then i punched her and she kick dianne and i just lost and belted the **** out of her and i hate volice im not one but shes hurt my kids one to many times she kicked dianne agan and i think one more time after i belted the **** out her and i got olf of her neck and really hurt her and i felt to bad but thats my babies saftey

satruday night diannes dad maged me 10 times coz he missed:ecomcity: and was seeing how i was i said do u know wat today is and he said yep diannes birthday and then msgedme about 19 more times not once saying how was her day or say happy birthday :mad:

SORRY LONG

[OneBabyBoy]

Out of interest, how many of the single mums here are also stay at home mums??

I'm a SAHM so far. I have a few plans though, to study and different stuff.
Scorpio83 I take my DS out everyday unless it's raining or like last week when I was feeling sick. Sometimes we go visiting people or to appointments but if not then I try to get him out even just down to woolworths everyday.

And Jess :eek: OMG that is a really horrible day. Really horrible. :hugs: How old is your sister and why is she doing that to a 2 year old? And Dianne's dad not even saying happy birthday is so mean, self-centred and unacceptable.
BTW happybirthday to your little Dianne!!:D

[jess_live_die]

my sister is 14 and she dose it to both my girls normaly dd1 (alyvea) cops it all but she wasnt there when the fight started thank gosh and i didnt use volince infrount of dianne i waited tilkshe went out she was cring so bad and went to tell her poppy and when she came back in is when she got kicked again until the end i just lost it

i feel terriable

[OneBabyBoy]

14 is too old to be doing things like that. Don't feel terrible Jess you have to protect your kids, she can't go around punching and kicking 2 and 4 year olds :hugs:

[jess_live_die]

nothing seems to gets throu to her

[OneBabyBoy]

nothing seems to gets throu to her

Yeah I guess when I think back to when I was 14 I didn't listen to anyone either. Although I didn't punch and kick anyone. Maybe she needs to speak to someone as it looks like she has lots of anger. Until then I hope she improves or at least keeps away from Alyvea and Dianne. I know it must be stressful for you cause they are all your family :hugs:

[hayleysmummy]

hi everyone how are you all just wanted to come and say hello while my dd is having a sleep dont you love it when they are asleep thats when they are at their cutest :)

[she_rambles]

Hmm, having anger at 14 is one thing, but belting little children that are barely quarter of your age, let alone half your age, is quite another, Jess! Have you told your own parents about that? Jeez, if that was my sister touching my son like that, I'd smack her in the face and probably worse! I know violence isn't the answer, but maternal instincts are something to be reckonned with!

I try to get my son out of the house most days of the week too, OneBabyBoy ... well at least a few times a week. I meet up with one of the other BubHub mums and we take our kids for long walks twice a week, on Wednesdays I normally just go on a quick walk somewhere (like a local park), and Sundays we go shopping. :D It's not just for his sake, I need the stimulation (and exercise!) myself! What are you planning to study?

And hello Hayley's Mummy! I LOVE when my son is sleeping! He used to wake every two hours in his first couple of months and it was such a nightmare! He's nearly seven months now (and has been sleeping pretty much all night long since he was three months), but when I think back to when he'd just been born ... I'd lay in bed feeding him and just think, "How am I going to get through this?". I think those sleepless nights were the times I hated my ex the most - I just wanted to punch him and scream how dare he leave me to cope with all this on my own!! I still have fantasies about hunting him down just to smack him!

[Veritas]

I'm a SAHM so far. I have a few plans though, to study and different stuff.

Me too... waiting on mid year uni offers... so :fingerscrossed:

Jess - thats terrible hun.... I hope your sis wakes up to herself soon, for everyones sake....

[merlottes]

:wave: Hi
I hope you all don't mind if i join in
I'm another SAHM i have 2 girls but with all fingers crossed i will be going back to tafe part time soon.

Jess:hugs: i have no idea what i would do if that was my sister i hope she grows up

[jess_live_die]

aww thanks ladies yo make me feel happier :hugs:

[she_rambles]

Arghhhh ladies! Don't just say you're going to 'uni' or 'TAFE'! That's so VAGUE! You could be doing anything from floristry to learning to speak Swahili! What are you actually doing there?!

Example - this is true for me! I'm studying from home, doing two correspondence courses. One is TESOL (Teaching English to Students of Other Languages), and the other is a Freelance Writing course (though hoping to finish that in two months at the latest). I finished university a few years ago with a BA Hons, majoring in medieval history. Not that the stupid thing got me anywhere!

I don't know why I chose those two freelance courses. I was working in Japan as an English language teacher and thought it would be nice to take DS to Portugal to do a stint teaching there, so I wanted the TESOL for that .. paid a heap of money to get the qualification and now I've kinda changed my mind. Hahaha. The Freelance Writing is just because I love writing and thought I'd see if they could teach me anything I didn't learn at uni. I'd love to be a freelance writer but it's so hard to get a break if you haven't already been published .. vicious circle, that one. o.O

[Veritas]

Well if I'm accepted I'll be doing B. Nursing... long term goal to be a midwife....

I'm also studying to be a doula by correspondence, and have a business degree on hold for this year... but I will drop that (just about finished first yr) if I get into nursing...

[Amberlea]

I can't stand him. At the moment, all interactions with him annoy me, and I don't want to have anything to do with him outside of our son. I mean, he still walks into my house after dropping off Mr Chicken for access, and goes straight to my fridge and cupboards, and having a look at what he can eat! And I have to ask him to go home, because he wont just LEAVE.

^^ sounds like my ex Pobble - I see him for two seconds and wish I had a pair of steelcaps on to kick him in the head with, he irks me that much... but jesus - if he ever walked through my front door without me inviting him in (and I don't anymore and won't ever again) I'd have the cops on his a*se so fast he wouldnt know what hit him.
That's downright rude of your ex to even set foot inside your front door let alone open any doors/appliances.

Jess : Your sister really needs to grow up/get anger management - as much as I understand why you lost your cool with her - it probably wasn't the best thing to do in the situation ... but you have a right to protect whats yours. (I'd probably have done the same thing - I would have shoved the kids outside first so they didnt have to see it :D)
Id be laying the law down to her and letting her know that she isnt welcome in your house unless shes going to respect your "no touching my children" rule!

Onto the studying topic.. I can only wish I was doing something of interest.
I wanted to do a diploma in Child Advocacy last year - but due to small numbers they merged it with youth work - and the study load was way too much for me to handle whilst working.

Im hoping to join the police academy in the next two years - so next year I want to study something law related (ie: child advocacy, parole officer, etc) - should be a bit easier because my youngest will be at school then.

Always wanted to be a forensic scientist.. but I only completed year 9 and I need passes in two branches of science at year 12 level to even get into the course lol.

Woops - I just rambled on way too much sorry!:laughing:

[Pobblebonk]

Okay well I'm not a SAHM. I'm studying full-time at uni doing a Bachelor of Education (Primary & Middle School).

My old work has just offered me my job back with a whole swag of perks and it means that I can still go to uni, and work flexible hours mainly from home. (See my other post in the Catch Up Chat thread).

And I got a CLS scholarship - yipee!

[jess_live_die]

thanks yea my kids didnt see nothing i would neva let them see that stuff

[jess_live_die]

im a SAHM :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

[Veritas]

And I got a CLS scholarship - yipee!

Congrats hun... :smiliedance: ... I've got my :fingerscrossed: for one too!!

[OneBabyBoy]

Congratulations Pobbles!!! And good luck Karrie :fingerscrossed:
I think it's inspiring to see people studying and working at achieving their dreams especially when you have a full time job as a mother and some have to go to work aswell!! Very inspirational and motivating. I was worried about handling the work load while having DS at the same time but now I'm not. Good on all of you :D :smiliedance:

[she_rambles]

Amberlea - rambling is good. When someone else does it, 1) gives me something to read! and 2) I feel less of a tool for my own long windedness, hehe. Oh, a friend of mine is a forensic investigator in Canberra. She once found a boob print on a hotel wall - I think it was the highlight of her career so far!

Pobble, what's a CLS scholarship?! Congratulations whatever it is. I'd applied for a postgrad scholarship when I graduated from honours (I'm from Adelaide so needed the financial backing to do a PhD in Perth) but never got it, so I couldn't do the PhD I had lined up and moved to Japan instead. Probably a good thing, I wouldn't have a son if I hadn't gone to Japan. ;)

Kaz, did you get into midwifery stuff because of your own pregnancy, or was it something you'd wanted to do before that? I've had a few moments of thinking I wouldn't mind doing it ... when you've just had a baby you feel so inundated by it all I think it's hard not to think "man I should make a job out of all this myself"!

[Veritas]

Kaz, did you get into midwifery stuff because of your own pregnancy, or was it something you'd wanted to do before that? I've had a few moments of thinking I wouldn't mind doing it ... when you've just had a baby you feel so inundated by it all I think it's hard not to think "man I should make a job out of all this myself"!

I had always thought it was something I'd like to do some day, but having had Pip and going through my pregnancy and birth just cemented it for me.... and has given me the motivation to get off my butt and work towards acheiving it!

[scorpio83]

Oh, a friend of mine is a forensic investigator in Canberra. She once found a boob print on a hotel wall - I think it was the highlight of her career so far!


LMAO! :laughing: Imagine asking for sample boob prints from suspects!:laughing: :laughing:

[OneBabyBoy]

Oh, a friend of mine is a forensic investigator in Canberra. She once found a boob print on a hotel wall - I think it was the highlight of her career so far!

:laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

[she_rambles]

I'm not sure I could do it ... I'd end up getting too clucky and doing something stupid like having another 10 kids of my own! I got over it after a couple of months and now I'm just happy to play with my own boy ... but I still don't 100% know what I'm going to do with my future, and it scares the hell out of me.

For the single SAHMs here, do you ever worry about what you're going to do once bub hits 6 and the government says you need to start looking for a job again? Does anyone here think about that? I just think that's one of the kinda harder aspects of being a single SAHM. Married/partnered SAHMs don't end up getting that pressure from outside the family, they can just continue on doing that if they want.

Having said that I don't think I'd want to be a SAHM for too long or I'd get bored. Still, it'd be nice to have more of a choice in the matter!

[scorpio83]

My problem is I have too many things I want to do. Having had my DD at a fairly young age, there are things I wanted to do but never got to....I figure when she starts school, it's my time to try jobs and study different things until I find something I love. Even if it means working a job I don't particularly like in order to keep a roof over our head and food on the table.:thumbsup:

[OneBabyBoy]

For the single SAHMs here, do you ever worry about what you're going to do once bub hits 6 and the government says you need to start looking for a job again? Does anyone here think about that? I just think that's one of the kinda harder aspects of being a single SAHM. Married/partnered SAHMs don't end up getting that pressure from outside the family, they can just continue on doing that if they want.

Having said that I don't think I'd want to be a SAHM for too long or I'd get bored. Still, it'd be nice to have more of a choice in the matter!

I don't know that many single people would be SAHM's for 6 years. It would be so hard to live on such a low income for that many years. Possible but hard. Looks to me like most of the SAHM's here have babies and thats why they are SAHM's and/or have part time jobs and studying. And if someone does want to stay at home till their child is school age and can manage that whether single or partnered then I think that's awesome too.

There really isn't enough time to get bored. I haven't once been able to say I was bored.

[tyler's mum]

hey all:wave:

I'm not planning on goin back to work till tyler is at school:no:

Yea i get a low income, but i make do and tyler never go's without.

Maybe when tyler starts at day care i will get a part time job..

[she_rambles]

My problem is I have too many things I want to do. Having had my DD at a fairly young age, there are things I wanted to do but never got to....

I'm sort of similar in that there's a heap of things I want to do ... although I'd spent my life planning to be a historian, felt like it was just in my grasp ... not getting the scholarship I so badly needed was such a kick in the guts for me, all my supervisors from uni were so shocked because they all thought I'd get it no problems. :thumbsdown:

Since then I've just lost interested in studying history again (wish I'd just kept it as a hobby like a friend of mine ... she studied geology instead, and basically just left uni and went straight into a job where she's getting paid $80,000 a year, and that's just the starting wage!). And now there's a heap of different things I keep thinking, man, I should try that.

So now I'm enrolled in two completely different correspondence courses, plus I'm trying to devise a small business plan with my mum. :D

I was actually really worried when I got pregnant because I thought it'd stop me doing things I wanted to do (bub is now six months, I'm 25, so it's not like I was that young, but still way younger than I would have liked). I still really want to do a heap of travelling, so instead of giving up on that I'm just taking bub along for the ride. We're going to NZ in September then Vietnam in January. :D

[Pobblebonk]

Wow! This thread exploded while we were off having Naughty MSN Chat Conferences. "hot potato... hot potato" :laughing:


Congrats hun...

Thanks! I have my :fingerscrossed: for you, too!


Congratulations Pobbles!!!

Thanks!


Pobble, what's a CLS scholarship?! Congratulations whatever it is.

Thanks! It's a Commonwealth Learning Scholarship. It's $1060 per semester.

[MissBrightside]

Wow sounds excellent Pobbles, congrats!

I do worry about going back to work when my youngest is 6, I have 3 more years. I am working part-time atm but it's not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life. I know this may seem like a bit of a cop-out but at the moment I feel like I can't find or do a job that I would like to as my DS1 is at kinder and they have 3 half days, which makes it hard to work around.

Im thinking Id like to be a teachers aide, and have had thoughts about maybe going back to uni to become a kinder teacher. I used to be a registered Div2 nurse but decided it wasn't for me anymore. I just have ideas floating around in my head and I really should just get off my butt and do it. I know I can do it I just get a bit scared about big changes, or what if I don't like it so i put it off.

[oleander]

Congrats on your scholarship Pobblebonk!:yelclap:

[Pobblebonk]

Wow sounds excellent Pobbles, congrats!

Thanks!


Congrats on your scholarship Pobblebonk!:yelclap:

Thanks!

[she_rambles]

Is anyone watching Mums and Bubs on TV and finding it kinda boring?

Admittedly I don't normally watch day time TV, so maybe the show is just standard day time and I don't "get it" ... but I've made the effort to sit through the first thirty minutes and ... well, I'm on the computer and just did a load of washing and am kinda thinking maybe I'll go pick my nose or something.

The women just seem really flat and like they're struggling to participate, and I don't think they've actually said anything useful yet ...?

[scorpio83]

Agreed. I turned it off after 5 minutes!:thumbsup: