Pregnant Step-daughter

[rollercoastermum]

My step-daughter is 15yrs of age and has around 7 weeks to go until she has her baby :thumbsdown:

She doesnt live with us but we have just asked her to as she has no real home and cannot live with her mum.. and if she does move in with her Mum there is a huge chance that family services will take her baby due to lots of issues there.

I am doing the best I can to help her but have backed off alot as it was causing me lots of stress and my children at home need me to be healthy and able to care for them.

The poor little baby has nothing set up for him and ready to use.
I have washed the clothing that I have here for him and we also have a cradle and bath but there is no where to set it up.

Half of me wants her to live here and half of me doesnt as it is sure to increase the stresses of the house. I just want my step-daughter to have the chance to be a mum to her baby.

I have asked her a few times to bring the items around that she has so hat I can wash them for her but this has not yet been done...:thumbsdown:

One can only TRY I guess..

[punkbaby]

Tammy at least she knows your there! I know that i would have loved someone offering their support when i had dd even though i was alot older i was still alone

If she knows you are there for her even just as a sounding board for advice thats all you can do

You have to do whats right to keep your house hold happy a well which is really hard to do when your worried about your step daughter as well!

I cant give any advice...i guess the hardest part for you is waiting i hope that things work out for her as its obviously going to affect you as well :)

:hugs:

[rollercoastermum]

Thanks for your reply.

I wish that I could really get it into her head that moving in with us is the best thing to do.:fingerscrossed: she'll realise this soon.
It is really frustrating.
I am not stressing over it like I did a few months back but am trying to keep it on an even keel.

And I need to also think of the rest of the house I know...which I am...

Thanks I'll keep updates coming as I get them.

[pinkandblue]

Hi

She also may have too much pride to want to move in with you. I know at 15 I thought I could do anything and didnt need help from anybody. If you had problems with her in the past, maybe she is scared she'll get the 'i told you so' thing aswell.

Natalie

[she_rambles]

As you say, all you can do is try.

Don't try and pressure her as she might think you think she's unable to do it on her own, and at that age ... well, I'm sure you can remember what it's like. At 15, we know everything!!

Just let her know you're there to help and have a bed and helping hand if she needs it. If she makes the decision for herself (and knows it's an option), she's probably a lot less likely to cause stress when/if she does move in.

good on you for welcoming her into your home even though you're worried about the stress it might cause, too.

[rollercoastermum]

Hi

She also may have too much pride to want to move in with you. I know at 15 I thought I could do anything and didnt need help from anybody. If you had problems with her in the past, maybe she is scared she'll get the 'i told you so' thing aswell.

Natalie


sorry she has no pride...
and I feel she knows that she needs help.

[luckie_me]

Maybe she is waiting for someone to tell her in a asking kind of way, He dad maybe. I know when i was young i was a little afraid of making choices even over the smallest things a help from my dad was all i needed!
I dunno She would be very scared.