hummingbird
02-01-2006, 10:07
Sort of opinion seeking, sort of whinge.
We live in Sydney, my parents and sister on Central Coast (40 mins away) and my DH's parents and family in Newcastle (a further 45 mins away).
I am due early April and was planning on having a baby shower early March at my parents place on the Central Coast (this is the only time we can do it). They have recently renovated thier house, are on acerage and have put in a pool. I thought it would be a good location as it is in the middle for girlfriends/family coming from Sydney and Newcastle. Also I would feel more comfortable being at my parents place. Mum is very accomodating. Also our family is humungous (seven aunts, lots of cousins etc), DH's is teeny-tiny (only a brother, aunt and one set of grandparents)
My MIL would like to throw her own baby shower for me in Newcastle. This is her first grand child and she has been waiting for this baby forever. She has shrines of photos of her tennis friends and other friends grand children in their house and has always been invited to their baby showers / weddings etc over the years. I think she sees this as an opportunity to return the favour and be really proud of the fact she has a grand child on the way herself.
To be honest, she is a lovely woman, but she does get on the nerves a bit and we are both contol freaks (Aries women!). I think its silly to have two baby showers and am more than happy to have anyone she wants to come to the one at my parents. Although I know she would prefer to host her friends in her own house.
I am just not keen on attention at the best of times, let alone from women who I do not know (ie the tennis friends) and two baby showers within a few weeks of each other is a bit OTT. I don't want to drag my poor mother up for one when she will be hosting one a few weeks later.....I think I am going to have to bite the bullet and let her have her fun..
Am I turning this into something personal because we don't get along that well and I like to be in control and hence just let it go?
We live in Sydney, my parents and sister on Central Coast (40 mins away) and my DH's parents and family in Newcastle (a further 45 mins away).
I am due early April and was planning on having a baby shower early March at my parents place on the Central Coast (this is the only time we can do it). They have recently renovated thier house, are on acerage and have put in a pool. I thought it would be a good location as it is in the middle for girlfriends/family coming from Sydney and Newcastle. Also I would feel more comfortable being at my parents place. Mum is very accomodating. Also our family is humungous (seven aunts, lots of cousins etc), DH's is teeny-tiny (only a brother, aunt and one set of grandparents)
My MIL would like to throw her own baby shower for me in Newcastle. This is her first grand child and she has been waiting for this baby forever. She has shrines of photos of her tennis friends and other friends grand children in their house and has always been invited to their baby showers / weddings etc over the years. I think she sees this as an opportunity to return the favour and be really proud of the fact she has a grand child on the way herself.
To be honest, she is a lovely woman, but she does get on the nerves a bit and we are both contol freaks (Aries women!). I think its silly to have two baby showers and am more than happy to have anyone she wants to come to the one at my parents. Although I know she would prefer to host her friends in her own house.
I am just not keen on attention at the best of times, let alone from women who I do not know (ie the tennis friends) and two baby showers within a few weeks of each other is a bit OTT. I don't want to drag my poor mother up for one when she will be hosting one a few weeks later.....I think I am going to have to bite the bullet and let her have her fun..
Am I turning this into something personal because we don't get along that well and I like to be in control and hence just let it go?