trying after first miscarriage

[littlerayofsunshine]

hi,
i just experienced my first miscarriage on the 29th of march. i was 17 weeks and there was no heartbeat. i then had a DnC 2 weeks later. ive neve3r been so hurt and down in my life as im only 18 and this is my first pregnancy. i took it really hard. i was wondering what everyone thought about trying again straight away and how long to wait before trying. :fingerscrossed:

Amber

[Bron]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a terribly difficult time. My thoughts are with you as you give yourself time and space to grieve.

As for trying again, it is really up to you. Most doctors recommend that you wait until you've had 1 period at least. Although there are some people on bubhub who tried again immediately, and had successful pregnancies straight away.

Personally, I needed a few months to grieve. I was very stressed, particularly after my first miscarriage, and I really needed to give myself time to recover emotionally as well as physically. We waited a couple of months.

Very best wishes to you. You are in my thoughts.

[littlerayofsunshine]

thank you very much.
right now i cry at the drop of a hat about everything that has to do with a baby but even though i know i should wait and give my mind and body time to recover and grieve i dont no if i want to wait. all ive ever wanted was a baby.
Amber

[Bron]

Of course you cry at the drop of a hat, you've experienced a terribly sad loss.

Trying again is entirely a decision for you and your partner. No one else can tell you what to do, we can only offer you our support and encouragement.

I recommend you talk about it honestly with your partner. There will be tears and it will be hard, but it's a decision you need to reach together.

[xpectant]

littlerayofsunshine - I'm soo sorry to hear of your loss - 17 weeks is a long time to bond with your baby. Give yourself time to grieve so your next baby will have a stress free environment to grow. I hope you fall pg again soon.

[Adria]

Im am so sorry to hear what you have been through.
As bron said it is perfectly normal to cry at the drop of the hat. Sometimes, it's hard to be motivated to do anything.
We lost ours at 8 weeks and although it was my second pg and im currently expecting our 2nd child in 10 weeks, i still get up set over the one i lost.
We did wait until my first period and then started to try and took 3 months, we were ready to try straight away.
Everyone is different just be guided what you feel, 17 weeks, into a pg is nearly half of it, so many mixed emotions you must be feeling.
Becoming intimate again with your partner can also be hard as it brings back memories.

[iluvmeboyz]

im so sorry for your loss :hugs:

[keenansmummy]

I am sorry to hear about your loss, 17 weeks is an exceptionally hard time to lose your baby, a close family memer had this happen and it was awful to watch her go through something so difficult so my heart goes out to you and your partner.

Trying again is a completely personal thing, I thought I wanted to be pregnant the minute I could however after that first period I decided to wait another cycle or 2 because it just didnt seem right to me.

it is entirely a personal choice but i do have to agree with xpectant, you need to give yourself time to come to terms with what has actually happened so you can enjoy your next pregnancy without added stress so you and your baby can prosper from a non stress healthy environment

take care and I wish you all the best