Help with MY seperation anxiety

[funfarrell]

I have a six month old and i am going back to work 2 days in February. She is enrolled in childcare. Every time i think about it i can't stop crying. I don't want to leaver her for an hour let alone a day. It's giving me headaches and sleepless nights. It's also spoiling my enjoyment of her as each time i look at her i think about how i have to go away from her. Does anyone have any advice on how to overcome this?:(

[nemosmum]

Big hugs to you, this is soooo hard I know coz Ive been there and I have to say it does get a little easier (But you never completely feel good about it iykwim)

I started back two days a week when O was 8 months old and at first I liked getting back to my old job but as O got older I missed my time with him more and more :(

As it happens I am going back full time next year for about 10 weeks to help us get our home loan quicker (Save more $ etc) and then I will return to three days after that but I am dreading it and dont want to think about it too much.

All I can say is think positive thoughts, think about why your going back to work and concentrate on making your other days with bub enjoyable.

Again Big hugs :)

S

[funfarrell]

Thanks Orlando's mum. When i think about why i am going back to work i feel even more selfish. I feel i am doing it so we can afford the luxuries. I could stay off on DH's wage but then we couldn't go out ever and i'd be walking around like Bob geldof forever. Should i just put up with that and stay at home? Am i being selfish?

[nemosmum]

No your not being selfish, but it is natural to feel like you are.

Like you we could probably scrape buy on DH's wage but I really want to get a home of our own and thats something for Orlando which I think is the only reason I am sacraficing my precious time with him.

Dont beat your self up about it too much, at the same time I know its hard to just let it go............I miss O so much and he is only in the next room to me as O comes to my work!

I just feel really jealous that he is having fun without me, or experiencing things for the first time and Im not there to see it etc.

But I make the choice to work to give O a better start in life, if thats selfish then I guess I am LOL but dont we all try to make the best choices for our family? and in the end thats all we can do.

FF you have until feb...........enjoy your time and think positive "Im very selfless, I am doing this for my family" etc etc :D

[brookey]

hey funfarrel,

I'm in a similar situation...my baby is 6 months old now and in February i will be returning to Uni which will be just in time for my 'prac' which is 4 full days of unpaid work a week (9-5pm) until the end of June!!! So 4 months of being away from Maya for 4 days a week. :( :( :(

Its my last year of uni and if i get it done it means we will have more money, the means to buy a house, and nothing holding us back from travelling and a better more fulfilling life.

I too have had alot of crying and separation anxiety over thinking about going back, ive changed my mind 4 times too...but now its set to go so i have to go back.

The only thing that has helped me is to think itll get us ahead quicker in all our dreams.

[Refresh]

It is natural to not want to be away from your baby. I think that if you feel this strongly about it (which is lovely by the way:)) that you should think about putting it off for a bit longer. You can always get more money in the future but you can never turn back time with your kids:)

[xkwzit]

Hi Funfarrel
Sorry to drop in a bit late, but if going back to work is upsetting you so much, maybe you should postpone for a while. I think it really is a decision that you have to make with your DH, as to what will be best for your family. I don't think that anyone else can tell you what is right for you.

Best of luck with getting to the answer.