Inappropriate song for 3 year old dance class

[our little treasures]

OK I have been watching my dd do her dance routine to a song I find totally inappropriate for her age group.

The song is
Pussycat Dolls ft. William
Beep

huh huh huh huh huh, huh huh huh huh (Repeat)

Chorus
It's funny how a man only thinkS about the (beep)
You got a real big heart but i'm looking at ya (beep)
You got real big brains but i'm looking at ya (beep)
girl it ain't no pain let me looking at ya...
I don't give a (beep) keep looking at my (beep)cos it don't mean a thing if you're looking at my (beep)
ha i'm a do my thing while you're playing with ya (beep)ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Verse:
Every boy's the same since up in the seventh grade they've been trying to get with me, trying to huh huh huh, huh huh huh.
They always got a plan to be my one and only man, wanna hold me with their hands, wanna huh huh huh, huh huh huh.
I keep turning em down, but they always come around, asking me to go around that's no the way it's going down, cos they only want, only want, my huh huh huh, huh huh huh, only want what they want, but nah ah ah, nah hah hah.

Chorus

Verse2:
Do you know that no don't mean yes it means no, so just hold up, wait a minute let me put my two cents in it one, just be patient don't be rushing like you're anxious ... and two you're just too aggressive, trying to get your aaaah
Do you know, that i know, and i don't wanna go there,
they only want, only want my ha ha ha ha ha ha. only want, what they want but nah ah ah, nah ah ah!

Chorus
(Music)
Ooh, you got it bad, i can tell, you want it bad, but oh well look what you got for me, is something i, something i don't need... hey yeah yeah yeah yeah

Chorus till fade

I know it doesn't say any words but I still think it is way too grown up for dd's age!
I do let my children listen to the radio so I know she probably has heard the song before but I really don't think a 3 year old should be doing a dance to this song especially not at the end of year concert.

I want to know what do you think and I get along with all the teachers in her class and have had no problem and would love to know how I could bring this subject up. This is the first year her teacher has taught a class on her own and I don't want it to make her feel bad etc..

[our little treasures]

I put it in the wrong section, can someone move it!!

[~Emmylou~]

Are you kidding me! They have three year olds dancing to that?!

I won't even let my DD watch pussycat dolls on tv, I make DH change the channel. They don't put out the kind of message I want my daughter getting about female sexuality :no:

There's no way that's appropriate for that age group and you're right to be upset about it. I'm not sure how I would approach the teacher but I think you need to. Or maybe you won't need to because surely some of the other mothers would be feeling the same, I would hope!

[veve]

:laughing: PM me with where you want it moved .. I'll sort it out for you

(you sure its not a current news item??? ) :laughing:

xx
Jen

[stellarella]

I guess its a reflection of what kids are being exposed to in all manner of media these days.

I think its disgusting...call me old fashioned or whatever but I think its inappropriate, the same as some of the clothes little girls wear today and toys such as Bratz...:thumbsdown:

My little girl will not be wearing a boob tube nor a shirt that says "I chase boys"...nor mini skirts nor tiny bikinis, she wont be watching video hits or playing with bratz dolls...

Now lets see how well I do keeping it all from her (my future daughter that is, I only have a son right now :p ) :D

[our little treasures]

Oh I am anti bratz as well so maybe I am old fashioned.. I just don't know how I can bring it up without them getting all offended because I know it takes a while to find a dance to go with a song etc.

[Angelinalily]

I think it is inappropriate. I wouldn't be happy with that choice for 3 year olds.

Do you know the other parents well? Maybe ask around the other parents first and see what they think. Perhaps everyone is thinking the same thing, but too shy to say anything. Get some backup bascially:laughing: . If it was brought to the teacher's attention that a large percentage of the parents would prefer another choice of song perhaps that would help convince her.

Edited to add

My little girl will not be wearing a boob tube nor a shirt that says "I chase boys"...nor mini skirts nor tiny bikinis, she wont be watching video hits or playing with bratz dolls...I agree with all of those points, so maybe I'm just old fashioned as well lol.

[clarebear1983]

yikes!!! thats bad!!! no 3 year old should be dancing to that!!

ACtually sometimes i find costumes that my dance teacher lets them go out on stage in a bit inappropriate (little bikini tops and bottoms)..............................

[our little treasures]

I did bring it up today and discovered that 1 child was pulled out because of this reason another mum had pulled the words of the web and said it was bad. I sort of mentioned it to another but she is a grandma and didn't really say much as she didn't know the song..

I might just make it my mission next week to find out how many would be behind me if I was to say something.

[MissSparkle]

It is inappropriate for 3year olds to be dancing too.....however is it possible the dance teacher chose the song without really listening to the lyrics?
Ive danced all way life (professionally) and at a young age I danced to songs that were possibly inappropriate but really is was just about the rhythm, tune and choreography that went with it etc.............and I love little dancing costumes.....some may be skimpy but they are adorable....I still have all of mine!

[Angelinalily]

Does the teacher know that was the reason a child was pulled out of the class? What did she say about that?

I think as long as you know a few parents are behind you, you should go to the teacher and just calmly state your collective concerns. See what she has to say.

And ditto to the following quote, maybe the teacher has not really thought of the lyrics at all.

.....however is it possible the dance teacher chose the song without really listening to the lyrics?
Ive danced all way life (professionally) and at a young age I danced to songs that were possibly inappropriate but really is was just about the rhythm, tune and choreography that went with it etc

[Ashleigh<3]

Some people out there make a living by writing degrading, repugnant lyrics, then they sell them for insane amounts of money to hotto chicks who can shake their booties on tv and pull a crowd.

All the fans scream, "Oh I love you, I love you, you guys are so unique", when infact, they're are just like everything else.

I don't care if I get shot down for this one.

It's a horrid message for our kids. Yet we influence it, then at a point we cant work out why....

[our little treasures]

I have no doubt she doesn't realise because she has 5 children of her own and is truly a lovely person. So I really do think it is more about her trying to get the right beat for the dance etc..

[BlessedWithBlue]

I have danced all my life and taught while i was pregnant with ds and i mainly had tinies so they were all under 5's.
No way in the world would i ever put music on like that even for them to excercise or warm up to let alone teach them a routine to it. Very inappropriate imho.:shame:

[stellarella]

I agree that a 3 yr old doesnt understand the lyrics, but they would be absorbing it all from a very young age and I just dont think its necessary or appropriate to constantly bombard them with sexual images and messages.

[MW&S]

OMG that is appalling. I really hope she didnt listen to the words. I would def be speaking to her and the other mums!

[our little treasures]

I just want taht kind of thing for dd. I want to look back at her videos and not cringe. Also how much longer does she seriously have left to want to dance to happy hi 5 songs

[Natsmummy]

Some people out there make a living by writing degrading, repugnant lyrics, then they sell them for insane amounts of money to hotto chicks who can shake their booties on tv and pull a crowd.

All the fans scream, "Oh I love you, I love you, you guys are so unique", when infact, they're are just like everything else.

I don't care if I get shot down for this one.

It's a horrid message for our kids. Yet we influence it, then at a point we cant work out why....

Very well said - couldn't have put it better myself!:yelclap:

[EskimoMumma]

I can't believe that. I really can't.:no:

I also cringe everytime I hear Christina Aguielera "candyman'...

[Shanaynay]

3 year olds?!?! It's not even appropriate for 12 year olds to dance to!!!

Count me in as old-fashioned too :thumbsup:

[Nowhere]

i agree she may have picked the music with out thinking about the words I know when i was dancing and teaching i often didnt think about the words

if you are concerened would talk to her as early as you can as she wont want to change music once the dance is underway

[GraceUnhearing]

Some people out there make a living by writing degrading, repugnant lyrics, then they sell them for insane amounts of money to hotto chicks who can shake their booties on tv and pull a crowd.

All the fans scream, "Oh I love you, I love you, you guys are so unique", when infact, they're are just like everything else.

I don't care if I get shot down for this one.

It's a horrid message for our kids. Yet we influence it, then at a point we cant work out why....

i agree 100% with you Ash :)

they should be dancing to say something like the wiggles hehe

thats a terrible song for 3 years old to be dancing to.
i really think you should say something to the teacher about it.

[No2WhereAreYou]

Totally inappropriate, does the teacher know anything about early childhood?
I have been in childcare industry for 11 years and had 3-5 year olds sing Pretty Fly for a white guy and other inappropriate songs.
we always made sure these songs were left outside of daycare.
I would ask if the teacher has a working with children check?
maybe if the teacher liked the tune, she could have only the instrumental and cut out the lyrics.
I believe the children may already have been exposed to this type of music, its hard not to, and the majority may not know what it is about, but you would be surprised how many will get what the song is about by watching the video clip or talking to school aged siblings.

Dance is about rythm, so I say use the tune and not the lyrics!

Hope all goes well :)

[our little treasures]

Well I am going to have a chat with the the head master of the dance school! I have really thought about it and if I don't say anything how are they supposed to know someone is unhappy!

So I will let you all know after Saturday!

Thanks for all the replies at least I know that I am not being too strict!!

[mim1]

Definitely very inappropriate! The dance teacher probably likes the song and thinks it works well for a dance piece and doesn't realise that the children will sing the words and that the words are completely inappropriate!

There was a video on funniest home videos the other week with a dad trying to get a 2 year old to sing twinkle, twinkle and that made her cry, she said that she wanted to sing Jimmy Barnes instead. Call me strict, but what is a 2 year old doing knowing any Jimmy Barnes songs? Children need to learn children's songs with words and concepts they can understand, not songs for adults (even if the lyrics aren't suggestive). I'm not bagging that parent specifically cause I'm sure it's common, but we really need to encourage our children not to listen to songs intended for adults.

[Moorish]

I think it is inappropriate. I wouldn't be happy with that choice for 3 year olds.

Do you know the other parents well? Maybe ask around the other parents first and see what they think. Perhaps everyone is thinking the same thing, but too shy to say anything. Get some backup bascially:laughing: . If it was brought to the teacher's attention that a large percentage of the parents would prefer another choice of song perhaps that would help convince her.

I totally agree that it's inappropriate to be dancing to such a song. There are PLENTY of songs out there with great beats and more appropriate lyrics. My kids watch Rage/Vid hits etc but we watch it with them and change the chanel as we choose fit for certain songs. There's no way I'd let my 3yo dance to that song. I don't know if it's too late to change the music or not, but I'd definatly be having a quiet chat to the teacher to let her know your concerns.


I also cringe everytime I hear Christina Aguielera "candyman'...
OMG I just love that song but the radio version is beeped so I just had to look it up! Well I saw the film clip and the lyrics UNCUT and holy cow! Although gotta give the girl snaps for her music, just love it and she has a little more class that the Pussy Cat Dolls I think.:D

[kiah]

I have to say it's not the best choice of song for little ones.

When i was a teacher i was very careful about the songs i chose for my little ones to perform to at the school fete. :yes:

[MCNmummyof2]

I agre that its inappropriate. I ended up watching something on SBS last night about the oversexualisation (if thats a word!!) of our children, was very interesting

[Pippi Longstocking]

Wrong wrong wrong! I pulled my daughter our of her dance classes when she was 10 because one of the songs she had to dance to was that stupid humps song by the black eyed peas. She didn't even have lovely lady lumps for crying out loud! :shame:

[mum2my4]

Wrong wrong wrong! I pulled my daughter our of her dance classes when she was 10 because one of the songs she had to dance to was that stupid humps song by the black eyed peas. She didn't even have lovely lady lumps for crying out loud! :shame:


:eek:

[Duchessa]

Gawd - I'm horrified! I would be writing letters to the management of the dance school. That is unbelievable!

[bronny-jane]

im going to pretend i didnt read the bratz comments:D my dd's love them, and i think their funky...

but that music is so wrong to teach them too... im no prude, what kind of moves are they doing to it:eek:

[ikis84]

That is terrible! I wouldn't let a 10year old dance to that, let alone 3 years olds!

Let us know how you go :fingerscrossed:

[reAllytee]

Yep inappropriate but it seems like the dance teacher chose it for the beats & music rather than the lyrics. She should know better especially with such littlies !

[Angelmist♥]

I think it's definitely inappropriate:thumbsdown:.

Surely the teacher can hear the lyrics??

[mumofcaleb]

Yeah I definately think that this song is really inappropriate for 3 year olds to be dancing to. What the hell are they thinking :shame:

[chameleon]

Yep I'm old fashioned too. I would definitely not like my DD dancing to that song:no: There are other songs out there with a beat they could dance to, minus those type of lyrics.

[Myztik]

maybe if the teacher liked the tune, she could have only the instrumental and cut out the lyrics.

:thumbsup:

definately inappropriate.. Hope you have some luck when you speak to the head honcho :)

[mum_I'm_hungry]

That's revolting. The sexualisation of little girls is one of my pet peeves. When I want my daughter to grow up to be a pole dancer I'll start buying her Bratz and letting her dance to songs like that! :no:

[our little treasures]

Well I spoke to some of the mums and most thought it was fine but 1 mum said it was wrong so we thought we would download lyrics and have a chat with the dance teacher this Saturday.

Well I just got a phone call it seems I have to get use to gossiping, as someone had told the head of the dance school. Anyway basically I was told it is a "cutesy song"!! They are not going to change the song and that it is not inappropriate.

So I have no idea what to do about it!! I feel strongly but I am also very angry at the person who gossiped as they said I was saying the dance to it was inappropriate. I find the dance to be fine and the teacher is a great teacher but this song is bugging me!!

I was told that all songs are like that these days!!

What do I do!!:banghead: :ecomcity:

[Mummy-2-2]

stick to your instincts and pull her out.

THIS dance might be appropriate and the song a bit "old" for them, but wait till they get to 12, the dances will change and the young girls will be wearing make up skimpy clothes and dancing like trash.

Kids dont need that. go interview other dance schools and put her in a more kid friendly one.

[indigoin0z]

I guess its a reflection of what kids are being exposed to in all manner of media these days.

I think its disgusting...call me old fashioned or whatever but I think its inappropriate, the same as some of the clothes little girls wear today and toys such as Bratz...:thumbsdown:

My little girl will not be wearing a boob tube nor a shirt that says "I chase boys"...nor mini skirts nor tiny bikinis, she wont be watching video hits or playing with bratz dolls...

Now lets see how well I do keeping it all from her (my future daughter that is, I only have a son right now :p ) :D

DiTTo!!!!!

Ii wouldnt let my daughter -any age- dance to that cr@p... now, feel free to call ME old fashioned, if thats the term you need!

[our little treasures]

Well I am really angry that there was no discussion the song is staying!!:mad:

[GraceUnhearing]

Well I am really angry that there was no discussion the song is staying!!:mad:

thats sad :(

good on you for trying though sweet

[Myztik]

I agree with Stellarella too.. I'd be looking at other schools. I did dance when I was younger and our Jazz routines were to thing like little miss muffet and that was when I was 5.

[our little treasures]

Yes I done dancing all my childhood and we did great dance routines with dolls and to the pied piper etc.

I didn't mind her dancing to grease last year (which was pointed out to me) but grease isn't that blunt and out there like this song is! So it is not like I am a prude!

[Ashleigh<3]

You could contact ACA and let them know...

I'd love to see someone approaching it on the news.

[Myztik]

Your definately not being a prude!

[mum_I'm_hungry]

Go with your mummy gut! I'd pull my daughter out in a shot. Like everyone's said, there are plenty of other dance schools. I'm sure there are a whole lot of dance schools who don't consider a song all about sex to be 'cute'.

[Refresh]

I think its totally inappropriate:yes: I would say something.

I also agree with this....

My little girl will not be wearing a boob tube nor a shirt that says "I chase boys"...nor mini skirts nor tiny bikinis, she wont be watching video hits or playing with bratz dolls...