Secret Adoption from 60's & 70's

[mum2my4]

Is anyone a child from this or has a mother who had a child taken? My mum had two taken off of her and I don't know how to talk to her about it. We were told years ago and the subject has never been spoken of since. I think she found them but I am not sure if she has met them.

I don't want to say the wrong thing to her when I bring it up.

[mum33]

no offence but i didnt realise this happened to white people. i mean, there is the whole stolen generation thing in my community and my paternal great grandmother was one of those. its sad. but i never knew my GGM (she died when i was 3)

[mum2my4]

I know, my grandmother was one of the stolen generation too. My dad is having a rough time trying to track down his family and learn about their family history. I have aboriginal ancestry and know absolutely nothing about it. I want to know so much, but they are having a hard time working out where everyone came from.

In the late 60's early 70's they took babies off single white mother's too. They were blindfolded at birth and not allowed to see their babies. They were 'forced' to sign the papers. I want to help my Mum but it is hard to approach her.

Very confusing.

[Coffin Cheater]

I hope you can help her.
That is very sad and very cruel they did that to women.

[mum2my4]

Thanks, it's just such a touchy subject with her. Both these pregnancies were the result of sexual assaults. :gloomy:

I quite often think that I have a half brother and half sister out there. What if something happens to my mum? Would they know?

Maybe I might just start by asking if she has contact with them and go from there.

[mum33]

:hugs:

i hope you find them

[Kizmet]

:hugs: :hugs: I really have nothing valid or helpful to add but wanted to offer you some support! :hugs: :hugs:

[our little treasures]

My mum was taken from her family as part of the stolen generation and I know what it feels to not have cousins or aunts and uncles that grow up together and are 1st cousins..

I think you should be careful how you bring it up because it can be very touchy but at the same time it is something you all should all work through it together!

Good luck

[mum2my4]

Thanks everyone, maybe I will contact the Jigsaw place. They might be able to help me with more information. I know it will upset my mum to talk about it, I just don't want to add further to her grief by coming across as insensitive.

I am also worried that she may have tried to contact them and they didn't want contact with her, which could be why they were never mentioned again.

I might do some internet searching on the subject.

Thanks again, I know there are so many families out there affected by similar situations. I feel for you all.

[punkbaby]

I hope you find them too hopefully your mum wants to talk about it now as well I am sure that it must be something she would think about.

DH was the result of a sexual assault as well his mother committed suicide the father is out there somewhere but he doesnt want to know anything about his genetics at all so i am forbodden to talk about it to him.

My mum was adopted in secret as well and bought so to speak as happened back in those days...shes spent 40 years searching, shes still looking :( and shes nearly 65 now her adoptee parents died and took it to their grave and she only found out when they passed.

Good luck :)

[millymoo]

I just wanted to say good luck.

As a happily adopted person i find it hard to believe these terriblr things happen.

It would be good to know how it all works out.