Don't want to be a dummy anymore!!

[KaM]

Yep . thats what I want to scream some nights. .

After a year of no more then 4 or 5 hrs sleep in a row (If Im lucky) I just wish I could NOT be the dummy/comforter. Some nights it bothers me so much I dont want her to touch me .. but she wont settle or take comfort any other way . .she wakes numerous times a night and no matter what I do . .she wont go back to sleep unless she has boob. Sometimes she doesnt even suck . .just has ti sitting there. .

What can I do?!

We are currently in the process of doing a new routine through Karitane but itsnt going to wel and looks like it will be a 5 day stay for us. . but I want help . .I need help . .what else can I do?>!

[Kizmet]

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[raisingwhirlwinds]

I so feel for you. You are definitely being used as a dummy and I know how that feels.

For DS1 who was waking twice a night for a breastfeed, I finally got sick of it at around 9 months and put in a big effort at controlled crying.
Day 1
I set myself up in the hallway with a book and went to bed ready (on a Fri night). When he woke up we did controlled crying ie go in to resettle briefly, leave the room, come back in 3 mins, resettle, come back in 5 mins, resettle, come back in 10 mins, resettle, then 15 mins thereafter. He screamed the whole time for 1 hr and 30mins then went to sleep. I sat in the hallway and tried to read my book in between so I didn't get too stressed.
Day 2
Same process as above - he did it for 1 hour.
Day 3
He didn't wake up!!!!!! YEAH!!!! from here on in he mostly slept through and could be resettled if he woke up.

DS2 however did not respond to this approach and I had to do it 3 times a few months apart for it to finally work. When it did work he was just over 12 months.

I hope that this or something else will work for you, if not, I'm sure karitane will help in the long-run.

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[the_queen]

Krisseh - have you tried an artificial dummy? :) Like, perhaps put her on the boob to settle her, then slip in a dummy? Or hand-express a bit of milk onto the dummy and give it to her?

I'm sure you've mentioned this before, but I forget :o Do you co-sleep? I'm sure my boy latches on in the night while I'm asleep, I sleep through though :D

[KaM]

Its nice to know Im not alone!! I got some tips from Karitane about controlled comforting .. and have been slowling implenting them along with a routine every night.

I also received a lovely email from them and they have recommended the stay in the unit for a week so think Im definitely gonna book myself in there.. its a lot easier with help

[KaM]

Krisseh - have you tried an artificial dummy? :) Like, perhaps put her on the boob to settle her, then slip in a dummy? Or hand-express a bit of milk onto the dummy and give it to her?

I'm sure you've mentioned this before, but I forget :o Do you co-sleep? I'm sure my boy latches on in the night while I'm asleep, I sleep through though :D

Yep .. we co-sleep for most of the night but this is wear the dummy issue has come in. Ive tried all sorts of dummys. .and even bottles. .nothing works!! Ive found she keeps wanting the boob all night. .we share a smal bed and I tend to turn away from her so that she doesnt want to continusously suck . . .plus .. its doing my back in!!

[the_queen]

I do know one mummy who took to wearing (I kid you not...) a leotard to bed, so that her boy couldn't get to them :laughing: I guess when they're at an age where they are definitely not in need of the night feed, all you can do is stop access to the boob and give lots of cuddles. That's all I'd do if I wanted to stop the night-sucking. Don't allow access to the boob, then just prepare for a few nights of crying while you cuddle her.


:hugs: :hugs: good luck mate, this kind of thing is so hard :hugs:

[Pixie]

I dunno the answer I am going to try up the solids to reduce the lurve attachment and once we're in our own place trying the rocking and patting unless she is actually hungry. GL I hope Karitane works for you. You should ask here about peoples experiences.

[millymoo]

:wave: This isn`t advice just sympathy I`m afraid and fear that I have this problem now and can see myself with it for a long time unless I do something drastic but am too tired to at the mo and it actualy doesn`t get me down too much....yet.

Dummies and bottles are out for Milly too, my other two loved them and I had trouble stopping them DD2 walked around at 2-3 with a bottle and a dummy at all times, so it is all new to me and just shows how different they all are!

Keep me informed how it goes...you may be able to give ne the answer in months to come when I am over it too!