My Son

[rollercoastermum]

:angel::angel:
My son was 11.5yrs of age when he passed away in his sleep on November 20th 2005.

He is the eldest of 7 children and is missed so so much.
I love him heaps and heaps and would do anything to have him home again.

Cause of death was: Sudden Arrhythmic Death Syndrome (SADS) for more info : www.sads.org.au (http://www.sads.org.au)


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[oleander]

:hugs: I'm sorry to hear this:hugs:

[babylover111]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I cannot imagine the pain you would have and do suffer. We are all here to listen to you and support you :hugs:

[Ashleigh<3]

I am so sorry to hear. I just don't know what to say when death occurs. :( :hugs: Always here if you'd like to chat.

[CurlyG]

:hugs: x 1000 for you and your family.

[Mum&bubs]

I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. No words can heal you pain I know so here is some hugs :hugs: :hugs:

Always here if you need to chat :)

[missmum05]

I am so sorry for your loss...hugs to you and your family xxx

[kristi001]

I am So Sorry For your Loss.. :crying:

It Must way on your mind a whole Lot!

:hugs: x 10000000000

I wish I had someone Constructive to say

:crying:

[luckie_me]

So sorry to hear about ur news, i couldnt bedin to imagine how hard it is for you and ur family

[rollercoastermum]

Thanks to all for your kind words.

[BeachBaby3]

OMG I am so sorry to hear this. :hugs:

[PunkyDiva]

:hugs: for a fellow mum whose inner strength is unimaginable, incredible and inspiring.

[Hokey Pokey]

Oh I so very sorry :crying: :hugs:

[OneBabyBoy]

very, very sad :gloomy:
such a huge loss :(
I really admire your strength and courage :hugs:

[sweetsugardumplin']

all my love to you and your angel x

[Kayte]

I am so sorry for your loss :(
I cant even begin to imagine the pain!

[Gumby]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for the link to the website. I now have a better understanding of S.A.D.S.

[lovehimsomuch]

stay strong, it must be so hard and I dont know if you believe this but im sure he is still with you. You must love him and miss him so much. I havent lost a child but I lost my mum and my bestfriend when I was 14, its coming up to 10 yrs without her, it is hard, you will have your good days and bad days but please know there are people out there to help, even if it is just to listen. The grieving process is a hard one, i hope you have some good support and please know you can always come on here and talk about your feelings.
Love and light to you.
:angel:

[LoopyLyndaLou]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Nothing equals the loss of a child whether it be during pregnancy or if they are 40 years old. We never expect to have to say goodbye to them and it is hard to know we cannot protect them no matter how hard we try.

I lost our third son at birth, the pain as you will know is indescribable and this last week I thought we may be losing our 6 year old but today we got the news that his emergency mri scan showed there was nothing sinister in his brain, I have never been so relieved.

This last week has made me realise that though we promised never to take our children for granted after Thomas died it is easy to fall in to bad habits, there are so many times when we say 'no' to our boys, when we ignore their requests, when we wish they would just go to sleep so we can have some 'our' time. Never again, children are so precious and you never know when something ad is going to happen so you have to live life for them and with them.

When I was teaching one of my students died from SADS at 13 years old, it was the first time I had ever heard of it and now I think of it often and reading or your beautiful little boy makes me think even more, we just never know.

There will always be a whole in our family where your son should be, that can never be filled, I am not even going to say that time heals because i don;t think it does. I think time allows you to develop coping strategies so you can get through life. You will be happy again but you will also ahve to accept there is always going to be some sadness, the happiness will never be as carefree and innocent as it once was.

I should also imagine that with 6 other young children to care for, finding time to deal with your own grief is few and far between. I found this with just two other children to look after, when I did have moments to myself the grief would hit me so intensely, it would feel as if something was crushing my chest, i found it hard to breath and my tears would come in gut wrenching sobs, not gentle tears. I should also imagine that all his brothers and sisters talk so openly of him, and say some beautiful things that adults would never say in case they upset you (like you are nopt upset anyway!). I know when my eldest boy said somethings I would feel such pride in him, he was so honest.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Lynda xx