can you ask for specific gifts at shower?

[MammyMammy]

can you ask for particular things, or make a list for a baby shower?

I have most things already, the only real reaon i see to have a baby shower is to have a small get together with the girls and possibly to get a few bits and pieces.

only 4 large items remain on my own baby list, so are these things where people will chip in to buy for me? how does it all work?:idea:

[borntobemummy]

it's tricky to ask people for money, but you should try, maybe write it up into a nice poem to put into your invitations, explain that you already have enough of everything else.

If I have one, I want to ask people to chip in to buy some cloth nappies for bubs, we don't really need much else.

[tyler's mum]

I think it really depend on the people you ask? like will they think its rude??

I had a list of things i didnt have, because everyone kept asking me what to buy. but i never told people what to buy. i left that up to them:yes:

[MammyMammy]

ok so if people ask, they can get something from a list. thats an idea.

that sound better. I dont want cash.

If anything, I would only give people a list if they specifically asked for a list.

[niesl_bug]

We have bought the big stuff ourselves, I can tell family what we want. The other things I have put on a list and will give it to my sister - she is organising my baby shower. Then if people ask her what we need she can give them a few ideas off the list and obviously tell different people different things. I've just put small things on the list like socks, beanies, wraps, bibs, etc.

[subaruforestermum]

They have 'gift registries' for baby showers also, the same as weddings etc...so yeah you can....but Im not sure how big it will be, so it might seem pointless setting one up if its only a small shower......

[Mum&bubs]

I don't see why not. I think the list is a good idea otherwise you just end up with a whole heap of gifts but your doubling up on everything that you don't really need.

Maybe on the invite or something you could add the list and say something polite like if you were thinking of getting a present these are the things I need..

I guess it really does depend on the people who are coming though. Like family I'm sure they wouldn't find it rude- or mothers who can understand :laughing:

[Isabeau]

I put a gift wish list in with the invitations and wrote at the bottom gifts are unecessary
maybe you could add htat there will be a little baby fund jar at your babyshower if people want to contribute to the bigger items :)

[JesLiz]

you could write a list of things you need and send them out with the invites

[kirstyE]

We bought the big items ourselves because we were picky... I put a little note in the invites to let ppl know not to buy big pressies but I needed little things like washers, towels, clothes, toys etc...ppl liked that i gave them ideas and also cheaper items to buy.

[clarebear1983]

When i had my baby shower i put in a list saying "if you cant think of anything, these are the things i REALLY REALLY need" and then listed things i needed. That way people didnt have to feel compelled to buy from the list but it stressed in a nice way that i really really needed those things and if they got them they would be doing me a huge big favour. If you have big things that you need "meantion" to close friends and relatives that these are needed and suggest (or get another person that is helping you organise the party) to suggest people chip in to buy it.

From my experience though only my parents gave me big things for my babies, friends and other relies just gave the small essentials (and a few cute non-essentials)

[melbryan]

I really had everything probably too much but like alot of you I wrote it you want to bring a gift a packet of nappies would be really appreciated, I have gone a bit mental on everything else. They understood and I got heaps of nappies in various sizes. It didn't cost too much for the guests and I had it around mothers day so we made crafts for our mums or ourselves. It was really great.

[Areca]

We have bought the big stuff ourselves, I can tell family what we want. The other things I have put on a list and will give it to my sister - she is organising my baby shower. Then if people ask her what we need she can give them a few ideas off the list and obviously tell different people different things. I've just put small things on the list like socks, beanies, wraps, bibs, etc.

That's what we did.

[vvsingh]

you can also chhose to do a registry for your baby.

[~mia&ryan~]

What I did was give the people involved in organising my shower a list of things that I wanted so that if anyone wanted to know what to get they could have a look.. We didnt end up with any double ups so it worked quite well..:thumbsup:

And I didnt end up with a heap of stuff we didnt need...