how long to stay in the room?

[evolve77]

hi, just wondering how long other people stay in the room after baby is 'asleep'?

i am constantly frustrated by just having snuck out of the room and getting comfy in bed, when emma starts crying again - and i swear she had been asleep for 5 minutes before i left.
:banghead:

i usually stay 5 minutes, with a hand on her back for a few minutes (this is after either being fed to sleep or being rocked or patted). the nights i have stayed 10 minutes didn't seem to make a difference.:confused:

what do others do?

[mamabearof3]

I tend to walk out before baby is asleep and then return very quickly several times so that baby see's me leave and can see me return. A variation on "no cry" but it's worked well for us. I only pat or rock or feed until settled too rather than doing it until asleep and continue immediately if baby starts to cry.

[nic151]

i hope you get some good suggestions because i have the same problem,
i can stay in her room for an hour and she still wakes as soon as i step out the door!! i finally gave up today and put her porta cot next to the bed in our room as i have had only about 2 hours sleep a night!
i've decided i dont care if shes in our room as long as she sleeps! i've always thought this is mine and DH domain but with no sleep im to tired and grumpy for 'us' time anyway so its worth a try.:fingerscrossed:

[Chickadee]

I tend to walk out before baby is asleep and then return very quickly several times so that baby see's me leave and can see me return. A variation on "no cry" but it's worked well for us. I only pat or rock or feed until settled too rather than doing it until asleep and continue immediately if baby starts to cry.
Me too.

Good luck.

[mellyg]

This does not sound like too much fun for you.. I have one of those little blankies with the bunny head in the middle of it that I give to my daughter in bed.. This way I put her in while she is awake, but only just, and then she snuggles into the blankie.. If she is still a bit too awake I give her this and play her mobile and then walk out.. If she cries then I just keep going in and reassuring her and playing monitor until she gives in.. I find that if I was to stay in the room then this is where she would always expect me to be when she was sleeping.. Every baby is different though so good luck and I hope it all works out for you..:fingerscrossed: and you get some sleep:sleeping:

[sweetvanilla]

my DD1 was a nightmare sleeper. I didn't sleep for almost 2 yrs!

DD 2 is such a breeze.

May i suggest that, while you were placing your hand on her back and before letting go, let her sleep on her side, facing away from you,so she ca't peep that you are walking away and then snuck in a little teddie or pillow on her side, as if your hand are still there,and as if she'd feel comfort and secure,as if you are still there.

this works for me, also it is like in my culture's practice for ages, even my gf overseas still doing it!hahaha....:yelclap:

[sweetvanilla]

oh also, it could also work -as again works for me....

place your t-shirt that you have worn like that particular day tshirt, so she could smell you.

Something about mum's smell eh!!

[kristy J]

I leave the room before bub is asleep

[mummaperry]

how old is bubs evolve?
i have always said that "routine" is the best thing ever!
every night around the same time (give or take1/2 hr) i give my daughter a bath, little bit of play while we are getting her pj's on, then a bottle. I then put her straight in her cot awake. i turn on her mobile & nice soothing baby music which lasts for 10 minutes.
she will cry for a little bit so every 5-10mins or so i sneak in to see if she still has her dummy, if not i put it back in & walk straight out. i do not say anything or pat her back.
it takes a while for them to get used to what is going on but you will get there. i know it is a really trying time for you but keep persisting & it will be ok.
also i don't let my daughter play in her room during the day. i'm trying to associate her bedroom with "sleep time" so everytime she goes in she knows it's time for bed.
hope everything goes well, let me know how you go!
:)