Ahhhh! Need to vent!

[allengirl4]

While I'm watching every single thing that goes into my mouth, and checking my weight is right and that I exercise enough and that I've read all there is to read etc etc.... before even trying to get pregnant, I cannot get through to my husband that he has to be mindful of what he does as well.

He binge drinks on weekends - which I normally have basically no problem with - but now that we are going to start TTC I can't get through to him that this has to stop, and should have stopped 90 days before we start TTC because of the sperm development cycle.

I carefully mentioned not drinking too much last night before we went to a friends housewarming, and the response I got was "it's okay my boys can swim".....and a hangover this morning. I was quietly screaming inside that they might be able to swim but THAT'S NOT THE POINT. :banghead:

How on earth do you get through to them.

[Pebbles]

I know how you feel mate. When my DH and I were TTC for over a year he used to drink alot on the weekends which usually resulted in a fight every weekend. I showed him articles in books that warn that the man should not drink too much while TTC and I tried my hardest to explain to him that it needs to stop. I did everything possible to make myself healthy and ready for a pregnancy and in the end nothing worked. I was positive that his drinking was the reason we hadnt fallen pregnant. I had a son to a previous relationship so I was convinced that my DH was the problem. We went to a fertility specialist and to my shock and horror the problem was me! Turned out I have PCOS and when we got DH's sperm checked he had an above average sperm count! Ugh, it was so frustrating because after that he wouldnt listen to anything I said about drinking. He was like "Well if my sperm count is so great after years of drinking however much I like on weekends then I dont need to stop now". Eventually we fell pregnant on Clomid but unfortunately we lost the baby. It was then that our miracle happened and I fell pregnant after my m/c while waiting for my period to come back.
My story is a complicated one but I do sympathise with your situation. Unfortunately from my experience nagging him to stop is only going to cause unnecessary arguments, your body can do without the stress. As long as your partner is not drinking every day I would let it go for awhile. I know its hard but as time goes on he might decide for himself that he needs to cut down.... if all else fails get a Sperm analysis done and see for sure if alcohol has affected his sperm or not. Good Luck!! :D