Does anyone feel like they had a fantastic birth in every way? [Archive]

phineas

01-04-2007, 04:21 PM

Hi Hubbers :wave:

I was just wondering... how many mums out there are really happy about the way they birthed their babies?

Is anyone out their really happy with how it all went, not disapoointed about anything in any way?

My first birth sucked big time, and I actually feel embarrassed thinking about my second birth.

I yearn to feel at peace with a birth... will it ever happen?
DOES it happen?
Is anyone truly happy with their birth?

kiah

01-04-2007, 04:27 PM

I had 2 c-sections was very happy with both. Was happy to be alive thats all really. Then i was happy to see my children.

I was scared before i had them.

spring

01-04-2007, 04:28 PM

Mine was fantastic! I wouldn't change a thing. I think I was really lucky :yes:

stellarella

01-04-2007, 04:28 PM

I said..."Meh, some of it was good, some of it was bad"....

A lot of aspects of my birth could be improved significantly for me to feel entirely content with it. On the other hand, a lot of things were really beautiful and I feel very lucky to have had such gorgeous midwives etc.

I think I will keep having babies til I get it right, im a perfectionist. :o

I yearn to feel at peace with a birth... will it ever happen?

Maybe...

DOES it happen?

Of course for some women.

Is anyone truly happy with their birth?

I think there are quite a few women who are entirely content with at least one of their births.

Lastcenturymum

01-04-2007, 04:30 PM

The fact I ticked 'only happy memories of it' shows it was a long time ago!!

My second was awesome - 2 hour labour, no enema, no shaving, no drugs - opps forgot about stiches!! Oh well. Gorgeous daughter to boot.

After traumatic first - 6 weeks prem, pre-eclampsia and high forceps then her being in ICU for 10 days in another hospital...this was a delight.

DoubleAce

01-04-2007, 04:38 PM

I truly loved my birth experience! It's not exactly what I had planned (planned a water birth but got out before pushing began) but I was in control with what I wanted to do, my midwife was awesome and the room was very homely (birth centre). From the first day I only looked back at giving birth with happy memories.

Mummy-2-2

01-04-2007, 04:40 PM

hated all of it.

Melo

01-04-2007, 04:42 PM

I too chose: Meh, some of it was good, some of it was bad.

DS's birth was horrible and I hated nearly every moment of it. DD's was pretty much straight foward..

mum2my4

01-04-2007, 04:46 PM

My first son's birth I actually enjoyed:yes:

As they progressed they slowly got worse.

I am looking for peace too. Let's hope we all find some.:fingerscrossed:

SamanthaJane

01-04-2007, 05:14 PM

Well... it was 34 hours... and considering i had my waters broken at 9am and contractions without a break for 5 hours straight until she was born... no, i wouldn't say it was a pleasant experience :no:

nut

01-04-2007, 05:51 PM

I have had two amazing births. The first was 6 hours, the second just two. Both were natural, drug free active births in a hospital setting. Both times I felt really overjoyed and empowered.:smiliedance:

It will happen for you next time!:hugs:

EskimoMumma

01-04-2007, 05:53 PM

Now that I actually think about it I do believe I had three wonderful births. I wouldn't change them for the world :D

tru

01-04-2007, 06:01 PM

I feel very lucky that everything went as we hoped for with our natural hypnobirth experience. I was so pleased with the whole experience and care we received I wrote a thank u letter to the maternity unit staff.

I know it could have easily gone bad though - if we didn't have a great midwife or if our birth wishes weren't respected, I would feel very differently.

I hope you feel at peace with your birth experiences soon, phineas.

TabouliRasta

01-04-2007, 06:13 PM

I had PE and was induced with DD. My waters were broken and the drip inserted at 7.30 am. At 11.40 Millie was born.

I feel let down byt my lack of research and my lack of confidence in myself. After an hour and a half, I was begging for an epidural. I waited an hour for the needle man and it took 3 attempts to get it in. Before actually giving me any anaesthetic, the middies decided to check me - I was 10 centimetres:rolleyes:.

I was in the beached whale possie and pushed for an hour before having a vaccuum extraction.

It wasn't until I read Shed's birth story that I realised how different - how empowering birth could be. I intend on doing things very differently next time.

chellegoth

01-04-2007, 06:19 PM

Guess which one I picked.

reAllytee

01-04-2007, 06:26 PM

phineas

01-04-2007, 06:28 PM

Guess which one I picked.

Oh, I know, you were fantastically empowered and delirious with happiness just like me :D :D

tootiredtosleep

01-04-2007, 08:17 PM

Bad. But at least next time (yes, I am going back once more) I know what I want, and will find the right doctor to make it happen BEFORE I conceive. It's made me very determined to do everything my way.

SassyMummy

01-04-2007, 08:30 PM

Most of you probably know it by now... but I had an unwanted caesarean and it was the worst experience of my whole life.

It's bad enough that it was a sh*t experience, but it annoys me even more that it kinda ruined the entire day of DD's birth. I feel guilty that I can look back on that day and think about how I was hacked up like a piece of meat, instead of just thinking "Awww... that's the day my beautiful daughter was born."

Seekrit

01-04-2007, 08:33 PM

I wouldn't change a thing.
It hurt like all hell.. but I loved it.

♥Heaven Sent♥

01-04-2007, 08:35 PM

I am sorta happy with my first birth some parts i would have loved to change.

I LOVED my second birth and wouldnt change a thing.

~mia&ryan~

01-04-2007, 08:41 PM

I had a great labour and birth, I came out of it feeling so happy and at ease... They only thing I would change was the PPH, but that was after the birth....

I look back at that day with such fond memories..:yes:

shed

01-04-2007, 08:41 PM

I still think about it all the time and I am still not quite over it, how amazing it was, how mind-blowing it was and how well it went. I know some people think that its stupid to say how empowering it is, but it really was for me. I was very very lucky and I am grateful.

next time will be at home though. Will change a few little things but nothing that takes away from the experience.

mamabearof3

01-04-2007, 08:48 PM

All three of my births were homebirths with one to one midwifery care so I believe that is what is responsible for my births being really good.

My first was tough, very long but still at home and educated me about a lot of things, the least of which taught me I have tremendous stamina. I wouldn't change an ounce of that birth though. Many people would view it negatively though.

My second I rectified some things that were problematic with the first and had a wonderful 3 hour labour, same midwife, wonderful care, great support and my son made the best midwife attending the birth too.

My third birth was also fantastic and I want to shout from the rooftops that all women should have one to one midwifery care, someone truly tuned into you, how you cope with stress etc and someone who trusts in birthing above all else.

My second and third births were truly brilliant. I'd love to do it all over again but won't be at all, 3 is enough.

Phineas when you are planning another baby we will talk and I'll point you in a great direction

GraceUnhearing

01-04-2007, 09:01 PM

it was horrible

the drs wouldnt listen to me at all :(

they kept saying 'by the last ultrasound he was 'normal' siz'

out came my 9lb 2.5oz son a few hours later with failed suction 4 times then a bid episiotomy and forceps which cut him under his eye!

Roopee

01-04-2007, 09:47 PM

I wouldn't change any of my births for anything.

Most importantly they (the births) are how my children got here, my childrens journey into the world.

THAT being said though i have been extremely lucky to have had 4 quick and relatively easy births with no stitches , drugs or intervention with any of them. I know i've been exceptionally lucky in that regard so it makes it easy for me to say that i wouldn't change anything.

Bubble*Crazy

01-04-2007, 09:53 PM

I voted

Yup, my birth was fantastic and I have nothing but happy memories of it

both both births - one completely natural ending with a 3rd degree tear and a trip to theatre after haemorraging (sp) and passing out several times, the other induced with an epidural with no feeling to push but did it with a posterior bub! I enjoyed both immensely (if that's possible!) and would go through either option again in a heartbeat.

mochridhe

01-04-2007, 10:01 PM

Neither of my 2 births have gone to plan exactly as I'd have liked.

Having said that however, I've been ultimately happy with how they went and of course, more than happy with the result!!

The major thing with my last birth is that I now have to try to come to terms with the fact that I will never be able to experience birthing vaginally, which was an important thing to me.

kymmy

01-04-2007, 10:07 PM

I think I will keep having babies til I get it right, im a perfectionist. :o

I like that thinking :yes:

I never felt comfortable. Not only cos I was in pain but I didn't feel like I had any support, I felt very alone yet I wanted to be alone. If that makes sense.
With my first baby, I had a fantastic midwife but she left just beofre the pushing stage so I had to contend with a midwife for 15 minutes telling me to stop screaming. It was great stress relief and I wish I made use of it in the births of my boys.
I didn't like how the midwifes just stare at me :laughing: I know they are meant to observe but I felt uncomfortable about that. They didn't really talk to me.

I really want to have a water birth next bub even a home birth. Hubby is almost convinced so see what happens when we actually conceive :o

reAllytee

02-04-2007, 09:01 AM

~Candy~

02-04-2007, 09:15 AM

I've been happy with all my birth experiences..including 1 emergency c-section (that was with my 1st, I knew he was breeched and was ready for it..and I also had never had a baby before, so I didn't really know anything, therefore wasn't dissapointed).

My 2nd I went natural but with an epi because I really didn't think I could handle the contractions..I have to admitt, I didn't know much about natural birth with #2 either or how to handle contractions.

#3 and #4 were the most amazing births ever and I'm sooo glad I experienced them. I had 1hour labour with #3..had her standing up as I didn't make it to the bed...I was in shock holding her just minutes after arriving at the hosp. I remember every contraction on the way to hosp....they were dbls, then I had the tunnel..where everything stopped...before my waters breaking and baby comming! It was amazing!!!

#4 was much more controlled...contractions were good...just ones..not dbles like last time..I breathed through the lot (hyperventlated as I gave birth!!..lol, that was weird), but I feel extremely lucky to have had 2 natural births like my last 2....even though I wasn't dissapointed with my 1st 2 births...I was young and nieve back then...but as I got older, it became more special to me and I have to say...I'm sooooooo glad there was NO time for me to beg for an epi :)

*~alegna~*

02-04-2007, 09:21 AM

I chose some good some bad.

DS came 4 weeks early so that was a little daunting followed by me not being able to feel these huge contractions that we peaking off the charts. That, for me, was very very scarey as I'd prepared myself for a "painful" labour etc & it was all going way too quick. Everyone was telling me..."Oh, between 12 & 18hrs!" After my water was broken He was born in 40 mins.

So I guess I was just scared of the pace of the exercise & the middie sorta made me feel like a bit of a freak, that I'd got out of the "hard work" by not feeling my contractions, she would bring other nurses in & it'd be like "Sooo, your the one!" :eek:

but, at the end of the day it WAS quick & my recovery was instant. Got my bubba too!.:kiss:

francis

02-04-2007, 09:25 AM

My first was wonderful, my second... not so wonderful.

JATS

02-04-2007, 09:26 AM

Yup, my c-section birth was fantastic and I have nothing but happy memories of it!:D

secondtimearound2

02-04-2007, 10:57 AM

I voted

both both births - one completely natural ending with a 3rd degree tear and a trip to theatre after haemorraging (sp) and passing out several times, the other induced with an epidural with no feeling to push but did it with a posterior bub! I enjoyed both immensely (if that's possible!) and would go through either option again in a heartbeat.

First birth Bub was posterior I had every drug I could (gas, needle and epi ) and the Second Birth I barely made it to the Birth centre and no drugs until they had to stitch me up.

I'm happy that I got to experience what I have. It is just so amazing that us ladies can grow a baby in our womb, how special are we ?? It doesn't really matter how these precious little babies come in to the world. I think what matters is they are a true Blessing and it really is a miracle.:angel:

Lozie

02-04-2007, 11:08 AM

thats what i voted Ds1's birth was great nothing but fantastic memories and very pround i only needed a little pain relife
Ds2 the middies annoyed me but over all it was great as well i felt really empowered that i had no pain relife with him I have no tearing, didnt need episiotomy not intervention at all. Birth the placenta with the injection which i wouldnt change. the only thing outta Ds2 birth i would change is the Midwife i had she was a B!t(h! other than that it was great and hoping for the same with this one:D

Gumby

02-04-2007, 11:13 AM

DD1 :no:
DD2:no:
DS1 :yes: :yelclap:
1.5 hour labour. No drugs. Not much pain. Beautiful baby boy. BRING ON NUMBER 4 I SAY.........

polony

02-04-2007, 11:24 AM

I wouldn't say my birth was fantastic. It went well, but it wasn't all good, the pain kinda ruined that IYKWIM? :D

I was actually feeling undeserved of all the praise I was receiving because I never learnt to breath properly, and so in labour I was doing it all wrong.

It was strange but I felt like a failure for giving birth.

I'm over it now and proud of myself!

annsam

02-04-2007, 11:37 AM

My first one left a lot to be desired. It was very medicalised.

My second I changed hospitals and care givers for and had a fantastic birth. My birthplan wasn't followed as closely as I would have liked but all in all I cant complain at all. It was quick and I felt supported and empowered which is what I needed this time.

mumx3littlies

02-04-2007, 11:37 AM

I chose entirely happy with how things went and thats for all 3. I had one-on-one midwife care throughout pregnancy, labour and postnatal care (all of our kids were born in NZ) and I have to say that having a fantastic midwife that listens to what you want I believe makes all the difference. Me and DH got along great with our middie and we had normal labours with no complications. We have great memories of all our childrens births and I know that alot of people do not so I think we are very lucky to have had such positive experiences! :)

corriene 29
DH 31
liam 4
chloe 2
cody 1

Mummy2Noah

02-04-2007, 12:06 PM

Hated every minute!!! Even the first week of Noahs Life!!:(

mumof2angels

02-04-2007, 12:22 PM

Both my births were good and very painful, wouldnt change a thing. DD1 was 8 hrs with just gas although i asked for epi but was noone to give it, glad now. DD2 was bout 4hrs and was a wonderful experince, got to hospital at 10.30am and was 8cm she was born ay 11.34am. No gas or drugs.

Tan-mumof3

02-04-2007, 12:39 PM

I loved both my births. The only thing i would have changed is that i was induced with both of them post dates but i wish i had of waited to see if they would come by themselves.
Also wish i didn't have pethadine with dd as i had it 30 mins before she was born and it affected her after the birth.

M O P

02-04-2007, 01:17 PM

I went in to labour naturally the day I was to be induced so that was a great start for me.
I had no epidural and was able to make use of different birthing positions.
I did enjoy the pethidine and gas and husband's back rubbing.
My husband was a great support.
I had no intervention like forceps etc.
I did have 2 stitches but didn't notice them much.
Pretty happy really- hope this one is just as good.

elissas

02-04-2007, 01:18 PM

The best experience of my life. And I enjoyed it (all 56 hours of contractions!)

We did hypnobirthing and although things didn't go 100% to plan, those things were a great learning experience and at the time we recognised them as such (we wanted a water birth, no intervention, and ended up with syntocinon drip and anti-biotics, and couldn't birth in the bath because my waters had broken more than 48hrs earlier).

Other than those couple of interventions, the rest of it was drug free, and totally empowering - a fully aware and centered birth - and at worst felt like strong period pain. I felt like I grew into my womanhood that weekend.

And because DH was the facilitator (hypnotherapist), it was a great experience as a family. The 3 of us! We spent 95% of the time in hospy by ourselves and it was the most intimate, spiritual experience and our relationship grew to a totally new level.

20hrs after the birth DS was feeding well and I decided it was time for us to go home and settle into our home as a family. :yes:

Nan

02-04-2007, 01:50 PM

I yearn to feel at peace with a birth... will it ever happen?
DOES it happen?
Is anyone truly happy with their birth?
I am truly happy with mine. :yes: I hope my next one/ones is/are the same or better!!

I was going to suggest to yourself and any others who feel the same way, maybe you should go and see a psychologist who specialises in birth trauma. I've heard they are really good at getting you to talk through it and deal with your feelings. :thumbsup: Miind you, I don't think they're cheap. :(

tomtom

02-04-2007, 02:12 PM

Birth is as positive as you want it to be. I had no expectations therfore I had no disapointment. I just "go with the flow" with all three. It wasn't all "great", at times I wondered what the hell (H@#l) I was doing, but that was my experience and I choose to embrace it. I wouldn't change a thing