how can i change

[bronny-jane]

im over my lifestyle of binge drinking and gambling....its just cr@p but how do i change, i go out to relax...what can i do?

[bronny-jane]

ok im just looking for what people do for some special time for themselves..... what do you do to relax..unwind, treat yourself...i really need ideas:thumbsup:

[Shanaynay]

Well, I spend time on the net for a bit of time-out and me time.... but that's another addiction in itself :laughing: :o

Do you have any hobbies? Do you like knitting or sewing, or reading or cooking or anything?

Do you go to the pub with friends? Maybe one of them would start a sport or something with you?

In between weaning DD1 and getting preg with DD2 I was going out to clubs every Fri/Sat nights, plus out to the pub just about every weekday afternoon :eek: It was pretty bad - everytime I sat down at home, all I wanted to do is walk out the door and go and have a few drinks and sit on the pokies.
The thing that stopped all that was getting pregnant - I had to quit smoking and the only way I could find the willpower is to stop going to the pub!
But if I hadn't have gotten pregnant I have absolutely no idea how I would have broken the cycle!

Good luck BJ :fingerscrossed:

[mum2my4]

For me I have just started playing netball. I love it. Even though I am running around I find I am quite relaxed after.

From my experience it is all about replacing bad habits with good habits, and if possible avoiding situations where you will face your temptations.

Sometimes I take a bath, I took up scrapbooking but found it annoyed me :laughing: because of my lack of artistic ability.

By gambling do you mean pokies?

[kiah]

Ummmm why do u think i exercise so much...:cool:

[Shanaynay]

and if possible avoiding situations where you will face your temptations.

Totally agree :thumbsup:
It's what I had to do.

Unfortunately there's not much around where you live hey? Just like here *sigh*

[bronny-jane]

yes pokies...evil evil things:devil6:

ive just started to exercise, it does relax me, i should just walk off all my tension :yes:

i can go out by myself, with dh or friends...im not concerned... thats the problem, i want to save myself...make when i do go out something special..and only once in a blue moon..... i dont really have any hobbies:D ... i cant knit, sew.... but i do like dancing, maybe i could find a class....might have to drive awhile, but it would still cost less then going out...maybe tae kwondo -sp- or save up for a weekend at a health retreat or something... bigger goals

[javalava]

im over my lifestyle of binge drinking and gambling....its just cr@p but how do i change, i go out to relax...what can i do?

That was just like you wrote my thoughts. I do this wayyyyyy too much.

1. its bad for my health
2. its bad for our budget

but im addicted, to going to the pub with my friends, getting blotto, smoking a pack of ciggies in the 3 hours im there and then walking the streets with a bunch of drunkens after the pub closes to try and make it to the kebab shop.... then getting home around 5.

I know its bad but i cant seem to stop so please know that im here for you. Alot of mothers dont understand it. I always get riduculed (i cant spell i know :o ) for it and told that seeing i have kids i should be at home all the time. But i too enjoy it so much when im out relaxing being totally kid free.

Ill be keeping and eye on this thread. Till then have some of these hun :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[kiah]

yes pokies...evil evil things:devil6:

ive just started to exercise, it does relax me, i should just walk off all my tension :yes:

i can go out by myself, with dh or friends...im not concerned... thats the problem, i want to save myself...make when i do go out something special..and only once in a blue moon..... i dont really have any hobbies:D ... i cant knit, sew.... but i do like dancing, maybe i could find a class....might have to drive awhile, but it would still cost less then going out...maybe tae kwondo -sp- or save up for a weekend at a health retreat or something... bigger goals

U r smart and certianly good with your words...start writing a book to help peeps in similar situations as u. That's what i'm doing:thumbsup:

[mum2my4]

My partner and I used to be quite fond of the pokies you could say.

A weekend retreat sounds nice.

[Shanaynay]

Tae Kwon Do class sounds excellent!
I've actually been thinking about doing one too as I used to years ago. There is a VERY good class and instructor here in Maitland.

Even if you had to drive a fair way, if someone can mind the kiddies, then make the drive part of your treat! Get Maccas on the way, roll down the windows and turn up the stereo :D

[bronny-jane]

U r smart and certianly good with your words...start writing a book to help peeps in similar situations as u. That's what i'm doing:thumbsup:

:D a few years ago i started to write a medi evil novel...it started to turn into soft porn by page 2:laughing:

[natasha]

a few years ago i started to write a medi evil novel...it started to turn into soft porn by page 2:laughing:
:laughing: Oh i hate the way you make me laugh at the most innappropriate times!!! I just laughed and tea fell out my mouth and is now on my 'was clean' top!:laughing:

I really understand where your'e coming from Bronny. It's all just **** isn't it. My drinking is worse than ever. I hate it. Im so over it, but at the same time, i love it, love relaxing with a glass of wine. I love it and hate it. Alll just ****. I really cant give you any advice, well, I could give you the standard responses though im sure we have both heard them plenty of times.
Just wanted to say chin up girlie.Whether you beat it or it beats you, i still love ya!:p

[lachys_mama]

oh well theres a lot of money to be made in those soft porn books, if mills and boon can do it so can you!!!! i understand how you're feeling, i'm a child of two addicted parents and if i hadn't left home at 13 i probably would have ended up loving the pokies and the bottle... anyways i wish you the best of luck

[kiah]

:D a few years ago i started to write a medi evil novel...it started to turn into soft porn by page 2:laughing:
:laughing:

[polony]

I have also had an addiction to binge drinking. It has been my secret shame :no:

I don't mean to hijack the thread. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!

I will be watching this thread closely as I want to AT LEAST go one weekend without binge drinking....

I am so sick of it but I can't help it!

[bronny-jane]

its been over a week since ive had a drink or gone out... a part of me is going insane.... its hard to stop , but im doing it:D ... ive just been rearranging my entire house:laughing:

[natasha]

its been over a week since ive had a drink or gone out... a part of me is going insane.... its hard to stop , but im doing it:D ... ive just been rearranging my entire house:laughing:
WOW!!!!!!!! Jeeze!! A whole week! Bronny that's huge!!! Well done!!!:yelclap: :yelclap:

[bronny-jane]

WOW!!!!!!!! Jeeze!! A whole week! Bronny that's huge!!! Well done!!!:yelclap: :yelclap:

thanks, im getting so edgy..:banghead:

[mumslilspunks]

f it makes you feel better i too am a drinker! Ill have a beer nearly every night. ( ok everynight) specially while cooking dinner. Its sad but its the only thing that is my time . IYKWIM.
Most nights ill only have 2 or 3 but some nights ill have nearly 5 or 6.
I also have a ciggie of a night too! Just 1 or 2, but again its that time out for me. I do feel guilty but i still get up to my kids and am there for them no matter what! I dont get paro just 'happy', I havent been drunk for nearly 2years!
Ocassionally i get to go to the pookies if im lucky but i give myself a limit!
I think if you enjoy this and even though its "bad" aslong as you can control it. EG stick to a limit and if you can do that i dont see it a problem.
Sorry if it didnt help but just letting you know your not the only one!;)

[bronny-jane]

im about to head out with dh for an hour and a half.... difference, we have decided to put a limit on cash for me to blow... so hopefully i stick to it, wish me luck..
im only going to have 3-4 drinks, caus ei have a 45 minute walk to do once im back here:laughing:

[bronny-jane]

:smiliedance: i only had 2 drinks and gave myself a $20 limit to gamble....and stuck to it, i didnt even want to keep playing, we got home 5 minutes early:eek: and i went for my 45 minute walk......

were going to put aside some cash each week,, and go out once a month or 2, and only take that cash:D

[mum2my4]

:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: well done for sticking to your limit:yelclap:

[bronny-jane]

thanks, im actually really proud of myself.... getting back the power, sure it would be better if i didnt do it at all, but this is a great second choice:D

[bronny-jane]

:eek: wow i havent been out since the 10th... no drinking or gambling, i didnt realize how long it has been:D