!Help!Very attached 16month old..

[EskimoMumma]

Hi fellow mothers(and dads!)

I am after some advice..maybe even just a shoulder to rest my migraine infested body.

I have an extremely attached/clingy 16month old. I cannot leave her sight. I cannot put her down(most of the time). She will not let Dad pick her up. She will also throw a huge tantrum if I am cuddled by anyone other by her.

I am at my wits end. Some days I can handle it fine, other days all I hear is screaming. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have tried everything with her but nothing seems to work. She can play on her own sometimes and is very smart and playful but she is just very attached to me.

If I do not pick her up she is hysterical. If i ignore her, she does not stop, she just continues, becoming louder and even more unsettled. What can I do? Is this normal for her??

It makes me feel so guilty for DD2 because of how clingy DD1 is... I understand it can be hard on her having DD2 around now but what are some tips I can do about this?? Am I really alone in this? Do i just keep soldiering on and hope she will grow out of this??

Help..please..:o

[EskimoMumma]

Anyone?:confused:

[Nick'sMum]

Hi EskimoMumma,

I am sending :hugs: and kisses your way.

I just wanted to say hang in there, I really can't offer you much advice at this point as my son is only 7 months old and I have not had to deal with this yet.

But I did a bit of reseach and found some websites that might be of use and comfort, please don't think you are alone in having to deal with this.

Susan. XXXX



http://www.cyh.sa.gov.au/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=122&id=1848

[punkbaby]

My youngest is the same, i cant leave the house!! DS was the same and we did what i am doing with DD now!
DS however is shocking! (shes 27mths) Now i make DH do things with her, he baths her why i am there, or dresses her and we make it a game! If she wants something he gets it for her. We have a long way to go but i can see signs or improvement, she wont however leave with him if i am not going too she howls and sais mummy come too!
Hubby and i have worked out she is far too dependant on me, the silly part is if i have a shower she comes in with me, but if i duck out she screams for half an hour and i come home and she is quiet happy playing with dad.
Perhaps my method is the slow method but its the most stress free one for me and its just a case of me knowing to sit if she wants something, and letting DH do it! It worked with Ds so hope it works as well with DD

Good luck, i feel for you, its not easy!

[Trumpet]

My DS was like this a bit and he has started to settle down after DD was about 4 - 5mths. If I or anyone else was holding her he wouldn't come near them.

But as soon as we put her down he would be clingy and cranky if he didn't get what he wanted. I also noticed that he thought that because DD cried and got picked up that he thought that is what he had to do and started doing it. :banghead:

All I did was make sure when she was asleep or I put her under the aframe then that was his playtime and he has gotten used to it now and plays by himself until I am finished with DD. The only time he goes back to it is when he is sick but that is understandable.

I also found that the less DH plays with him is when he does it the most.

I hope this helps.