i want another bub, he doesn't

[renfrog]

hi everyone

im mum to georgeous girl fin, who will be the big 1 in less than two weeks, very proud.

lately i have been thinking alot about having another baby. i really want one, its like my body is crying out to be pregnant again. after having fin i wanted to be pregnant again, but didnt want a baby just pregnant. now i want it all pregnancy & bubba. i have talked to my partner about this, a very thought out logical conversation on both sides .
he is right, now isnt practiacal. with money being an issue, we get by at the moment so another baby on top of that. we want to buy a house next year. but when is the right time, i want to go back to work part time now so if i do get pregnant i should be able to work till the end.
i did have some issues the first time because i am overweight & i had gestational diabetes im also over 30 so this has to be considered before the next one aswell.

so if anyone has advise on this please let me know

i havent felt this way before everytime i think about having another baby it like i feel it in my soul if that makes any sense. :confused:

[jakobsmum]

Hi renfrog :)

I too had this strong urge to have another just before Jakob turned one. I think it was because he wasn't my little baby anymore. I got through this by a number of ways. My husband had just started an apprenticeship and we really wouldn't survive on his wage, Jakob began to walk and get into everything and constantly on the move and we decided to plan when we would start trying (Sept this year ;) )

I think knowing when I can begin my next pregnancy has helped immensly but I still have the odd craving.

Good luck with this and with whatever you chose :D

[xkwzit]

Hi Renfrog
You'll need to come up with a plan that you can both live with (life is full of compromise ;) ). So definately start talking, but try not to be confrontational. You both need to state your cases and you may find that your positions are not too different. It doesn't sound like your hubby has ruled out another baby, but he is concerned about having another too soon. So perhaps its just the timeframe that you have to agree on.

The great part about that is that if you can agree on a plan you can all start working towards adding to your family and getting excited about the next phase (getting healthy together, doing projects around the house, re-doing the nursery). I think that it would help you feel that you are working towards baby 2, even if your not actively TTC.

Hope this is helpful...