Keep thinking :(

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

I often think what could have been and how far along i would be now :crying::crying:

I cant handle it,its just so overwhelming.I really dont understand how im feeling or even why.It feels like there is a big void in my life,i know that i am not ready for another bub but cant help to think what life would be like.My tummy would have been growing so big now and i would have been 1/2 way there.

Why do i have to feel so sad about it?

Does anyone else feel like this?

When did you feel ready to try for another bub?

[A Party of Five]

I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way all I can do is pass some :hugs: BIG HUGS:hugs: on to you!

Angela

[hayleymummy2jakob]

i have never been in your position .
but just wanted to send you:hugs: .

[4tiggers]

I understand totally. I had a m/c 2 days before christmas. I was so sad, obviously. Fell pregnant in Feb :smiliedance: and am almost 9 weeks. I still think about how far along I would have been if the other bub had made it. I look at the thread for August (when bub would have been due) and think I should be there. I am very grateful this bub is holding on but still think about my other one. They say time heals all wounds, I hope they are right.:hugs:

[Femme la Phoenix]

:hugs: I'm still where you are, and think I always will be :hugs:

In the 11 years I've being trying for #2 all I've had is miscarriages and one live abortion (against my will) and there isn't a day that goes by that I wish for just one of them to have made it.

I've spent alot of time being angry and upset that others seem to fall pregnant so easily and seem to parade in front of me .......so far something that I haven't the pleasure to achieve.

But I got sick of my own negativity and tried to heal from all the pain. Working out why the miscarriages happened was part of this process (after I had met DP that was). I made myself a cuppa and sat in a sunny spot with a note pad and named every single baby I had miscarried and the special one. Then I bought some flower seeds (had to be seeds as it was symbolism I was after) and I nurtured them to grow......which they did. That felt good.

As easy as it is too feel really down, I put all my energy and strength into being happy and find something to be happy about every single day. Sure there are "days" but on the whole I am in a differant place now, there are always constant reminders and triggers. But I think of those little ones and ask them to guide me through this and help me achieve pregnancy :fingerscrossed: it's soon.

There are lots of organisations to help, but i have never found what I needed through an organisation. I've always found what I need and needed in my own heart.

[Herchy]

Hi there,
Sorry to hear of your losses.
I would have been due this week had I gone to term with my first.
I am now over half way with this pregnancy, but to see other people giving birth now, I keep thinking that could've been me.
I've been really good about the whole thing. It's quite suprising.
I hope you find the time to continue to grieve, and eventually find some peace in what has happened.
Best wishes for future pregnancies.
:hugs:
Nicky

[iluvmeboyz]

sorry to hear of your loss :hugs:

[SorenLorensen]

:hugs: sorry you are feeling down

today i should be 12 weeks and 4 days.
i shoudl be in my second trimester and looking forward to my 12 week ultra sound........

but its not that way, i cant help but think what i should be doing if i had not lost the baby (16th march). it is all really hard.

i cant help but think you or i or anyone really would ever not be sad about or m/c but i think in time we learn to have that seperate from or everyday life, we will never forget and never accept it really but we will learn how to handle it a bit better.

for me and my partner we are ready to have a baby as soon as we can. but this is just how we feel. you need to follow your heart and listen to what it has to say to you

HTH :hugs:

[Bumble]

:hugs: just a big hug :hugs:

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Thanks girls i feel a bit better today but still feeling very confused.

[SilverStarfish]

:hugs: I know how you feel. I should be halfway along now too :crying: I try not to think about it too much, but it's hard not to be reminded. I know two people who were going to be going to be having babies (one of them with twins) within days of what was my EDD. I'm also going to be matron of honor at another friend's wedding the same week. So while she's joyously counting down to September... I'm not. Her wedding is going to be special, but it's also going to quietly mark a sad time for me.

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

:hugs: I know how you feel. I should be halfway along now too :crying: I try not to think about it too much, but it's hard not to be reminded. I know two people who were going to be going to be having babies (one of them with twins) within days of what was my EDD. I'm also going to be matron of honor at another friend's wedding the same week. So while she's joyously counting down to September... I'm not. Her wedding is going to be special, but it's also going to quietly mark a sad time for me.
BIG :hugs: to you faeml its not a nice feeling,so sorry for your loss :crying:

[wannab]

I too am having the same fellings and thoughts as you. I'd just like to say that it will get easier as time goes on. We lost our precious baby after ttc for seven years following IVF treatment. At the time I found it very hard but also found a way help me let go. I wrote a poem explaining hoW we felt and put it in a beautiful frame. I've written it down for and hope that it helps or allows you to find your own way letting go.Hope this helps. Here goes!

Precious One

Fly, be free, our precious one,
Fly past the sea of tears,
And into the stary night,
Fly, be free, our precious one,
Fly past the stormy clouds,
And into the beautiful light,
Fly, be free, our precious one,
It's the angels calling you see,
Fly, Be free, they're waiting for you

So fly way up high,
Although I know we'll meet again,
Although it may be years,
Know this our little precious one,
We'll meet you in our dreams,
Fly, Fly, don't be afraid,
The angels will take your hand
They'll lead you up the golden stairs
Where, one day we'll meet again.
:angel:
TTC 7 YEARS
4 X IUI:bfn:
IVF/ICSI-:bfp: ECTOPIC 11/06
FET:bfn:02/07

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

So sorry for your loss wannab and your poem is just lovely,i wish i could express myself through poems.

[wannab]

Heaven Sent - I'm glad you liked my poem. Before I wrote that I'd actually never written anything in my life. I had some kind of force that just kept popping lines and words into my head. Although I'm not a really religious person. It does give me comfort at times when I need it. The fact that I have achieved a positive preg result keeps me strong. We just have to get through the next one. All the best
Wannab:hugs:

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Good luck hun i hope you get the happy and healthy pregnancy you deserve :hugs: