Doesnt like other people?!?

[Kaileysmum]

Hi everyone,

My baby girl is 10 weeks old today, we have a problem with her and other people. Whenever someone else but me or Dh hold her she crys. For example we went to a BBQ last night and when someone else held her she cryed then they passed her back and she stopped straight away. She does it all the time, its hard because people like her grandparents what to hold her and can't, and I cant get anyone to babysit her. What should I do? Has this happened to others? Will she grow out of it? HELP

[kiara]

Mum said that when I was little I never liked anyone but my mum. I did eventually grow out of it when I was about 18 months old. My grandma still to this day reminds me occassionally what a terrible child I was because I would scream whenever she came near me. So she will eventually out grow it. Hopefully sooner then I did for your sake.

[the_queen]

This is completely normal behaviour, and in fact if she WASN'T like this, you should be worried. Babies need to be attached to their main care-givers, or else they will develop an attachment disorder. You should enjoy this time - before you know it she'll be a teenager who won't want a bar of you!!!

[Refresh]

Agreed...It's not that she doesn't like other people, it's just that she LOVES you sooooo much:D: ENJOY IT!!!!!:D

[reAllytee]

Yep dont stress this is very normal !
My bubs went from only wanting daddy in the first week because he held him first i think he knew daddy was someone he could feel safe with as i couldnt hold him till 6hrs later or so as i was sick after giving birth he then changed & wouldnt have anyone else hold him not even daddy !! This continued for months & i understand how draining it is trust me bubs wouldnt even let me put him down so i invested in a baby carrier as i couldnt find a sling was the best thing ever !
Then one day arrived & he just got over it, my mum or sister could feed him no dramas & it was back to weekends being with daddy !!!
They say that bubs go through "clingy" stages not sure if thats a great word though but yeah at around 6mths they get scared of people they dont know my bubs also went through this & got over it within a few weeks, he now tries to grab people as we walk through the supermarket !!! heheheh
I have to say though i miss it at times especially when we were at the in laws & he would scream if they held him but heh i havent got the best inlaws so i thought it was great pay back !!!! ;)

[JanetF]

Perfectly normal! Babies need the familiarity of one, or a couple at most, carers. They're not into being handed around like parcels even if the rellies like it ;) If you put your baby in a sling you won't have to hand them over LOL. Remember your child is ONLY 10 weeks old. That means it's only 10 weeks since she was a womb bound creature. Nothing in the world is familiar to her but you, why wouldn't everything be freaky? Children who are kept close to their carers until such a time as they move off independently are happier and cry less. Great, huh?! :D

[miss_moe]

i was told of the 'cardinal' rule after my DD (who at the time was nearly 4months) had a very unhappy time visiting my family.

thou shalt not take a child out of their mothers arms.

so now I am make sure I hold my DD until she has 'warmed up' in a new environment or when a new person is about. and tell people not to take her from me, she will reach for you if she wants to be held.

[BlessedWithBlue]

My yds was exactly like this! he finally stopped being so clingy at about 8 months ( he is now 11 months). He would scream and cry until i took him back from who ever was holding him. I couldn't even go upstairs and do any housework cause he would scream and df didn't know what to do with him:eek: And also the minute that someone he didn't know would talk to him he would drop that little bottom lip and start sobbing until they left him alone. However ods was and still is all for daddy, sometimes i swear he doesn't notice if i'm around lol.

It's totally normal!! I definately agree, Enjoy it :D